newmoon Posted January 29, 2013 Share Posted January 29, 2013 i posted a similar post elsewhere but go responses :-( maybe here... my bf just moved into a nice apartment from a very small studio he was in. he's now in a 2-bedroom and thinks he's moved up to such a degree he can be arrogant. he is also not coming by or talking to me much anymore. i feel like i've lost him to his new place; he was only visiting me because i had a nicer place in an upscale area and it was a getaway from his old small studio which he really disliked and was in the ghetto. now that he's happier in the new place he wants to spend his nights there and doesn't visit me anymore. i cannot visit/sleep over w/him because he lives with an eldery parent. has anyone else ever had this happen? i feel like now that something positive happened for my bf he doesn't need me anymore and feels like his life/'options' have opened up. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 29, 2013 Share Posted January 29, 2013 If he was only using you because you had a nicer place than him at the time, do you REALLY want to be with him? I wouldn't. If he truly cared about you, nothing would stand in the way of spending time with you. Not that your answer to this question has any bearing on my answer, but how long have you been together? Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted January 29, 2013 Share Posted January 29, 2013 It seems you've been given the heave ho. This dude is shallow and apparently heartless toward you to not even communicate. I have never had this happen. But I did have a best buddy who I was in a band with for years and we were tight. WE always had each other in stitches with out humor. Well, his father won a big law suit and started giving him an allowance of $2K a week (on top of his salary he was getting on his day job). It wasn't long before I started getting the sense that I was a peon to be put up with rather than the person he used to look up to. It still angers me. I lost my best male friend and it could only be that damn money he had no part in earning. So the hell with him. I called him up before I moved to Virginia from NY 3 years ago after not speaking for a couple of years. I told him I wanted to just reach out because we may never see each other again. I made him two CD's of obscure Brit pop stuff we used to love. Gave him my new e-mail and phone. Got no thanks. Major middle finger to him now. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted January 29, 2013 Share Posted January 29, 2013 i posted a similar post elsewhere but go responses :-( maybe here... my bf just moved into a nice apartment from a very small studio he was in. he's now in a 2-bedroom and thinks he's moved up to such a degree he can be arrogant. he is also not coming by or talking to me much anymore. i feel like i've lost him to his new place; he was only visiting me because i had a nicer place in an upscale area and it was a getaway from his old small studio which he really disliked and was in the ghetto. now that he's happier in the new place he wants to spend his nights there and doesn't visit me anymore. i cannot visit/sleep over w/him because he lives with an eldery parent. has anyone else ever had this happen? i feel like now that something positive happened for my bf he doesn't need me anymore and feels like his life/'options' have opened up. have you talked him about it? There might be more to the story. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 have you talked him about it? There might be more to the story. Yeah, I agree. Why don't you ask him? He may be blowing you off, he might not. You won't know until you ask. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Your past threads kind of read like you and your bf have issues and maybe it is time to end things. Seems like things haven't been good for a while now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mavendark Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Also sounds like he just wants time alone. How long has it been since he moved in? Maybe he's just relishing in his new space...but that's me being optimistic. Like Lauriebell said, you should ask him about it, just bring up the topic calmly, "I know it's a reprieve for you to finally have found a great place to live, but now I feel like we are not spending as much time together. I miss having you over at my place, is there a reason you don't want to come over anymore?" etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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