Andyrew004 Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Hello all, I found this forum on google and decided to join and converse with others about my and other relationships. So I have been with this girl for about 9months. I have had several short relationships (I'm pick AND have had bad luck at times), but this is the first girl that I can actually see a future with. We are both Christians (have not had sex and choose not to until marriage) and both share a passion for art and music while still staying nerdy. With her, she goes to an all girl high school and I'm her second boyfriend but her first kiss. I do believe that we're as good of a match as 2 people could be. We trust each other, communicate about just about everything. When there's a problem, we talk it through rather than sweeping it under the rug. We dream about getting married some day. I currently go to a local university, but she is a far better student than me and wishes to get out of the small-ish city we live in to grow. It hurts me to know that she would willingly choose being far over being a short drive away, but I know that I can't hold her back from what she would love to do. She says that we could make it work and I truly believe that she means that right now. But is that a naive statement? How likely is that to change when she is far from me and around so many other guys. I've talked to her about this and she loves the fact that I care so much about this subject, but she is actually considering staying in the state now. I just want to be honest with her about how I feel, but NOT hold her back with guilt at the same time. Is it worth the pain? I know that even if she decided to go away, I would stay true and I know that she would too. But there's always that small bit of doubt in me that she may find someone else (not cheat). I'm not sure how to feel about this. I know that people have made long distance work, but most people seem to say that college ruins relationships. What can I do? Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Please tell me you're not still in your teens.... OF COURSE her education is more important than your relationship right now! Her education is a step towards her getting a career and a profession, and if it means moving away, then that's what it means! if the feelings are adequately strong, you will last the separation. If you're both very young - then you might as well end it now. because your circles of friends will be different, you'll cultivate different interests, meet new people, and grow up. And apart. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 If you love her, you will encourage her to go to school wherever she wants, wherever it happens to be located, near or far. Do not give her a guilt trip about it. If it's meant to be, you will make it through the distance. Remember that she will be home for holidays, summers, etc. It hurts me to know that she would willingly choose being far over being a short drive away, but I know that I can't hold her back from what she would love to do. You have to understand that this decision is not about you. It's about her and her future, so please do not take any decision she makes personally. Link to post Share on other sites
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