How much of your MM’s real life did he share with you?

[Got it]

She brought the conflict to him. He just smacked it away *poof*. That serms an avoidant move, actually. To confront would have meant dealing with it.

 

BTW, since when is someone a "psychopath" because of a slap?

 

Originally Posted by LFH

Ah, I'd agree with that Donna, except... I'm pretty sure that very few stories are told here where the feelings actually poof. The behavior often indicates the exact opposite and certainly few indicators that it happens in a moment. I'm sure there are some that never mean a word but I think you might be surprised to realize how few people's feelings "poof" and how many stories are out there where people wish they COULD shut off those feelings.

 

Donna: There have actually been a few stories like this lately - one in fact where the MM actually hit the OW when her behavior threatened his M.

 

Donna, here is what you were referring to and your response. You are not answering the questions and are trying to twist what your original point was and what you are trying to sell it as now.

 

It seems, then, you were taking a random pot shot at a poster than actually trying to prove a point. Was that the actual point?

[TheOW]

Your H is a nice person.

 

Nice people cannot imagine infidelity. So the fact your phone is locked does not make him suspicious.

 

You are correct, he is not cheating on you. Otherwise, he would be very suspicious of you.

 

 

He is a nice guy and he deserves alot more than I can give him, I rushed into a relationship at a young age and I rushed into marriage.

 

Guess what ? He's also a lot older than me, and yes my father walked out on us when we were young and re-married within 1 year. And what makes the whole situation for me quite laughable is that I myself am the outcome of an affair between my mom and dad. He was a lot older than my mom and married she was single they had an affair, had me. He divorced married my mom and was told by his ex wife if he did not divorce my mum and disown me he would never get to see his other children again. So he left us and I never spoke to him till I was 25 which is quite remarkable given that I was friends with his step-son and was in the same school class as him, and I very often seen dear daddy pick up his step children with his new wife acting like the perfect happy family. He never once glanced over at me, his wife did though and I could see how sorry she felt for me. She is a good woman, he is an ass.