I think he cheated.

[SamBam]

I'm new to this website. And I'm completely lost to what to do about my situation. So me and my bf were just in a long distance relationship for 2 months. He got out of the army and moved back home to New York while I stayed in Louisiana bc he wanted to get his financial problems in order. The first two weeks that he was home he hung out with his friends and his phone mysteriously died over night six times that he was out and he wouldn't text or call until the next afternoon. I always trusted him so I believed him and dropped the subject. Now I moved half way across the country to be with him. His phone has been turned off for about 1 months and a half by his service provider he deleted all his recet calls and texts on it. The other day I was on his phone and ended up coming across a text from a girl saying hey boo call me. The text was in his phone history and it was recent up to the time his phone got turned off. When I asked him about it he looked scared and said he had no idea who she was. But I'm not so sure I believe him especially bc of what happened the first few weeks he was back home. I'm so scared mthat he really did cheat. Bc I left my job my family and friends to be here with him. And I just want advice on how I can find out if he really did cheat.

[LoLo84]

Clue 1: I think he did know who the other girl was because why did she have his phone number?

Clue 2: Why did he delete all his texts?

 

Also, don't take this the wrong way, but did he ask you to move to New York to be with him?

 

Anyway..... I completely feel your pain. I suspect my BF is cheating too and I'm about 1 phone call away from breaking up with him. I have no concrete evidence but just clues that something smells funny. I also have my gut which wont seem to leave me alone until I open my eyes.

 

I know you situation is harder because you moved to be with him, my advice would be to see how he acts in the coming weeks and if more suspicions keep popping up then something is probably up.

 

If you do find that he is cheating and have to move back home, I think it takes courage and strength to do that. Good Luck. I hope you find the truth. Not knowing is the worst feeling in the world.

[SamBam]

Thank you. And yes he practically begged me to move to New York. Me and him had a lot of fights about it too bc he is still very much in debt and his new job is not paying that well. And also while we were separated he would always accuse me of cheating on him and now I think it wasn't bc he was insecure I think it was bc he cheated and then thought I would be doing the same.

[veggirl]

Why would you move across the country with someone you suspected was cheating? Really his phone died 6x overnight in 2 weeks....why in the hell would you believe that?

 

If he doesn't know who the girl is that CALLS HIM BOO then tell him to write back and ask "who is this?"

 

PS tons of people who cheat accuse their partner of doing it instead.

[GSB81]

Here's an idea, get the number and call her yourself.

[LoLo84]

And also while we were separated he would always accuse me of cheating on him and now I think it wasn't bc he was insecure I think it was bc he cheated and then thought I would be doing the same.

 

My ex BF (before my current one) cheated on me as well. But during the relationship he always accused me of cheating on him and he was the one that ended up cheating.

 

People have said that it's always the one cheating that accuses the other.

[MichiganMan222]

The fact that he lied and said he didn't know who it was should tell you he's cheating on you.

[loversquarrel]

How long have the two of you been together? I hope all this didn't happen over a two month relationship as your post suggests. Thats just bat **** crazy. Just looking for clarification.