superb Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 ...is drinking all of my wine and smoking all of my cigarettes. I picked him up tonight from his dysfunctional relationships house to rescue him from the dramatics. I'm not really happy about this. Him at MY house. I have a normal family life. I love him but his problems are too much for me. Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Does he have somewhere else to go? If so, give him the boot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author superb Posted January 30, 2013 Author Share Posted January 30, 2013 Does he have somewhere else to go? If so, give him the boot. He's working on a backup plan. I'm not that mad now, he needs someone to be his friend so I'll do what I can. I just can't do much. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Did you tell him he's not allowed to touch it unless he pays you to replace it first? Link to post Share on other sites
Author superb Posted January 31, 2013 Author Share Posted January 31, 2013 Did you tell him he's not allowed to touch it unless he pays you to replace it first? No, red wine makes me puke anyway. Principle I guess. I'm 34, I have 5 kids I raise solo and a full time job so sometimes I don't understand how one adult can't care for himself. Then again, not everyone can be as awesome as me. So I'm not sweating the small stuff anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Why should he? He knows people like you will always give him a free ride. Until you don't. THEN...then, he would learn to grow up out of necessity. Who was it who went and rescued him, again? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Why should he? He knows people like you will always give him a free ride. Until you don't. THEN...then, he would learn to grow up out of necessity. Who was it who went and rescued him, again? Agreed. Let him fend for himself and he'll figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author superb Posted February 1, 2013 Author Share Posted February 1, 2013 I agree w/ you guys. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 I agree w/ you guys.Great! Does that mean you've given him a two-week timeline for getting out of your house? Or you're charging him rent? Or do you just agree but have no desire to change YOUR part of the dance? Consider that every time you 'help' him, you are ensuring he stays stuck and incapable of having a decent life, that much more. Especially at his age. It's time to cut the strings, superb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author superb Posted February 3, 2013 Author Share Posted February 3, 2013 Great! Does that mean you've given him a two-week timeline for getting out of your house? Or you're charging him rent? Or do you just agree but have no desire to change YOUR part of the dance? Consider that every time you 'help' him, you are ensuring he stays stuck and incapable of having a decent life, that much more. Especially at his age. It's time to cut the strings, superb. lol- cut the strings? Really? I live in Michigan, it's cold here. I'm not throwing a family member into the street. I agree with the other things said here and I was venting when I originally posted this thread. I know what to do. I haven't taken him in at all in 6 years until now. Thought I made it pretty clear when I said "there isn't much I can do for him", because I can't. I have children and a job to worry about, much less another adult. He knows this. He's leaving soon. Link to post Share on other sites
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