Need help from women, on my girlfriend?????????

[sevendust1276]

I need advice???

 

My girlfriend of 5 years had asked for some space about 2 months ago, at first she made it out to be a temporary thing and said she has been in relashionships since she was 17 and needs to find out who she is?

For the first 5 days she was calling me and coming to see me everyday, and even talked about having sex and stuff like that. After about the 5th day I told her if she needed time to her self to take it so we can get back to our lives, I would say about two days after that she wouldnt contact me or return my calls nor did I see her for over a week straight?

 

We have a lease together, a car, a bussiness, and basically everything a married couple has.

 

She started hanging out with girl friends, and then talking to guys " witch she swears they were friends and said she wanted to see what other men thought about some of the problems she was having"?????

 

After I found calls on my phone to strange numbers I called a few and found out whom they were and confronted her, I asked her what is going on, I thought you needed time to find yourself and we were not over, any way she cried and told me " I love you, and want to marry you and have a family but I need time?

 

Now 2 weeks after that talk and lots of comunication later she wants to come back together and work on are lives, we will be living together again as of this coming weekend.

 

She is a 28 year old women. Just thought I would add this encase age may be a factor?

 

The other twist to this is she has been having lots of physical symtoms such as over sleeping, she sleeps about 11 hours or more a day and when she awakes feals like sleeping again, headakes everyday, body oder that is unusual, weekness.

 

I was told she can be going through one of womens many 7 year changes, witch would give all the mental and physical symtoms that she has been having?

 

I guess I would like a womens advice on her and how to be there for her now and to move on from here, and also dont whant this to ever happen again!!! Most of all!!!

[lissab113]

Well, your girlfriend is depressed. She has all the classic symptoms of depression. She is looking for validation elsewhere probably because she's freaked out about your whole future. It's sounds like she's just doing what some men do; backing off to take it all in. If you still want her in your life I think the number one thing you can do is be supportive. Let her know that you love her and that when she needs you, you'll be there. If there's any question in your mind of her infidelity, you may have to think long and hard about your hopes and fears and discuss them with her in a non-ultimatum type way. Communicate what you want clearly, and hopefully she'll do the same. PM me and let me know how it goes!