Need everyone's opinions...PLEASE!!! My ex!

[lovely221]

Ok I really need everyone's opinion. I'm new here and would like to hear what you all think about my situation.

 

I began friends with this guy around Christmas time. We would often joke around and flirt a lot. I KNEW he liked me. I could just tell. Back in March we began dating. Things started out slow at first(as both of us said we weren't looking for anything serious), but just a few weeks after we began dating things started to get serious pretty fast. We were spending all of our free time together. There wasn't a day that went by that we didn't talk. I started to get a little bit worried. I've only had one other semi serious relationship in my life and it wasn't very healthy. It was more lust than anything else. I've dated a lot but have never really been into serious relationships. I'm in my early 20's and still want to have fun. My new boyfriend was in his mid 20's. He had also only had one serious relationship before me. He knew about my dating habits(dating someone for a short time and then moving onto someone else)and seemed a little worried about it. He voiced this to me on more than one occasion. He told me on several occasions he would never hurt me and asked the same of me. Only a month into our relationship we were already telling eachother that we loved one another. I was a little freaked out by this but decided to go with the flow of things. Everything was just happening so fast. Deep down I was very worried by how fast our relationship was developing. He said he loved me often but I wasn't sure I really believed him. I mean we hadn't been dating that long.

A month or so after we started dating he took me home to meet his family and friends. Things seemed to be going well. He got incredibly drunk one of the night's we were there. I got very upset with his behavior and he proceeded on this night, drunk as hell, to tell me how much he loved me. I ignored him. I wasn't sure if he was professing his love for me just because he was drunk or because he really meant it. Throughout our relationship we would get into arguments over little things. He also told me he wasn't a jealous person but his friends told me he was a very jealous person, and it came out often if we were arguing.

3 months into our relationship I began to have doubt my feelings for him. I knew I cared for him, I just wasn't sure how much. I just wasn't sure if our relationship was what I wanted at that time. He had asked me before if it was what I wanted and I told him it was. He told me often that he knew we'd be together for a long time. Anyways, 3 months into our relationship I told him I wasn't sure we were compatible and needed some time to think. He became very upset and the next day broke up with me. When he broke up with me he told me it was because he didn't feel we should be together right now because we argued too much, and didn't feel I really loved him. I told him I just needed some time to think but he broke up with me anyways. I was devestated. I really didn't think we'd break up.

We stayed in contact and 3 days later we got back together(on the condition we talked about things and tried to work things out). Well we basically got back together and we never worked things out. Everything basically went back to normal. The only thing that changed was that he no longer told me he loved me. I thought that was understandable considering recent events. Well two weeks after our first break up I went out of town. While I was out of town he called me and broke up with me AGAIN. He told me it was because he had had mixed feelings about me and our relationship since our first split. I was completely confused because things had seemed normal. I had just seen him two days earlier and he was all over me. We had a long conversation and decided things were over. I was in shock. I was more upset than I'd ever been. I couldn't eat or sleep. A few days later he called to check in on me but I didn't answer. A week after our break up I went over to his place to talk to him. We both shed a few tears and I told him I felt deceived. He told me he never meant to hurt me. I then told him I thought he was a very confused individual and left. Not 5 minutes after I'd been gone he called me and told me he was confused about his feelings for me. He asked me if we could take a 1 week/no contract trial period and see how we felt after the week was up. We did this and a week later got back to talk. He told me how hard it would be for him to not hug me or kiss me, but he then told me he felt we should just be friends and I deserved better. He told me he wasn't the type of guy I should be with right now. I became very angry and told him I would not be his friend. We got into a HUGE fight. He told me I was immature and that he didn't feel we were compatible. Things ended on very bad terms. We didn't not speak for several weeks. I saw him out a week after our split(I was with another guy)and when I sent him a message letting him know it was just a friend he sent me a pretty rude email telling me how much he didn't care. Can one of you guys/or gals please explain to me how his feelings changed in such a short amount of time? Why did things change so fast for him? I just don't understand what happened.

[Samson]

IMHO you should edit your post and use paragraphs.