ceres12 Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 Had co-workers talk to me about this supposedly curse that happens every so often, is it true? The coworkers whom i have spoken to are much older and have been in their marrige for a very ong time some 15-30 years and all have said this has happened to them whether it was cheating, affairs, etc. Has anyone gone through this where every so many years something hits the marriage that can curse it to almost end up in separation or even divorce? I love my husband and am worried about how we would handle it . Whats your take on the 7 year itch? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 I'm have a bit of a new-age bent and the seven year itch was explained to me in a different way that I scoffed at when I heard about it in my early 20s and firmly believe now that I am approaching 50... When you are born, Saturn is in a certain place in the sky. It takes approximately 28 to 31 years for Saturn to return to that place in the sky where it was when you were born. This is known as your "Saturn return." During this time, a person traverses a major threshold in their life and their outlook and perspective change. As many people get married in their early 20s, it is often into their SEVENTH year of marriage that they literally change their perspective on what they want in life and - yes - many marriages do not survive it. I was told about this when I was about 25 and I tried to convince the person telling me what a load of hooey it was. Then I turned 32 and realized what a different person I was and how all I thought I had wanted in my 20s had changed. Theoretically, people go their Saturn return again between the ages of 56 to 60 (which explain why a lot of men that age buy red convertibles!). To me, it makes perfect sense now because I have seen how people change drastically during their 28th and 31st birthdays - how they "gel" into different people - and how many marriages that were started in their early- to mid-20s do not survive. To me, it is the Seven Year Itch but the majority of those experiencing the Seven Year Itch are, in fact, going through their Saturn Return. Google it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SexyQueen Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 we just had our 7th anniversary. I am bored with my man but he still loves me:( Link to post Share on other sites
NervisPervis Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 My wife stepped out for a little experimentation right at the 7 year anniversary mark. Might just be a coincidence. We were together for 3 years befor marrying, so does that make it a 10 year itch? Link to post Share on other sites
GoodupsEvil Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 7 year itch or Saturn return, the name is immaterial. People change, either growing together or apart. The forces pulling marriages together are greatly exceeded by those pulling marriages apart. it is far too easy to Lawyer Up and look for spouse #2, 3, 4.... There will always be some movement away from your partner. I feel it is a function of integrity, whether you chose to work on mending and rebuilding or elect to step out. In light of the changes we see our partners undergo that differ from those that occur to us, we can take afront (thats not who I married...he/she bores me now...) or we can focus on improving ourselves. I think eliminating any sense of entitlement and committing ourselves to honoring the commitment we made to marital partners is central. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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