ThatJustHappened Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 There have been a surprising number of responses to this post, with a lot of things needed to be clarified. - My daughter has an amazing, tight relationship with her father. He lives close by. She is with him 2-4 days a week and they talk at least 2x a day on the phone. - The exOM never slept at my house. We were very aware of the situation. In front of her, we were very formal. -My daughter viewed him as the "family friend," and naturally curious where he is now and doesn't come around. - For the record, I have another very male good friend -- almost 30 years -- that is strictly platonic and pops over here and there. What more can I say? It happened. Lesson learned. I am pushing forward Thank you for clarifying. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Part of the issue with my ex-MM is that he was highly integrated in all aspects of my and my daughter's life. Thus, my daughter, age 7, absolutely adored him and he her. In October the wife gave him the boot and they were proceeding toward divorce, which he was happy about. However, when the reality of being a single, middle-aged man hit home, I got dumped. It was the week before X-mas, in fact. Since then I suspect -- thought not sure -- he patched it up with the wife. Other than a break up e-mail from him, which read like a form letter from an HR department, and a subsequent one thanking me for a X-mas gift for his grandson, I haven't heard a beep. And, I thankfully have been radio silent and strong in my NC. I didn't even respond to the two e-mails. My issue is my daughter asks about him a lot, wondering when we'll see him. They had the sort of relationship where he would call and they'd talk on the phone, or text. Thus far I have casually dismissed her questions with, "Oh, he's still out of town, etc....." Yesterday, going through my calls I noted she tried to call him several times, hanging up when she got his VM. This man, because of his work, is glued to his cell, so obviously ignored the calls. Thankfully, my daughter's father is close by and very involved and she sees/talks to him constantly. Still, I feel bad for my daughter, though there is nothing one can really do about this. Just venting ladies. Thanks. Tell her that he is no longer around and as sad as she may feel, it's for the best that she not call him anymore. Don't lie to her and make it like he's out of town. Link to post Share on other sites
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