Men Who Won't Take "No" For An Answer

[OpenBook]

Either way, just have your own healthy boundaries and don't let it bother you. If you are consistently attracting guys like this maybe it says something about you?

 

Hmm, I'm not sure. It hasn't happened to me on a consistent basis, but randomly, every once in awhile. In my current scenario he initiated First Contact, totally out of the blue, after he came across my online professional profile. I've received other contacts through that, and there was no post-"No" wrastling with those. And anyway I don't feel inclined to bend myself into a pretzel just to ward off the occasional beast. I like my profile just the way it is; it reflects who I truly am and what I have accomplished.

 

Which leads to this thought - what DOES it take to convey a firm "No" so that a pushy guy will back off?

 

And conversely, what kinds of signals do we women give off that give you guys the impression that our "No" might mean something else?

[Emilia]

A little off topic, but how do woman handle this in a bar\club\party when they are out with friends and in a relationship and the SO is not present? If you have a friendly conversation with the guy and he interprets it the wrong way, asks for your phone # or makes an advance on you, how do you handle it? What if he does not "hear" you and continues?

 

Thanks

 

It's not so bad usually when the woman isn't alone. Men don't like making fools of themselves in front of others.

[Babolat]

It's not so bad usually when the woman isn't alone. Men don't like making fools of themselves in front of others.

 

I asked as my GF went out with some friends a few weeks ago, two of which were her male friends, and ended up giving her phone # to a guy who she said she was having a good conversationw with and saw it as just that.

 

When I asked why she gave out her # she said he would not leave her alone, even followed her to the cab they all got and jumped in, that she just wanted to get rid of him. She said she knows it was a mistake especially when he texted her later to meet up for breakfast. She did not reply to the text once she knew who it was.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Works more often than not, especially on women who say yuck at first. Open, I know more than a few relationships that have started with the woman being hesitant and the guy pursuing like crazy. I'm in one right now. It's not because you think the girl is weak minded, there are just a lot of women who are turned on by a guy who isn't easily swayed or influenced when he wants something. That are looking for someone who meets the solid male role in a partner. Large and in charge.

 

The guy you're dealing with, his tactics have worked before so he's using them again. Simple as that really.

 

I have some experience in this myself! I agree with Gaius....for a change.

[TheGuard13]

Its kind of drilled into men (at least it used to be) to be persistent.

 

That, to some men, means not taking "No" for an answer.

[gaius]

I have some experience in this myself! I agree with Gaius....for a change.

Thanks baby. I enjoy hearing that once in a while.

 

Open, is he being mean to you? The worst I ever do usually is banish certain women from my sight, but I can count on one hand the number who have gotten that treatment. I remember kind of discussing this with you in the thread about the dental assistant. I imagine you're forced to still interact with him on a regular basis which he might be mistaking for interest.

[OpenBook]

No he's not mean (not yet anyway), leaning more towards rude. I sent him a final "No" email last night, kept it short & sweet, and I haven't heard from him all day today, so maybe that did the trick. I hope! And no I don't have to interact with him anymore, thank goodness! Although you never know in the professional world I'm in, who you're going to run into down the road... That's another reason I feel compelled to keep it polite and not resort to more... visceral methods.