Cali408 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Why rock the boat? Once a week is perfect. You see your daughter, you get laid and you're with your wife the other 6 days. Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 The chances of his wife being homicidal/suicidal are actually increased in the situation you describe, but you mention me like we are at odds. Why on Earth would we think only one of the women will go ballistic? I completely agree with mollyme. You have a better understanding of what the potential fallout can be because you know what it's like to go through the infertility treatment process. All anyone has to do is look at how some of the BS's reacted due to a d-day, so why is it such a stretch to think someone in the OP's BS position could be worse? She already feels like she failed at having children and then she finds out her husband has bee raising his own child (and family) in secret?! I think the OP is in deep denial about what the potental fallout will be. He's hanging out in his own little bubble making assumptions about how the OTHER people will react and who he wants to be with more when the reality is he has no clue. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I'm just smh, brian you go on and on "my daughter!, I'm a father! I must provide and be a dad!" but you leave things up to "perhaps, one day, and just might" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Brian I seen you got your test back.I am happy for your results. I thought you was going to tell your wife when you got the news. Putting it off is not going to make it any easier. Anyway you put this the OW will hurt. I think by playing house with her your only going to make it harder. The way you are handling this is no different then the past. Both woman deserve to told up strait and forward. Your Ow will want to work it out no matter how you put it. I cant see a gradual break up hurting any less. Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Passive aggressive, indeed. This thread could go on for years with Brian still sitting on the fence hoping others make the decisions he's too weak and afraid to make. Meanwhile, this child will grow up with serious self esteem issues and she'll be posting somewhere on this forum wondering why she is in a f'd up family dynamic. Why she was some dirty secret. I truly hope that the OW finds a decent man who will love her and her daughter. I also hope the BS pulls her head out of the sand and divorces Brian and makes a life for herself that isn't based on lies and deceit. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I think this coming week I'm going to brush over the topic of splitting up a little and see how she responds. Then I'm going to continue bringing it up every 3 or 4 days. Perhaps, some day she just might have enough of my comments and out of frustration and anger just tell me, "Ok, let's end it." I'm going to test it out next week and see how it goes. You, sir, are a major wuss. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brian1 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 Why rock the boat? Once a week is perfect. You see your daughter, you get laid and you're with your wife the other 6 days. Sounds great, doesn't it? But my affair has gotten to the stage of being similar to a marriage. Both women bickering and complaining about the same things, almost. Just two months ago my girlfriend told me, "I'm going to need the gardener to come by twice each week...I need a bigger car for the safety of our daughter..." What the hell kind of demands are those from my girlfriend. But of course I complied. But I think the main reason a person goes into an affair is to have something different. Not double trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brian1 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 I completely agree with mollyme. You have a better understanding of what the potential fallout can be because you know what it's like to go through the infertility treatment process. All anyone has to do is look at how some of the BS's reacted due to a d-day, so why is it such a stretch to think someone in the OP's BS position could be worse? She already feels like she failed at having children and then she finds out her husband has bee raising his own child (and family) in secret?! I think the OP is in deep denial about what the potental fallout will be. He's hanging out in his own little bubble making assumptions about how the OTHER people will react and who he wants to be with more when the reality is he has no clue. Correct you are. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Sounds great, doesn't it? But my affair has gotten to the stage of being similar to a marriage. Both women bickering and complaining about the same things, almost. Just two months ago my girlfriend told me, "I'm going to need the gardener to come by twice each week...I need a bigger car for the safety of our daughter..." What the hell kind of demands are those from my girlfriend. But of course I complied. But I think the main reason a person goes into an affair is to have something different. Not double trouble. You poor thing. How unreasonable of your wife and the mother of your child to expect you to help with chores. Maybe it's time you found another OW. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brian1 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 I'm just smh, brian you go on and on "my daughter!, I'm a father! I must provide and be a dad!" but you leave things up to "perhaps, one day, and just might" I realize that. My procrastination is at off-the-chart levels. I'll be shocked and relieved when I finally do it. But you're right, the one who suffers most with my procrastinating is my daughter. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brian1 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Share Posted February 22, 2013 You poor thing. How unreasonable of your wife and the mother of your child to expect you to help with chores. I have no problems with doing chores. Maybe it's time you found another OW. Not a chance! I learned my lesson this first time. Link to post Share on other sites
wisernow Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I realize that. My procrastination is at off-the-chart levels. I'll be shocked and relieved when I finally do it. But you're right, the one who suffers most with my procrastinating is my daughter. Words, words, words.... If you really took that to heart, you'd fix this. Today! Not in 10 months or 10 years, now. But you won't, because you're a coward and the person you're most afraid of hurting is yourself. Your daughter is collateral damage. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 We've also had a lot of good experiences and memories over the 5 years. It's almost like realizing you have to stab your mother in the heart to save her from her suffering from an illness. "Almost like"??? You are asking us to compare our love for our MOTHER with your 5 year relationship with your mistress with whom your relationship is "mainly motivated by the sex and can be overcome with time"?!?!?!.... And comparing stabbing your mother in the heart with telling your mistress that she has to live without you? Let see....stab in the heart=death....living without you & finding happiness with another man=blessing. Hmmm...seems to me that there is very little comparison. Seriously, Brian. This is not normal. None of this is about love for anyone or anything except your ego and your willie...and the fact that you can't see or admit that indicates a very serious psychopathy. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Cali408 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Man up and do something instead of whining on here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Man up and do something instead of whining on here. I honestly don't believe he is capable of it. Look how many times he has avoided doing anything he said he was going to do. It just ain't gonna happen... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cali408 Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 As I said before, if he hasn't done anything, why rock the boat? He's lived a lie this wrong. This is why I have a hunch Brian might be a troll. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CarboniteCammy Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 "Seriously, Brian. This is not normal. None of this is about love for anyone or anything except your ego and your willie...and the fact that you can't see or admit that indicates a very serious psychopathy. Yes. This. He's a sociopath. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Something is amiss. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 THERE IS A REASON I DID NOT PARTICIPATE IN THIS THREAD (until now*). SERIOUSLY?!?!?!! 62 PAGES OF ATTENTION THIS GUY HAS GOTTEN!!! :sick: this is exactly the attention he is craving and he's getting it here at LS instead of his "women". It doesn't matter the "kind" of attention, so long as he is getting Something. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 I agree. Something is off here. I've never read such cold responses to such a serious matter before. Scary. If it is real, my guess is that the people in is life have no clue who he really is. Maybe he likes the fact that those closest to him don't really know him and he likes that he can manipulate them. It's a power play. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
spice4life Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 THERE IS A REASON I DID NOT PARTICIPATE IN THIS THREAD (until now*). SERIOUSLY?!?!?!! 62 PAGES OF ATTENTION THIS GUY HAS GOTTEN!!! :sick: this is exactly the attention he is craving and he's getting it here at LS instead of his "women". It doesn't matter the "kind" of attention, so long as he is getting Something. Totally agree!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 GEEEESH! and I consider myself a "nice" poster!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Brian I wrote a new post. Its the one that says is cheating worth it. I put it under the wrong section but I want you to read it because its true and It may help you understand how bad someone can be hurt from cheating. I hope you come clean soon so their wont be any more pain caused. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen Petals Posted February 22, 2013 Share Posted February 22, 2013 Not a chance! I learned my lesson this first time. If I had a dime for every time a MM said that...LOL...when and if this thing blows up I would like to know how long before the next OW wanders into your life...remember, "this time it'll be different" cause she'll be "amazing and nothing like anyone you have ever known before" and "so special" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cali408 Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 Dear Moderater, Can we now stop this post? Thanks, Cali 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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