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A year after divorce..how I dealt and what has become


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I left my wife Feb. 13th last year due to her becoming distant. Both 26 years old and married 5 years, together 7.

I finally walked out after she said she wasnt "in-love" with me. We have a 4 year old son at the time also. Only a few days after leaving she was ready for papers. She was very manipulative and lawyers wanted upward of $6,000 grand. I gave her EVERYTHING I had. New vehicle, house, full custody. I felt like if I gave her what she wanted, maybe she would take me back. The first few months were very hard because I felt like I needed closeure. We signed papers 2 weeks after I left, the minute I signed papers I heard rumors. Alot of people told me not to spy and stalk, but I did a few times. I am glad I did. I found out she was having a text/facebook message affair going on with my friend from middle school. A very dis respectful friend. She knew how he was but yet she moved him in after 1 month of me moving out. I had my closure. I finally moved on. I didnt take her back to court or anything. I knew how bad of a guy he was. They acted all happy, she started being a pure bitch to me. So here we are in the present. Right after christmas, she called me. She was balling her eyes out. She hates her life, she is pregnant by her new man and he has left her. She said he stays drunk and constantly leaves during the night saying he got called into work. She knows he has cheated so far with 3 girls in the past 9 months. She cant afford the house. She cries her self to sleep at night. She has called me about 6 times since christmas just trying to "ask how my day is

" Not once has she said she regrets leaving me, or if shes sorry. But I can tell by her voice she hates her life very bad. Just felt like sharing my story

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Right after christmas, she called me. She was balling her eyes out. She hates her life, she is pregnant by her new man and he has left her. She said he stays drunk and constantly leaves during the night saying he got called into work. She knows he has cheated so far with 3 girls in the past 9 months. She cant afford the house. She cries her self to sleep at night. She has called me about 6 times since christmas just trying to "ask how my day is

" Not once has she said she regrets leaving me, or if shes sorry. But I can tell by her voice she hates her life very bad. Just felt like sharing my story

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Why would you even take her calls and listen to her BS :confused: ???

 

Mr. Lucky

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Gunny the wise one, once told me (5 months ago) "They always trade down" !!!

 

Gunny was right on the money!Your XW is more proof.

 

You are a lucky man.You got rid of a bad W and a bad friend in one swoop!

I admire your fortitude.

 

REVITUP

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Why would you even take her calls and listen to her BS :confused: ???

 

Mr. Lucky

 

Who cares? It's gotta be good for the guy's pride. Give him a "Like," Mr. Lucky!

 

Way to go man!! You found out what she's about very early on (better now than 20 years from now)!! You are in the driver's seat. Have a good deal of thinking before you ever take this one back, and put a pre-nup there too, while you're at it. But, since she is popping out another dude's spawn, I bet you want her like yesterday's trash. She sound's like a "See ya next Tuesday," - so messed up and desparate (no offense intended). She gave up a decent life for what???

 

Thanks for letting us know! Good luck to you! Yas

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Good for you. i know that the same will happen to my soon to be ex. He could've had it all...a beautiful successful wife who loved him more than anything and he traded this all in for cheap thrills with low class people.

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Ya good for you - really.

 

...but... ummm.. there is your child right in the middle of this crap life she has made for herself. That's sad for your kid.

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She's trying to inch her way back into your life. I really hope you're not thinking about taking her back. You gave her everything, literally everything and she still continued to walk all over you. Now she has to live with the consequences of her actions, this is real life not TV.

 

Live your life, you owe her nothing especially after the stuff she's put you through. I know you have to maintain communication for your kid, but keep it at that.

 

She didn't care about "your day" before, she certainly doesn't now

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