Taking control and getting women to seek your approval

[yumyumyum]

This is really a question about when/which situation is best to 'hit on' a woman? (please bare with me!)

 

You can have many levels of relationship with someone....strangers who have just met, acquaintances, friends, close friends etc.

 

IS IT 'SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE' TO INDICATE YOUR ROMANTIC INTEREST IN A WOMAN IN ALL OF THESE SITUATIONS?

 

I only ask because I am going to be meeting a lot of new people soon. I have made friends with women in the past...secretly liked them...left it too long...asked them out...and ruined a friendships.

 

Part of attracting a woman seems to be making HER seek YOUR approval. YOU DO THIS BY SHOWING YOUR INTEREST STRAIGHT AWAY. If she responds, you can get stuck in. If she rejects...this is still good! Because you can show that you don't care!!!!!!! That you still want to be around her...but you are not going to cry over her rejection.

...This "FAIR ENOUGH" approach seems to drive some women crazy. They cannot understand why their rejection is not devastating. They seem surprised that their approval actually means very little! It seems to get them thinking/more curious and THEY seek out YOUR approval!

 

From what I can tell. The act of being rejected gives this opportunity to flip the tables. To snatch control back! And having been someone who has always sought female approval...I like this idea. I kind of want to do it with every female I meet...sometimes it wont work, but I like the idea of trying it. When I have tried it...I kind of enjoyed the way it made women flirt with me and seek me out.

 

...just say if this has a hint of the control freak/power maniac about it.

[yumyumyum]

...to clarify, I think what I mean is is it ok to indicate my interest in a woman if I barely know her...if a conversation hasn't gone well...or if there is no evidence that she likes me....BUT I LIKE HER.

 

Is it okay to try and 'influence' her attraction when none exists/none is likely to exist...as it stands?

 

I am going to try this anyway I think...as like I have said, SHE IS FREE TO RESIST/IGNORE ME IF SHE WANTS! I am not too fussed if it doesn't work...I will get over it and there will be other opportunities to try it, and other things, another day.

Edited February 3, 2013 by yumyumyum

[normal person]

 

From what I can tell. The act of being rejected gives this opportunity to flip the tables. To snatch control back! And having been someone who has always sought female approval...I like this idea.

 

Not that I really agree or disagree, but be careful with how you do this. If you're one of those guys who will act interested in a girl, get politely rejected, then say "Whatever bitch, I didn't like you anyways," then the joke's on you. Injecting some vitriol into the situation isn't going to make you seem any more attractive or any less of an oblivious moron.