bgfrombg Posted August 23, 2004 Share Posted August 23, 2004 Today I helped my ex move the rest of her stuff out of our old place. We went back to her place cuz she had a few things that were mine. We talked for a while. She thanked me for helping her move even though I didn't have to. I told her she may think it, but I don't hate her, I don't think I ever could. She said if she was me she would. Then she told me she missed me, and she still loved me. That she had trouble laying down at night without me there by her. I told her I felt the same way, but it wouldn't work if we tryed to get back together, but in my heart I wanna try. What do I do? I have my son to think about and I don't want to hurt anymore. She also told me she had been to my brother's grave. He passed away a couple of months before we split up. She started crying. I can't take this, I want to try to make it work, but I don't think it will. and if I tryed, a lot of my family and friends wouldn't have anything to do with me anymore. I'm stumped, I'm depressed, and I'm just sick of my life, 2004 has been the worst year ever. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted August 24, 2004 Share Posted August 24, 2004 Why wouldn't your friends and family have anything to do with you if you two got back together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bgfrombg Posted August 24, 2004 Author Share Posted August 24, 2004 Well my sister has disliked my ex for a while now. She suspected that she had been cheating on me and said she would put me down when I wasn't around. Everyone thinks she is just playing me and trying to keep me on the side, just in case whatever plans she has doesn't work out. Link to post Share on other sites
a guy who knows.... Posted August 27, 2004 Share Posted August 27, 2004 Buddy I'm prolly in about the same situation.....and in all reality there is one thing that she probably hasn't told you......she hasn't found who she is......she doesn't know what being loved is.....and how to show that love back. I lived with my ex for a year and we were together for about 1.5 years. I finally just today understand that despite our "small" problems the bigger issues never got resolved and eventually tore us apart because the bottom line was she didnt have herself together enough to realize that everything i was doing to get her back was "annoying" to her. Once we finally set down to talk with everyone involved (me, her, her mom, and a neutral party) we both figured out that we had loved each other very much and it was very good between us, however we lost enough communication that it eventually tore us apart. Once we DID talk about it she realized that most of the things we argued about or things i did were "misread" by her and she went from slightly bitter to very remorseful. This happened in 4 hours, maybe im a fool or kidding myself, but she now understands that i TRULY love her and that she needs to get some counseling. I believe in the end we may get back together, but that may be to far down the road, who knows. But i went through 2 months of her saying things like that and in the end having sex, then just to hear "i dont love you the way you love me" clearly mixed signals i know, however dont fool yourself as i did that she is saying anything different than she is. It is over or she would be calling and talking about dating or getting back together. If she can tell you plainly how she feels you don needto be with her anyway. Sorry for rambling but in the end its best to try and get closure then move forward bro, sorry for your heartache and loss......I'm feeling it too Link to post Share on other sites
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