Ex told me it's not cool that I'm still alive..

[Loveandpeace14]

Even though it took me going back to him to realize how much of an ass he is, I definitely learnt my lesson. Just wish he'd just give up and stop trying to get a reaction out of me. Ignoring him doesn't work, being mature doesn't work, he's gonna have to give up sometime because how much can someone take before they snap, and I think that's what he wants me to do. Me and my friends have been laughing about it but deep down some of the things he said is actually starting to bother me, especially the part about me still being alive.. Like what did I ever do him, nothing. He has said some pretty harsh things about me to my friends but I'm afraid to hear all of it.

[Sugarkane]

Tell him to grow the **** up.

[Loveandpeace14]

I did, told him to get over himself and he said, I will never get over myself I'm too sexy for that.. Hahaha what kind of an idiot says that.

[iouaname]

I did, told him to get over himself and he said, I will never get over myself I'm too sexy for that.. Hahaha what kind of an idiot says that.

 

Honestly? That's embarrassing for him. At least you get to be the one that walks away with your dignity!

[Toddbt12y1]

I did, told him to get over himself and he said, I will never get over myself I'm too sexy for that.. Hahaha what kind of an idiot says that.

 

So full of himself. Like a joke.

 

Here's a joke.

 

Tell him to go stare at his imagine in a lake

[Loveandpeace14]

Hahaha yup. I laughed so hard. He thinks it's low that he dated me because I'm so ugly when he was the one who followed me around school like a lost puppy and tried to get my attention when we first met, even a month ago, he went on about how beautiful I was to my friends, and now that I stop talking to him, I'm the ugliest person in the world. Aha that's cool.

 

His personality definitely takes away from his looks. I use to think he was attractive but now I find him repulsive. So do all of his other exes. I doubt he will go far with his girlfriend if he spends his time harassing me.

Edited January 22, 2013 by Loveandpeace14

[Toddbt12y1]

He's gonna cry. Cause he can't have a hot girl anymore.

 

Then try and bring hot girl down.

 

Poor Narcissus. What a loser. Thinks he's too hot for a hot girl; cries and calls her something he is. He'll drown.

 

Staring deep into his immature image.

 

seriously ....you're just too hot for the loser. Don't let his break down strategy make you as ugly as he is now, dear.

 

Here's how you get him.

 

If he keeps it up.

 

"Say what you want. Truth is. I don't either hate or love you. You aren't worth either my hate or love; you mean nothing. And are worth nothing. I am happy I got rid of that loser nothing for something better."

 

Let that play in his mind.

 

/hug

[coffeebean201]

He can't handle his emotions about you.

 

You need to take his problem comments and behaviours seriously.

[fancy feast]

Insecurity. Way to go for seeing through it.

[Loveandpeace14]

I still don't understand though. He broke up with me but he's acting this way.. Wouldn't you think it was then other way around, me becoming the "psycho" ex.

[fancy feast]

Nah. If you're a secure, emotionally stable person, you can deal with these things regardless of who dumps who. There's not really any rules for who goes "psycho."

 

I would just ignore it from now on.

[Loveandpeace14]

I'm trying so hard to forget about it but its always at the back of my mind, I find myself thinking about it when I don't even try to, that is what is bothering me now. Ugh.

[Loveandpeace14]

But thank you everyone for you all input. Makes me feel a lot better even after all the **** he's been putting me through. Just shows that I'm the bigger person.

[Toddbt12y1]

But thank you everyone for you all input. Makes me feel a lot better even after all the **** he's been putting me through. Just shows that I'm the bigger person.

 

The hotter better looking person too. Don't forget that.

 

Eventually thoughts will pass cute stuff.

[Loveandpeace14]

Man this is not good, I'm starting to miss him.. A lot.. Well the him that I once knew. I hate my mind, it remembers too much, just out of the blue started to think about the good times that I started tearing up this is no good.

[Toddbt12y1]

Man this is not good, I'm starting to miss him.. A lot.. Well the him that I once knew. I hate my mind, it remembers too much, just out of the blue started to think about the good times that I started tearing up this is no good.

 

Just remember that that is the illusion. It never existed; it was only his tool inwhich to manipulate and later hurt your precious self. Sweetheart, when those memories come up, force in what he really is.

 

If your crying, forcefully tell yourself you are crying, not because him. But because you are happy to be free from him -- tears of happiness. Trick your mind. You are crying, now free, and capable of moving on to a far better man.

[Sugarkane]

I still don't understand though. He broke up with me but he's acting this way.. Wouldn't you think it was then other way around, me becoming the "psycho" ex.

 

This is what I say time and time again on here. In fact I think the OP should threaten with legal action and call him a psycho. That's what they do to us. I've been called a psycho just for asking for answers, not even stalking (I've never done that).

[Loveandpeace14]

Thanks for the advice Toddb12y1. Guess I just gotta let time fix everything, can't wait until the day it doesn't bother me or that he doesn't come to mind, I feel nothing yet I think about it. Sigh.

The way he was acting a few nights ago definitely shows signs of psycho haha, you know what's not cool? that your still alive. Who says that. Keeps telling me that he is way moved on and that I was nothing to hi but continues harassing me and my friends when he should spend his time with his new girlfriend.. That would be a good idea. He thinks I'm obsessive? Look what he's doing.. I'm the one who seems more moved on than he is. Feel bad for that girl.

[Toddbt12y1]

Thanks for the advice Toddb12y1. Guess I just gotta let time fix everything, can't wait until the day it doesn't bother me or that he doesn't come to mind, I feel nothing yet I think about it. Sigh.

The way he was acting a few nights ago definitely shows signs of psycho haha, you know what's not cool? that your still alive. Who says that. Keeps telling me that he is way moved on and that I was nothing to hi but continues harassing me and my friends when he should spend his time with his new girlfriend.. That would be a good idea. He thinks I'm obsessive? Look what he's doing.. I'm the one who seems more moved on than he is. Feel bad for that girl.

 

Maybe he lied about the other girl to get to you. He seems crazy.

 

I agree you are better off. I feel pity if he has the other girl.

 

Anyway, not just time that will heal you, it's what you do with it.

 

Remember those single days? Where you could be Flirty and playful? Try being Flirty, not overly so, as to lead someone on. This can help rebuild your confidence. You see that cashier? You think he's cute, flirt, don't ask out, flirt.

 

Start small. Go hang out with friends go to the beach. Maybe a theme park or a drive out to the country side, enjoy the sights. Anything that can heal you. And start telling yourself

 

"I am hot. I am a sexy lady, and can have anyone I want. I am too sexy to dwell on a loser ex; his loss." Say that or something like that to yourself daily. Make yourself believe it and rebuild your confidence.

 

It is true, you are a sexy, hot, and wonderful girl: with a big heart just waiting for that right lover to take.

Edited January 24, 2013 by Toddbt12y1

[Loveandpeace14]

Yeah I'm actually starting to question if she's even real myself.

 

I've been focusing on myself with work and school, and even starting to go to the gym again. Going out with friends a lot more and just trying to make the best of it.

 

Even though life has been good, still in the back of my mind, there he is. I guess I just miss those litte things. I'm actually terrified that I'll always want a guy like him (minus how he's been acting), like no guy I've talked to since our break up compares to him. I always picture him in my head and the things we use to do and things I miss about him. Still having the thoughts of being in his arms and wanting things to go back to how they were For a couple weeks I thought I was over him, but now I think deep down I still love him just not in love with him. It's crazy how I still do after how he treated me but I guess first loves aren't easy to get over. I'm not that experienced with relationships but hey, I'm still young.

[Toddbt12y1]

Yeah I'm actually starting to question if she's even real myself.

 

I've been focusing on myself with work and school, and even starting to go to the gym again. Going out with friends a lot more and just trying to make the best of it.

 

Even though life has been good, still in the back of my mind, there he is. I guess I just miss those litte things. I'm actually terrified that I'll always want a guy like him (minus how he's been acting), like no guy I've talked to since our break up compares to him. I always picture him in my head and the things we use to do and things I miss about him. Still having the thoughts of being in his arms and wanting things to go back to how they were For a couple weeks I thought I was over him, but now I think deep down I still love him just not in love with him. It's crazy how I still do after how he treated me but I guess first loves aren't easy to get over. I'm not that experienced with relationships but hey, I'm still young.

 

You never forget your first love or someone you love; just forget the pain. You'll eventually find someone better, who he doesn't compare too; in your own time.

 

I'm glad you are doing stuff cutie

[Loveandpeace14]

Not talking to him is getting harder and harder everyday. I'm starting to miss him and our good times so much. I thought I was finally over it all, but now it seems as those feelings keep coming back, and it's starting to hurt again. He knows he hurt me, felt guilty, then tries to hurt me again, and after all this, I just want him it's not fair. Like I guess it's nice to know he's thinking about me even if it's not always nice things he's saying but he has said some nice things to my friends about me too, so I'm really confused. I just wish we could have a normal conversation, and talk things out like before even though we really only had one real big fight in our relationship. It's like he changed over night after our second break up. I'm really hating it and its just so hard to get him out of my head, and not miss him. He's my first love which I think makes it even harder. He was so perfect to/for me. He was truly everything I've ever wanted in a guy, I was single all these years with guys wanting to date me and he came into my life and he was just so perfect, I couldn't say no.

 

Maybe it was just the timing, maybe one day we'll be able to talk again, not saying things will be the same or if we will ever be together again, but it's school and the distance that really changed him because everything was perfect until he moved for school, but he will be back.

[destroyed4sho]

He is just simply immature and I am sorry for this. Break ups are so hard and draining.

 

I am concerned about the fact that he wrote "its not fair you are still alive". I sounds very disturbing. Is there more to this? I would stay clear of him.

[LostOne1]

Take my advice. IGNORE him and also DO NOT CONTACT HIM.

 

Keep those 2 things in mind and go on with life. I fell in the trap with BOTH things and I regret it, because it was such a waste of time and effort.

 

Use that time and effort elsewhere!

[Loveandpeace14]

Yup and very disturbing, it was so uncalled for. I actually never thought he'd try to talk to me again or for at least a long time, then a month after our break up, I was just doing my homework, I hear my phone and he just starts attacking me out of the blue on msn (I have an app for it on my phone), then he messages my friend who he has been talking about me and shows her our conversation. This is coming from the guy who says he has respect for woman after being hurt when he was younger, yes, so respectful.. I don't even know why he's being like this, I have never done anything to him and our relationship was so perfect. We seemed so in love and he treated me so well. Before we even started dating, he sent me this amazing cute texts, and even after we were together. The night he first told me he loved me, he even started crying and telling me about all these things that he loved about me(saying that I helped him through a lot and was there for him when nobody else was, that he's never met anyone as perfect for him as me, that i meant the world to him, things like that, and he definitely showed it too, and knowing some of his exes/friend talking to his exes and apparently he never treated anyone as good as he treats me) and he was even telling me about personal things about his past that made me cry as well, he held me so close and it felt so amazing to be with him, and now months later, it's like I never knew him, and it's really killing me inside, even though I thought I was getting over him, but I know deep down, I'm not.