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So me and my girlfriend have been together for about four months, but we had been friends, and liked each other for about two years. I'm 17 and she's 18, I was a virgin, never had a girlfriend and only kissed 1 girl before her. She's had sex about 5 times before me, and about 4 girlfriends, and kissed an uncountable amount of people.

 

She had a boyfriend in the last two years we knew each other, and she had always flirted with me, talked about sex with me and told me she liked me while she was with this boy.

 

I have her facebook password and she has mine, lately I've been going through her inboxes, old and new. I know it sounds controlling and pathetic but I can't help it. Her old, she flirted and spoke about sex with nearly every boy she spoke to, she spoke to them the same as she spoke to me. I've been going through her new and there's nothing to complain about but she does kisses to boys, sometimes more than 1? I know it seems petty but I don't know... I don't do kisses to girls, despite if they do it to me.

 

I said I think any boy could be me and it's only chance we got together, it could of been anyone, she said if she would of got with a different guy she liked, she'd of left him for me at the drop of a hat.

 

So now I'm thinking, well, what if she finds someone else and she just leaves me for him?

 

I don't know what to do, I don't have a reason to leave her and I don't want to either, I love her so much and I'm pretty sure she feels the same way. What do I do?

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They are just kisses, she is just the type of person to have kisses at the end of emails, she probably does this for her female friends too..

If you have found no reason to doubt her, then trust her, its your own choice. At the moment she is with you, and given you no reason to distrust her but a history, my husband was a playboy, who slept with 9 different women in 1 year and even cheated on his gf with 2 other women, one of them was me, I didnt know this at the time, but my point is, in the end he chose to be with me.

She sees something more in you than those other guys.

She can be faithful, and maybe if you accuse her,or give her a hard time before she's actually done anything to hurt you. You may eventually push her into finding comfort somewhere else.

Trust your own instincts.

Just be the best boyfriend you can be, and she will never feel the need to be with anyone else.

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Well let's see. You had no problem talking about sex while she was with her ex boyfriend, you two were friends "liked" each other, so there was some form of cheating there.

 

You start off a relationship like this, it's always on a shaky foundation because if she can do that to him then she can do it to you. You "trust" each other to have passwords, but then you read her emails.

 

Doomed.

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Well let's see. You had no problem talking about sex while she was with her ex boyfriend, you two were friends "liked" each other, so there was some form of cheating there.

You start off a relationship like this, it's always on a shaky foundation because if she can do that to him then she can do it to you. You "trust" each other to have passwords, but then you read her emails.

 

Doomed.

 

 

There it is, straight to the point.

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He's admitted it himself.

He's found nothing to make him not trust her.

It's his own insecurities and trust issues that have been making this relationship hard for him.

So he can sort that out.

Or leave.

I think if the passwords are shared, expect to have your emails read!

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