Don't you hate it when parents expect respect...

[Maddy]

But they treat you like crap? I'm not really speaking to my dad because I don't like the way he treats me. Last month we got into an argument over some tires because I didn't do exactly what he suggested. My two front tires were bald, but I decided to replace only one because I am on a budget. I tried to explain this to him but he couldn't understand this and disregarded everything I said, because he wants to be right all time. He said some very ugly things to me like F@#k you, you're stupid, and bunch of other things, all because I decided to go to Sears instead of Midas and wanted to save money. Accusing me of being "disrespectful" when I disagree with him. And then he wonders why I hate him so much and barely talk to him. Does anyone else get yelled at for thinking for themselves? Are going through something similar?

[amaysngrace]

What is the point of replacing one bald tire if the other one is bald? And why did you get it at Sears? Aren't they more expensive than other places?

 

Your dad has a point by getting upset for not taking his advice.

[Keenly]

First of all, it is stupid to have more traction on one side of your car than the other.

 

Secondly, your father is using guilt and humiliation to manipulate you. Sit him down and say "I am an adult now, and I will take your advice into consideration, but I will make my own decisions. If you can not handle that, then I will no longer be involved in your life."

 

 

 

You have to actually follow through with it.

[Maddy]

Did you read the part when I said I was on a budget? not every one can afford to replace all tires at the same time.

[amaysngrace]

Did you read the part when I said I was on a budget? not every one can afford to replace all tires at the same time.

 

Isn't sears more expensive than other places? You probably could have gotten two for the same price as one there if you went to pep boys or something.

 

I don't really know though. It use to be that way before.

[Lonely Ronin]

Did you read the part when I said I was on a budget? not every one can afford to replace all tires at the same time.

 

do you understand that having vastly different amounts of traction not to mention tires of vastly different diameters on the same axle can actually be very dangerous to you and harmful to your car?

[carhill]

IMO, his concerns were valid but his methods of communication were disrespectful and abusive. One way to look at it is, if he didn't care at all about your health and safety, he wouldn't have communicated at all. No excuse for his behavior but perhaps one mitigating aspect of the interaction.

 

Yeah, I experienced such 'concerns' a lot when a young person but my parents communicated them in a respectful manner and challenged me in a healthy way. Long down the road, I appreciate the example they provided. It's easy to hurl insults; much harder to have an intelligent discourse. Parents lead by example. Yelling at you is a poor example, IMO.

[pink_sugar]

I agree with the others. I understand your point, but really, why replace the tire at all if you couldn't afford the other? Either wait until you can afford to replace both, so they have even traction, unless you are planning to replace the other fairly soon. Otherwise, there really isn't much point just to replace one bald tire. It's no excuse for your dad's behavior, he probably had good intent, but he needs to communicate that to you differently.

[pteromom]

The thing is - giving respect doesn't mean that you have to agree with everything someone says.

 

You don't give someone respect because they "expect" it. You give someone respect because you are a person with integrity and honor.

 

You should make it a mission to treat EVERYONE with respect, no matter how they treat you. For yourself. Just distance yourself from those who bring negativity into your life.

 

So in the case of your dad, I would go back to him and say "I understand that you had my best interest at heart, but I don't appreciate being called names or yelled at. Can we agree not to talk to each other like that?" If he once again goes into a tirade, then he just isn't emotionally mature enough to communicate in a calm manner, and you should just accept him as he is and limit your dealings with him to the bare minimum.

[MuscleCarFan]

Not only is replacing a single tire incredibly stupid, it's dangerous. The tires can wear uneven and cause problems due to improper maintenance. If you buy new tires, at the very least BUY TWO!

 

DO buy four tires at once.

New tires generally grip the road better than tires that have some miles on them. It's best to replace all four tires at once, but if you must replace them in pairs, put the new tires on the back (regardless of whether the car is front- or rear-wheel-drive). This will help the car retain its stability and predictability in a panic swerve. (Older tires on the rear will make the car more likely to spin out.)

Rotating the tires every 5,000 to 7,000 miles will ensure that they wear at the same rate, allowing you to get the most return on your investment and ensure that all four tires will be ready for replacement at the same time.

NEVER replace a single tire -- if a tire is damaged and cannot be repaired, replace it as well as its mate on the other side of the car.

Tire Buying Do's and Don'ts

[Radu]

You could switch the wheels, front with the back, generally the wheels who aren't powered by the engine get less tear.

 

But this is not about wheels, carhil is right ... he sounds abusive.