Malia25 Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 So I finally found the courage to ask out my crush to lunch/coffee this past week (via email as this is our only form of communication). He wrote me back quickly the next morning to let me know that he was really busy on weekdays (we both work full-time), but he is available on the weekends. So I let him know I was already planning to spend some time this weekend at a coffee shop working on some things. I gave him a time and place to see if it would work with him. He ended up writing back that he just found out family will be in town, so this weekend probably wouldn't work, but that we should "play it ear" instead. He then asked for my number so that he could reach me. (Keep in mind, we are practically strangers at this point still.) I've become pretty good at the whole "no expectations" thing, so I really have no expectations of this whole situation. I plan to let it play out naturally, but I'm just curious....what do you think he's thinking? LOL. He's available on weekends AND he asked for my number. Those are good signs, right? It's not flat out rejection, I suppose. Ha. If a female you barely know randomly asked you to lunch, would you assume she is interested? The terrible thing is I've had my mind on this guy for 4 months and I finally built up the nerve to ask him out - and once I did it, it was a relief, but I also stopped caring. I mean, I care...but if he is not interested, then I'm totally ok with that. I guess the "chase" left me tired in the end. haha. Obvi, I would love it if things worked out, but if not - I tried and I'm glad for that! *whispers* Do you think he's going to call after all?? (HAHA. can't help wondering these things. oy vay.) Link to post Share on other sites
neveragain34 Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 I don't like "let's play it by ear". That's usually what I tell people when I don't want to set plans in stone in case something better comes along. Maybe his family is really in town so give it one shot and if continues to play it by ear after that, then I'd move on. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 The whole "let's play it by ear" means that he considers you as a passing option. I'd move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Malia25 Posted February 4, 2013 Author Share Posted February 4, 2013 Thanks for the responses. I feel I have moved on in a sense because I'm not exactly "waiting" on him or our plans. If he contacts me for next weekend or after (which I won't even be available) - then cool. If not, I'll continue moving forward. I'd imagine the month of February scares off guys. LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 I get crazy busy sometimes for a few months in spurts. And I hate to cancel appointments, dates, or neglect obligations. So, sometimes I am a play it by ear person. If I take someone's number, it's likely because although I can't put time aside at the moment, I will. And I do. And they always seem surprised. Link to post Share on other sites
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