Spark1111 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 I say this with the utmost sincerity from the very depths of my heart.... I have been the object of gossip which unfortunately for me, my children happened to BE TRUE! MY H did have an affair with a co-worker for almost 2 years, and I was the very last to know what the entire community, friends and family were suspicious of and gossiping about.....because it WAS TRUE! I could care less about the speculation of some anonymous couple on the Internet EXCEPT as it pertained to the perception of a recently BS now divorcing. And I agreed that it could be an affair and I too, speculated affairs everywhere after having my safe little world bursted by my H's affair. Everyone else totally missed the point. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Everyone else totally missed the point. Just as you miss my point Spark Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Well if you are that over-sensitive about someone posting a thread about a couple of people no one knows then Lord knows it's highly unlikely that you'd ever put yourself in a position that anyone could spread that kind of gossip about yourself, so in a way, it's good for you to know how you would feel if you were in those people's position so you will never put yourself there. Your point being? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Everyone on this thread consider yourself spanked! Spanked for gossiping. Spanked for judging that it was an affair rather then a married couple. Spanked for judging that it was a married couple rather then an affair couple. Spanked for being a prude and not liking too much PDA. Spanked for swapping uglies in view of kids and people that don't like too much PDA. Annnddddd Spanked for having too much damn teen sex! This thread was fun. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Why do I feel as if someone is trying to undermine me..... Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 I thought the point was (not your point, the other point) that no matter how sketchy people might be acting out in public, the rest of us are all to assume it must be anything EXCEPT a couple of cheaters, we are not supposed to believe our own two eyes + intuition, are we? But isn't that exactly how cheaters pull the wool over their betrayed spouses's eyes too? It's very understandable why so many posters are pretending not to understanding your point, but I think it's perfectly clear. THANK YOU! We all judge, every day. And yes....sometimes that couple arriving in separate cars in the BK parking lot sucking face MAY be cheating, and MAY be classless. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 I just said my point. But I'll try another way--what I meant is, it's a good thing that you are so over-sensitive to the mere perception that something perfectly innocent you might be doing out in public, could be viewed falsely as evidence of your cheating, because that means you would never ever actually cheat, since you are so sensitive to being perceived as cheating even when you have no reason to care about what others think about you. OK Pez (which I suspect may not be your only username on LS) I have not said one way or another whether this couple are cheating, married, brother and sister, anything at all.... All I have said is that we don't know, this is all just gossip based on one poster's perception of something they saw. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Everyone on this thread consider yourself spanked! Spanked for gossiping. Spanked for judging that it was an affair rather then a married couple. Spanked for judging that it was a married couple rather then an affair couple. Spanked for being a prude and not liking too much PDA. Spanked for swapping uglies in view of kids and people that don't like too much PDA. Annnddddd Spanked for having too much damn teen sex! This thread was fun. How does it rate on the "classy" meter for those that enjoyed the spanking 3 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 No, it's not "gossip" in the context of this thread, it's one person's observation of certain behaviors which he as the observer associates with being evidence of cheating behavior, and also his judgment that it's rather classless. It would only be "gossip" if the people he observed were people known to him, people known to any of the other people posting in this thread, or somehow indirectly connected through a shared social circle. But it's not, is it? Funny. By my standards this is gossip and not the thing to do Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 My husband called and he will be bringing me a burger with extra onions tonight. Thanks 96nole 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Totally agree Frozen My H and I recently met a lovely couple old enough to be our parents and it was lovely to see how they acted with each other and how they obviously were still "getting busy" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Stop gossiping about other people please. My personal observation, I agree (as does my H). But if other people such as you were to post about them then that would be wrong and unfair as you have no idea of what really happened other than what I have said. My personal perception of events. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 You NEVER got a vibe that a couple was having an affair by their public behavior? Never? Since you ask, no not really. But I don't tend to spend my time pontificating about strangers I pass in the world. I tend to keep my focus on myself and those who matter in my world. Judging others just isn't my thing. I don't gossip and I don't ponder about others. I know people that do this and I have always wondered if maybe there life is just a lot more boring to always be looking outside than inward. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted February 2, 2013 Senior Moderators Share Posted February 2, 2013 Pez and others...please keep your comments mature, civil, courteous and on topic or leave the site and go see a movie. Many thanks in advance! Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Who the hell is this putz? you better get out of this thread! Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Which then begs the question of why you are even posting in this thread. Like Anne1707, you seem to be saying that everyone else except you is silly and wrong to be posting in this thread. Why not follow your own advice and stop posting in subjects which are pointless and tiresome to you? Since you're non-judgmental, surely you understand that it's self-contradictory of you to be so judgmental of others who DO think OP's topic is a legitimate topic for discussion. Is this mature and civil Pez? I have never called anyone silly nor have I said that this is tiresome or pointless. I think you need to slow down on your reading and make sure you understand before you comment. Kisses. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Wasn't there another thread about "poofing"? I think we are going to see some poofing! :laugh: 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellin Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Why do I feel as if someone is trying to undermine me..... Unfortunately it happens a lot around here... And it's not very classy.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Since staying classy seems to be getting lost in the translation here, ended. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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