MMs Wife

[To be or not to be]

I read all these stories on here and wonder sometimes. How come some MM talk about there wife to the OW and some don't say much at all?

 

(14 month A) My exMM hardly said a word about her. Only in the beginning that there wasn't a day that they didn't argue, that he loved her but wasn't in love with her, W had said some terrible things to him through the years that he can't get over (but wouldn't say what) and that she's physically hit him during arguments. He never talked about the marriage after that. Also, hardly mentioned much about Dday. I kept asking questions about what happened, what did she say and he was very short with his answers. He wanted to know why I wanted to know. I thought that was strange.

 

Also, just a quick update: He broke NC today yes again and I guess this means I did too. Wants me to find someone that can give me the time I deserve but yet he ends up asking if he can see me again. I know it's never gonna happen since I had been waiting 8 months to see him and only got excuses. Wants me to send him more pictures and an email tonight because he misses me. Wow really? I'm not sure what he gets from all this, it's definitely not sex. That hasn't happened in 8 months!

 

So I ended up emailing him after we text and sent him a link to - meet an inmate.com and told him he could find a great pen pal there.

[Gibson_Girl]

This sounds soooo familiar to me!

 

I love your www reply to him!

[Realist3]

How come some MM talk about there wife to the OW and some don't say much at all?

 

 

Because it is a buzz kill. When my A first started we talked about our spouses a good bit, but we weren't together to have a crying shoulder, we were together to enjoy each other. Why would an OW want to hear about all that crap? You already are living it once, why re-live the crap with someone you enjoy? To me it just sends a bad vibe. I also don't think it is fair to complain about someone who can't defend themselves. Your AP will always take your side because they are always getting one side. Best left alone.

[whichwayisup]

I read all these stories on here and wonder sometimes. How come some MM talk about there wife to the OW and some don't say much at all?

(14 month A) My exMM hardly said a word about her. Only in the beginning that there wasn't a day that they didn't argue, that he loved her but wasn't in love with her, W had said some terrible things to him through the years that he can't get over (but wouldn't say what) and that she's physically hit him during arguments. He never talked about the marriage after that. Also, hardly mentioned much about Dday. I kept asking questions about what happened, what did she say and he was very short with his answers. He wanted to know why I wanted to know. I thought that was strange.

 

Also, just a quick update: He broke NC today yes again and I guess this means I did too. Wants me to find someone that can give me the time I deserve but yet he ends up asking if he can see me again. I know it's never gonna happen since I had been waiting 8 months to see him and only got excuses. Wants me to send him more pictures and an email tonight because he misses me. Wow really? I'm not sure what he gets from all this, it's definitely not sex. That hasn't happened in 8 months!

 

So I ended up emailing him after we text and sent him a link to - meet an inmate.com and told him he could find a great pen pal there.

 

Doesn't it make you wonder if he lied about his wife? Her hitting him, arguing with him all the time etc..etc? I mean, if things were that bad he could just leave. A dday would have been a perfect exit for him, but he's still at home with his wife.

 

Tell him to leave you alone. He isn't worth your time or energy. Your precious heart deserves someone who is going to be there for you, love you and not have to hide your love and relationship.