thatonechick Posted January 26, 2013 Share Posted January 26, 2013 Thank you all for your replies. I understand all of them and appreciate the feedback. Here is a little more info for those interested. No, I am not 16 anymore. With the exception of a big break from him for many years (on my request too, not his), I've known this person well over a decade. I wont give my exact age, but let's just say I've been out of college for a while. Yes, in response to the questions about my having other serious relationships. I have been in several adult relationships, and did love most of them. I am currently in a loving relationship, but I do see an end in sight. I always do. I have never married, nor do I have children, and frankly, I've never wanted either. I made that decision long ago, before I met this man. I know all of the cliche' that goes along with this story, but let me clarify a few things. I don't believe we have only one "great love" in our lives. I have loved and been loved by others. So yes, I understand I may fall in love on a very spiritual level again. I do believe that there are people whom we just gravitate towards. What I didn't explain very well before, is that his wife does know we communicate. She knows we are close. She doesn't know me very well, but we are trying to figure out how to explain this friendship so as to not hurt his family. He did end up introducing me to his kids...which was a bit weird I admit. We know there are certain lines that just can't be crossed. We have both admitted to each other that we are more happy and focused by being in one another's lives. I noticed my life attitude considerably got more positive after I contacted him again. I know he was happy I reached out too. I have a very open mind about love. I'm just curious if other people have a friendship like this. Let me make it clear that I have never wanted to settle down with just one man. I know that sounds terrible, but this friendship isn't holding back the possibility of new romances. I've had plenty of success in that department (meaning I don't find it difficult to connect and create a fulfilling relationship). The idea of long-term commitment is not in my nature though. Who knows? Maybe that is why this friendship is important to me. I have the emotional connection that I need, but without the restrictions of a committed relationship. Okay, that's all for now. Again, I appreciate the feedback. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thatonechick Posted January 26, 2013 Author Share Posted January 26, 2013 It's not that they don't treat me well. I guess this is my own commitment issue...thank you for taking time to reply Link to post Share on other sites
Author thatonechick Posted January 26, 2013 Author Share Posted January 26, 2013 I was just curious if anyone else had experienced this kind of situation. You sounded frustrated with your response, and I didn't mean to provoke those kind of feelings. I am sorry. By advise, I didn't mean insight to sneaking around. I am seeking perspective and opinions. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thatonechick Posted January 26, 2013 Author Share Posted January 26, 2013 You are right. She does have that choice. I don't know what her true feelings are on our frienship. I guess I place that responsibility on him in how he chooses to handle it. Link to post Share on other sites
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