nycthoughts Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Hello i am new to this and dealing with a current situation so im trying to use this to get the best advice possible. it will be a little lengthy but i need to be detailed so i get the best advice. So the situation goes as followed me and my girl friend have been together for 4 years been threw many ups and many downs and many different sex problems however ive never dealt with her cheating on me i found out she went out with her four girl- friends the other day and meet up with 4 guy coworkers the coworkers and her have never hung out only spoken over the phone because they work in other cell phone store today marks 2 weeks in total that she meet the guy. she met him two weeks ago in person exhacnged number made arangments to chill three days later she tap kissed him that day they chilled again the next day in which the started to make out and after that has chilled with the guy like 4 other times she hasnt had sex with him just kissed my problem now is after i found out i confronted her and she admited it and instead of saying sorry and begging me to get back with her and forgive her al she has been saying is that she is confused and dosent know why she did it and wants to know why she did it however continues to chill with the guy. iam also very confused because i havnt done anything for her to do this to me and after everything we finaly spoke yesterday in detail and made her see different and wake her up from this wierd phase how ever as it seems i was gona forgive her because ive done many things to her she just never caught me she says she dosent wanna speak to the guy for a few days while me and her work back on things to make sure she has no more attachment to the guy because she dosent want to get back with me if she feels if she sees him shes is gona feel something i dont understand how great of a guy i am and give her the world and she is concidering not being with me over a guy she only knows for two weeks now a few guy friends of mine know the situation so im even more embaresed to accept this how ever she didnt cheat i dont know what to do and find my self very hard to forgive her because i love her and we been together for 4 years mind you she is 21 and im 20 so 4 years is alot please give me the best advice and try understanding everything highly appritated Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Your post is contradictive. In the beginning of your post you mention that you haven't done anything to her for her to cheat on you, then later in the post you mention you've done alot of things to her but she never caught you. What exactly did you do that you didn't get caught doing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author nycthoughts Posted January 21, 2013 Author Share Posted January 21, 2013 ive cheated on her had my moments that ididnt know if i wanted to be with her or an ex of mine cheated a few times for no actual reason but she dosent know i ever cheated on her so i have that in mind i dont want to be a hipocrite however she dosent know these things thats why i say i havnt done anything for her to do this to me she even says she dosent know why she did it if we were perfect please help Link to post Share on other sites
Author nycthoughts Posted January 21, 2013 Author Share Posted January 21, 2013 ive cheated on her had my moments that ididnt know if i wanted to be with her or an ex of mine cheated a few times for no actual reason but she dosent know i ever cheated on her so i have that in mind i dont want to be a hipocrite however she dosent know these things thats why i say i havnt done anything for her to do this to me she even says she dosent know why she did it if we were perfect please help Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Honestly.....What do you expect? First of all, you really aren't in a position to hold it against her. Second, you both are very young and have been together for 4 yrs. I think you both should give eachother space for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nycthoughts Posted January 21, 2013 Author Share Posted January 21, 2013 we broke up last year for 4 months did what we wanted obviously and decided where we wanted to be was together and now this its like i wanna forgive her but now seeing how she loves me we been planing on buying a house and many things and for no reason at all shes confused do you think its a phase or something because of age is something to get over easily Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 we broke up last year for 4 months did what we wanted obviously and decided where we wanted to be was together and now this its like i wanna forgive her but now seeing how she loves me we been planing on buying a house and many things and for no reason at all shes confused do you think its a phase or something because of age is something to get over easily Yes, it's the age. You've been together since she was 16 and you 17. Now, you're entering into your 20's. When you leave the teenage year behind and start into your adulthood, you start to want different things in life. I speculate that's why a lot of people never end up marrying their first loves. We grow up Link to post Share on other sites
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