whoknows??? Posted August 25, 2004 Share Posted August 25, 2004 Well my girl and I have tried to get back together twice now, we dated in high school, but I joined the Marine Corps shortly after, and we tried once but the distance was too much for her. And she asked to slow things down, and since all I really want is to have a relationship with her when I get home, I let it be, well she immediately started dating another guy. And when I went home to visit we "hooked up" and all of the sudden I was the other guy! Anyways, our feelings start up everytime we see each other, and when we are apart she wants to date other people. Whats up with that? But anyways she came and stayed with me for a week, and when she went home she called everyday, which was great. But she moved into a new apartment and got a new job, and her college classes will start in 5 days, we never get to talk anymore, me personally if I loved someone, I dont care what I am doing I will MAKE time to talk to her, not FIND time. And then she is going out clubbing all night and going over to these random guys houses. Whom she barely knows. But anyways, it seemed to me like she was distancing herself from me. And wanted to date other people again, so I decided I would break things off and give her that freedom with out having to have the burden of hurting my feelings again. Well instead of being okay with it she flew off the handle, and was really pissed. And then I talked to her today and she is totally fine and even went as far as to say that she would date me when I get out of the Marine Corps(one year left) when I asked her if she would. How can she be pissed one day and then fine the next? Should I have tried to ride things out and not break things off? Or was it just a charade? Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted August 25, 2004 Share Posted August 25, 2004 I think she was pissed because you stopped her ability to use you. Her true colors came out. Then she realized she better play nicey nice so she can continue to use you when its convenient for her. She obviously wants no commitment which equals free lunch. If she trully cared, the relationship would stand while you were gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whoknows??? Posted August 25, 2004 Author Share Posted August 25, 2004 yeah I guess I can see that NOW. The thing is she always cast me aside, until recently she said she really wanted to make things work. I mean when I told her that, she actually told me to tell my parents that I F***ed up and not her. And I have some pictures I am supposed to send her, and she said just send the pictures thats all I want. I never looked at it that way, but thanks man. And she is really the only girl that I ever let really "run" things because I knew I was an a**h*** in the past so instead of being firm I was actually too soft. I still love her, but with time that too shall pass! thanks again. Whew that was easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whoknows??? Posted September 2, 2004 Author Share Posted September 2, 2004 well things have gotten weirder. I did break things off for right now. So we can pursue a relationship once I am out of the Marine Corps, and like I said she was pissed at first. And she finally told me why she was mad. She said you dont talk to someone about marriage and then decide you dont want to be together just like that, because I did let her know very suddenly. And since (i cant remember who posted it) told me that she was just using me. I stopped making all of the calls, I would only call to return her phone calls. And I put my foot down about staying apart until I am out. And she finally conceded and told me I made a good point. She is no longer pissed, and she calls more often. And tells me she loves me. (she doesnt say I love you lightly!) So would it be worth getting back together once I am out of the Marine Corps? I mean those were my intentions, but would it be an easier relationship once I am out of the Marine Corps. Link to post Share on other sites
rogueless Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 Anythings possible. If you choose to resume the relationship when you get back, take it VERY slow to make sure you know the REAL her. Anyone can hold it together for a short time. She sounds like one of those persons who wants you when you back off, but when you get too close, she backs off. Make sense? I think she will show her a** again. Like I said, take your time with her. Make sure she is who you THINK she is. I dated a man for two years only to find out he was NOT who I thought he was. I hope you have better luck than I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whoknows??? Posted September 6, 2004 Author Share Posted September 6, 2004 She has always been the kind of person that has to have someone there in person. And honestly I dont think she has ever learned what love really is because she has never had somebody that she loved when they were with her and when they were away as well. She is faithful in that she wont cheat but she will break things off and pursue other relationships just because the distance was too hard. I have got her to start calling more often and to calm down and quit getting angry all the time. but thanks for the constant advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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