JenniferleeUNLV Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 I really need some help guys. I have a hard time talking to people. EVERYONE. Including my boyfriend (well, we just broke up today, but to make it easier, I'll call him that) He moved away for work and I HATE the phone. I get on the phone and I have nothing to talk about. Ever. I sit there and say the same thing every day. I can never think of anything interesting to say to anyway. Im boring. I don't have an hobbies. For some reason, I think everything is boring, I have no interests in anything, which is probably why. How do I over come this? I want to call my boyfriend on the phone and talk for hours and hours and laugh and joke and have a good conversation, but instead this is how it goes: Me: Hey baby Him: Hey love, what's up? ME: Oh nothing, just sitting down. You? Him: Just got home from work, making something to eat. Me: Oh..cool (3-5 minutes of silence...) Me: I love you, Him: I love you too honey (More silence) Him: Okay, well I'll call you later. That's it. That is it with everyone. On the phone, on skype, in person. I can't hold a conversation. Hell, I can't even hold a conversation with myself. I want to be fun and entertaining! And go hiking, and camping, and to the movies and have stuff to talk about, but all I can do is lay in my bed, sleep, have boring conversations with my boyfriend, play on my computer and feel bad for myself. Maybe I'm depressed? Or I have anxiety? Hell Link to post Share on other sites
fili Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 i know it really s*cks! We have the same problem. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 I want to be fun and entertaining! And go hiking, and camping, and to the movies and have stuff to talk about How come you don't? With the UNLV I'm assuming you go to college. Are you in any social groups or clubs? Do any activity classes? Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 (edited) I'm pretty awkward myself but you got me beat haha I know how you feel. Definitely join a club or sports team. Get around people and watch them socially interact. Watching and trying a little yourself is the only way to improve. Extra thought: Do you think you might have depression? Edited January 25, 2013 by TouchedByViolet Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 You don't sound boring, you clearly have a sense of humor. It's a good question about depression or anxiety and you should probably explore that...pain in the as$ it can be to do. Do some research then see your doctor. And I hear it's a pretty common thing in college, if you're a student. So, none of it has to be permanent and doesnt need to define you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 You sound like my 14 year old daughter. She is battling depression and was suicidal in November. Luckily she is finally on Zoloft as of yesterday and its amazing how much better she seems to be in just two days. I would definitely look into seeing somebody to figure out if you're suffering from depression or anxiety or maybe even something else. But like you, my daughter compares herself to other people a lot and feels different than other girls a lot. Have you ever been tested for which side of your brain you think from? Some people are more emotional while others are more thoughtful. Most women are emotional. My daughter is not. Which is probably why she doesn't really fit in with the girls so much. She thinks more like a male. But definitely explore your options. You only have one life. May as well make it as good as it can be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JenniferleeUNLV Posted January 25, 2013 Author Share Posted January 25, 2013 How come you don't? With the UNLV I'm assuming you go to college. Are you in any social groups or clubs? Do any activity classes? No, I'm unfortunately not. I work 45-50 hours a week because I am an assistant manager at my job, and I take 6 classes, with a lab. I'm in two colleges and taking online too. I am always so busy I, I feel exhausted all the time. I can't even force myself to laugh sometimes because I feel like I'm always I'm gonna fall over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JenniferleeUNLV Posted January 25, 2013 Author Share Posted January 25, 2013 I'm pretty awkward myself but you got me beat haha I know how you feel. Definitely join a club or sports team. Get around people and watch them socially interact. Watching and trying a little yourself is the only way to improve. Extra thought: Do you think you might have depression? If I wasn't so busy I would. I need to go to school full time to get a degree, and I need to work full time to pay for college and get a car Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 You can be taking antidepressants WHILE you do all this. Go see a doctor. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 No, I'm unfortunately not. I work 45-50 hours a week because I am an assistant manager at my job, and I take 6 classes, with a lab. I'm in two colleges and taking online too. I am always so busy I, I feel exhausted all the time. I can't even force myself to laugh sometimes because I feel like I'm always I'm gonna fall over. OK, it sounds like you are hella busy. That might be your problem. It probably makes you feel exhausted. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted January 26, 2013 Share Posted January 26, 2013 (edited) I am socially awkward also. I also used to find it hard to think of things to talk about unless talking to someone who was able to carry the conversation really well. I got most of my practice from someone who was an excellent conversationalist. So I'm better now, but still learning. Look for someone whose conversation skills you admire, and watch how they talk to people. Notice the tricks or methods they use that seem to work well, and try them out on someone. Also, your schedule sounds exhausting. It can be harder to talk to others when your energy is low. I'm wondering if you are an introvert who needs lots of time to recharge. Edited January 26, 2013 by SpiralOut Link to post Share on other sites
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