How can I stop being depressed over being single?

[Jagger341]

Some of you may tell me to just get a girlfriend, but it's not that simple. Also, not having a job (been trying to find one, no luck at all) and being in a position where I currently need a corporate payee isn't very popular with the ladies. So what am I to do? Almost a year later and it still bugs me.

[Jagger341]

This is kinda sad. Been almost 7 hours and no reply.

[Mr Scorpio]

Appreciate your freedom. Go to a supermarket on a Friday night and watch men stare coldly into space while being led down one aisle to the next by their spouse with a cart-full of crying children.

[Michellinda]

I know it sucks to be single but you've got to remain positive and believe your next girlfriend is around The corner. In the meantime continue looking for work or find odd jobs to make some extra cash. If a girl likes you a tea and walk in the park will suffice.

[D-Lish]

Worry about getting your own **** together first- then worry about getting a girlfriend when you have wrapped the aforementioned up.

 

When you feel like **** about where your life is going, you will not attract happy souls to your fold.

[Gingerxr2]

Worry about getting your own **** together first- then worry about getting a girlfriend when you have wrapped the aforementioned up.

 

When you feel like **** about where your life is going, you will not attract happy souls to your fold.

 

Totally agree , how could you keep someone happy if your not happy? Sorry that sounds really harsh , but you get the picture !!

 

Mate I believe in fate and you only get things when you are ready for them ! And clearly your not ready !!

[Biscous]

Find things to occupy yourself with.

 

I am somewhat in the same boat. Many of my friends in my social circles are in relationships or married. I know there are women that are into me but many I am not attracted to at all. I'd feel as though I'm settling if I got into a relationship with these women.

 

So I've chosen to be alone in the interim. Still I have many things to consume my time and hopefully will get more in the future.

[betterdeal]

Find things you enjoy and do them. It can be as simple as going for a walk or getting a good book from the library. When you accept where you are, and don't beat yourself up for it, you'll be in a better position to start moving towards where you want to be.

[camillalev]

I read this in a blog somewhere and think it's very true:

 

"And finally, the real secret to dating (and life) is just to be the most amazing version of yourself possible. It sounds corny, but it’s true! Don’t be one of those loser people who sit around smoking weed, doing nothing and hating the world all day, because no one loves them. Be the sort of person who takes vitamins, reads books, goes jogging and gives mind-blowing head. And then one day, out of the blue, some epically hot and smart and nice person will stumble into your life, and you’ll look into each other’s eyes and know instantly that you’re meant to be. And then they’ll kiss you and you’ll kiss back and you’ll keep on kissing for more or less the rest of your lives. Aww! Total cute alert! Because you’re worth it."

 

Ends on a cheesy, cutesy note but the rest of it rings true.

[camillalev]

Worry about getting your own **** together first- then worry about getting a girlfriend when you have wrapped the aforementioned up.

 

When you feel like **** about where your life is going, you will not attract happy souls to your fold.

 

Yup. 100% agree.

[betterdeal]

You know, having a long term partner or a full on girlfriend / boyfriend doesn't have to start full on. Good company, and companionship, laughter, shared experiences, are all good for the soul. Be it with a woman or man you might be interested in (in a possibly romantic way) or with good friends and family, human contact, affection, fun, are by far the most effective cures for feeling blue.

 

If you see a romantic relationship as a journey and not a destination, it becomes easier to get involved in one. Just like anything worthwhile, it takes practice, passion and belief in your ability to do it (and you can do it).

[somedude81]

Yup, be happy by yourself. Never mind the fact that humans tend to naturally pair up and are happiest when they are with a partner that matches their sexual orientation.

[Sun Devil]

I try to find happiness by improving myself ans socializong, but so far nothing works. There is no substitute for a relationship and if I do not find a relationship sooon, I will end my own life. I decided that I would rather end my own existance than be single.

[normal person]

I try to find happiness by improving myself ans socializong, but so far nothing works. There is no substitute for a relationship and if I do not find a relationship sooon, I will end my own life. I decided that I would rather end my own existance than be single.

 

That sounds pretty extreme, I sincerely hope you don't give that any more thought. What good things have you got going on in your life? I know you're in school, what're you studying? Are you passionate about it?

 

OP, do whatever it will do to make you happy first, then you'll be much more attractive. If you're unhappy with your circumstances, do what you can to change them. Enroll in school, etc.

[Sun Devil]

One of the things I want most in life is to experience love and intimacy. Without it life is not very meaningful. It is a human need to be with someone. Suicide rates are much higher for single people for a reason

[normal person]

One of the things I want most in life is to experience love and intimacy. Without it life is not very meaningful. It is a human need to be with someone. Suicide rates are much higher for single people for a reason

 

Maybe so, but that doesn't really answer the question. Maybe if you shared something about what kind of person you are, things you like, your non-romantic aspirations, things you look for a in a girl, specific problems you're having, people might learn more about you as an individual and put you on the right track towards meeting someone.

 

Nearly every post I read from you is "I need to have sex within the next month or else I'll ______" and nothing else. Then you selectively respond to the people who reinforce whatever conditional decision you might make and ignore everyone else who offers an alternative method.

 

No one is likely to be able to help you unless you start to elaborate about the specifics of your situation, y'know? Personally, I'm really curious about your attitude, personality, habits, tendencies, etc. Knowing that stuff is a necessary part of the process of helping you.

[Sun Devil]

I am trying to improve myself and hopefully some girl will like me. I am doing everything I can to get Gould. I am trying online dating on multiple sights, I talk to several girls every day, I read pua material, and even plan on hiring a dating coach soon. If all of these fail, then I gave it all I got and I know that I am not destined for love. In that case, I will take things into my own hand and end my life so that I don't turn into a bitter old man with no family. It may sound selfish, but it is more selfish to keep someone alive and suffering.