joeyNoelle Posted August 26, 2004 Share Posted August 26, 2004 Hi guys my dilemma is this, the guy i was seeing broke up with me 6 weeks ago and i still see him around about twice a week as we study in the same building. We are very friendly we chat etc, he will see me and come up and nudge me and chat or poke me as he wallks past, always friendly and happy to see me. Basically we broke up because i was being difficult and acting aloof and distant because i wasn't sure what i wanted and niether was he i think, but he was very lovely , i just couldn't work out what my feelings were at the time.When we broke up he said that he just didn't think it was going to work and i went home feeling relieved. The first week back to classes he messaged me teling me how his first day was and how had i been? anyway last week i messaged him to see if he wanted to go for coffee , he agreed so we went. we had a great time chatting. i told him why i acted the way i did when we were together and he said thankyou for telling me thats the most meaningful thing anyone has said to me in a long time. i gave him a ride home and he said tonight has been really good we didn't have one little fight , i said yeh its good, (we never really fought just had weirdnessess) . Anyway i stopped the car and he lingered said thanks for the ride i said thats ok then he leaned forward but did nothing just kind of leaned in front of me.so i kissed him on the cheek and he said that was a realy good talk and hopped out and lingered i said seeya and he said seya and that was that, So what do you guys think about that? Does it mean anything or is he just being friendly? Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted August 26, 2004 Share Posted August 26, 2004 Oh, I think he's interested. He's kinda gently testing the waters to see if things will be good between you. Keep hanging out and see what happens. Let him make the first move but be tender and sweet to let him know it's okay if he wants to. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
Author joeyNoelle Posted August 31, 2004 Author Share Posted August 31, 2004 i haven't seen him since that night we went out i mean i have seen him but it was the back of him going into a lecture etc, anyway i did se him one time i was talking to a friend and he walked past and i said hi and he said hi back ,it was really weird he seemed grumpy and looked very tired ,i think he had been up studying all night but anyway he walked past again and my friend said hi and he just went hi and i said you look tired and he just went yeh and walked off so now i think any signals i got before were nothing. do you guys think that was weird or am I making a big deal Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Reading every little sign is -- of course -- completely normal, and will drive you nuts. The coffee etc. connection did seem very positive, but he hasn't taken the initiative to follow up on that so far. You'll just have to wait and see. If he's feeling stressed, now isn't the time he'll start up anything. Keep acting kind, sweet, and level-headed. Keep waiting for him to make a move -- even if it's just to reciprocate on coffee. There's reason for hope; I still think that. But don't put everything on hold, hoping he'll come back, either. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
Author joeyNoelle Posted September 6, 2004 Author Share Posted September 6, 2004 hey i just wanted to say thaks for your advice Uriel, but i have decided its enough, this morning i woke up feeling great , i was walking down the street at lunchtime , coffee in hand and i had this overwhelming feeling of whatever is going to happen next is going to be great, its another begginning, whatever is waiting out there for me I'm ready for it , bring it on! Then later that day i went to get some money out and as i was crossing the street i was watching the cars coming and i looked up, on the other side of the road there was my ex,waiting for a bus. He was staring at me , he waved , I waved back and kept walking. Its time to move on , basically for the first time i can picture being happy with someone else and whatever happens happens. There are no rules and things never follow expectation. I just needed time to let go,no-one could talk me out of my feelings ,it needed to be something i realised myself.I'm not saying all give up hope , cut your losses move on , but accept what your feeling and realize that anything is possible second chances do happen and sometimes they don't and sometimes we are just meant to hold onto our memories and enjoy that persons special part in our lives for what it is, we don't know what the future holds but thats the best part. Link to post Share on other sites
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