Help Controlling my Anger

[Mjfru]

Hi everyone.

 

I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years, and I'm realizing that the reason that we probably broke up around 4 months ago was because of my temper problems. Granted she did cheat on me once as well but mostly she left me due to my anger . . . .

 

Well I'm with a new girl now, who I've been with for 3 months. We are very, very happy, and practically meant to be. The difference between my ex and now is that my ex and I are like opposite, while my now and I are practically alike and she always makes me laugh and makes me happy, whereas my ex got me really irratated. Ok but that's the big thing, I think that my ex only got me irratated because I have such a quick temper, I'm like the biggest hothead ever, but only to people that are close to me, like my girlfriends. Well for the three years I was with my ex I constantly fought with her from stupid reasons and it was mostly due to my temper, cause she would do nothing wrong and I would fight with her, it was bad. Well we aren't together now, but I find myself doing the same thing with my girlfriend now, and I'm also realizing that I'm saying many things I totally don't mean to say, like, "maybe we should break up!" It's horrible! This time around, I KNOW, it's my temper because she has never done anything wrong to me and she is incredibly in love with me and would never want to hurt me. I always will get pissed off at things, for instance I'll be talking to her and it seems like she doesn't miss me, but she obviously does, so I blow up at her anyway. OMG I hate myself so much just typing this.

 

Well here's my question. How do I control my temper so I don't get mad around my girlfriend anymore? I'm really in Love with her and would hate to lose another girl from my temper. If anyone knows anything please help me out.

 

Thanks

[moimeme]

Get yourself some books on anger management. If that doesn't work, go see a counsellor.

[jnb637]

I wish you were my boyfriend, saying that you hate yourself for acting that way. My boyfriend acts the same way toward me but he doesn't apologize I don't even think he knows he does it. My advice since I am in your girlfriends shoes is be honest and explain that to her. Tell her if you act like that or say something stupid for her to confront you with it or for her to leave and let you cool down. Inform her of what you have realized so she is not sitting the dark!