OW pregnant with my H's child??

[otherwomen]

Do you know when she is due?

You'll have to wait until the baby is born to find out paternity.

 

Do you wish you didn't know about it, and that your husband just kept it a secret without ever seeing the baby or being in touch with the women?

[Taken_Angel]

I can't imagine anyone NOT wanting to know, I think it would be harder NOT knowing or putting of paternity tests.

 

It sucks that she really is pregnant but hopefully it won't be your H's baby but since she didn't lie about being prego maybe she's not lying about who she was actually with.

 

Sorry you have to go through this and hopefully it will get easier with time but if this is your H's 1st child it will probably be very emotional for him not to be able to live in the same house hold as the child, see them everyday, ect.

 

I say be prepared for the roller coaster ride of your life!

[mikeswife]

I am happy..... The OW got fired yesterday.... Her and my H no longer work together... *sigh of relief* but I still am not letting my guard down. She got fired for getting free food without manager permission is what i've heard...I don't care.

 

Been working on relationship with hubby.... we just celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary this past wednesday and went camping. It is so hard not to kill him sometimes when I have these visions in my head of her and him. I do believe he is truly sorry for what happened. He tells me all the time that He never knew what a good wife he had, and it took this to open his eyes. In all honesty it was an eye opener for me too. I was oblivious to his faults. He's human just like the rest of us.... and he made a mistake. If he makes the same mistake twice, its over. I can't go through this again. We are working on building a solid marriage again so that when and IF (still don't believe her) the baby comes, we can care for it.

 

On that proof...she should be like 10 weeks by now..and I have this paper I got with her name on it, no date, and it says its from the hospital but its not on letterhead or anything that looks official... could have been from awhile ago, and if she miscarried or something and still had it... I don't know.... She did show my Husband a reciept for the $140.00 stroller she bought at walmart though...she wanted 40.00 for it from my H... YEAH RIGHT. Its a little early, and she's a little OBSESSED. I hope she violates her parole and ends up locked up so she'll get some prenatal care and it will be easier for us to get custody and give this baby the love it deserves. She's 10-12 weeks and I don't think she's even been to the dr's yet or anything except for chest pains at 5-6 weeks but not for any prenatal.

 

I'm like an alcoholic.... ONE DAY AT A TIME. That's all I can do... can't make future plans because who knows that the future holds at this point.

Keep this advice coming.... I need it!! Thanks!!

[otherwomen]

Its hard for everyone I'm sure. It's probably hard for her, she was probably mislead and that is why she is obsessed with him, he might of promised her things and in reality it was all a lie. I don't want to sound negative or anything like that. It happened to me, and I it has taken me a while to get over all the hurt and pain and all the promises and the I love you, princess, dream girl, we will always be together forever, don't ever leave me crap.

 

I hope she can make a better life for herself and get some prenatal care that she needs. I don't know her situation or if she has health insurance or not. Did she take food to eat because she has no money?

 

I'm happy though you and your H are working on things.

If she is having his child, I hope that since you know, all three of you will see eye to eye, you will have to be in each others lives forever. Fighting and name calling will do no good. I don't believe in taking the child away from the mother either. That will only cause more tension and fighting and who knows what else.

 

She should not be asking for money right now, I agree with all of that. And going out buying things is a little early like you said.

She is probably so hurt also in all of this, and she should probably go see a counselor to help her get through the upcoming months. Carrying a child from someone that you thought loved you in hard.

 

 

I hope things keep going good for your husband. Your a really good wife for sticking by him and he should be grateful for that..

[mikeswife]

Hello! been awhile since I updated everyone.... I now have proof that there is a baby, but not proof that my husband fathered it yet. She is about 16 weeks and I have ultrasound pics to prove it. I still say the timing is off, but my husband says he can't remember when it happened. He says he doesn't want to think about it. I know this is painful for both of us. We are still together, and I am still taking it one day at a time. She no longer works with him, and hasn't called our house in about a month. He has not been contacting her at all. Tomorrow we are cleaning out our spare bedroom to get it ready for the baby so we can do a little at a time.

I get so sad sometimes. I cried myself to sleep that night I saw those sonogram images. 10 perfect little fingers...and they should belong to OUR baby not hers and his. I asked him if he wanted to be there when the baby is born. He said he doesn't know. I told him I support whatever his decision is. He isnt going to go in there holding her hand, but this is a once in a lifetime thing. He will regret if he misses holding his son/daughter right after its born.

In all honesty, It makes me think how sad this world is. How it took something like this to show us dummies what we had, and how easily it could all be lost. How easy it is to take the easy road out and give up. We are working on our marriage because we believe we are worth the try. It is so hard to get over something like this, and it will never go away. I'm reading another book, and it says that the betrayed partner has to own his/her part of the affair. Well I am beginning to see how it happened....not that I am taking ANY responsibility for their stupidity and selfishness.... but we allowed ourselves to grow apart. I am responsible for some of that. Now we have to make sure we grow back together so something like this can never tear us apart again.

 

We are going to his father's house today, and I encouraged him to tell his dad what's going on. It would explain his distancing himself from his family because he was ashamed of what he did. I told him that I will hold his hand while he tells them, and that I am behind him all the way. He knows he screwed up, and he is taking genuine steps (accountability, honesty, communication, and trying to rebuild our trust) to work together with me on our relationship, so that when this baby comes, we can be strong for it.

Well enough rambling for now.... keep those encouraging words and advice coming!!