gary5678 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 When I was 13, I had cancer, which removed me from just about all social activities until I was 17. By then, I had no idea how to go about making friends or looking for dates. I have since gotten better at making friends, but I am still completely lost on how to start dating. I get myself to go to out to things like a meetup group somewhat frequently, but once I get there I usually stay to myself and hope someone will approach me. I have never understood how I can start dating, as I missed that when growing up. I am 24 now, and have no idea if anyone has ever been interested in me. All of the women I have expressed any interest in did not feel the same way. I have left side facial paralysis, so I can only smile with half my mouth. I also have other side effects from the cancer, like having bad balance. I guess what I am asking is what the best ways are to start looking for dates for someone who has never dated before.
Ladybugz Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 start with being yourself. read some books , maybe some youtube about the best steps to follow. and get to know woman en-general. you can start with a simple hi and small conversation. after you have speak to her a couple of times and you like her ask her on a date. like would you like to go on a date with me? and then you can go for dinner or something and get to know her better. and if she is interested you will see at the date or after that after you massage her.
normal person Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 after you have speak to her a couple of times and you like her ask her on a date. like would you like to go on a date with me? That sounds a little too formal. Usually if you say something like "we should hang out sometime," it's less intense but it still gets the point across. Around other people, try to be confident and not meek. It's not the worst thing in the world if you're quiet, but keep in mind if you never contribute anything to an experience, no one's opinion of you will go from indifferent to positive. If you're funny, talented, smart, charming, etc make sure you demonstrate it in a tactful way that isn't overbearing. Search for the interesting qualities in other people and be genuinely interested in them. Ask, learn more. If you do this stuff, you shouldn't have too many problems. If a girl likes you, the odds are she won't say it outright, but she'll make it pretty clear nonverbally.
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