birthday gifts not wanted

[newmoon]

often you hear people say 'do not get me anything' or 'i don't want to celebrate my b-day' ' idon't want a big deal made of it', etc and so on. if you happen to be one of these people - do you really mean that when you say it? would it really be totally ok to go the entire day and not have anyone wish you a happy b-day?

[jlindemann]

I tend to not believe people when they say that. But I make a HUGE deal over birthdays. Not just mine, but anyone's. Everyone should have one day out of the year where they feel like the world revolves around them (to an extent, obviously).

 

So I generally ignore people who say they don't want a big deal made over their birthday, and do it anyway. I still have friends, so I don't think it bothers them

 

I would be so disappointed if my birthday was "just another day", so I always try to make sure it isn't for anyone else!

[CC12]

often you hear people say 'do not get me anything' or 'i don't want to celebrate my b-day' ' idon't want a big deal made of it', etc and so on. if you happen to be one of these people - do you really mean that when you say it? would it really be totally ok to go the entire day and not have anyone wish you a happy b-day?

 

"Do not get me anything" and "I don't want a big deal made of it" is not the same thing as wanting nobody to wish you happy birthday.

 

If someone says they don't want any gifts or to have a big deal made of it, that's all it means. You should still at least acknowledge their birthday.

 

And if the person in question is a girlfriend, try extra hard to acknowledge her birthday in a non-obtrusive way. Say "Happy birthday, I hope you have a great day!" and instead of giving a gift, take her to do something special without making a big production out of it.

[TaraMaiden]

My H and I both said, this Christmas-just-gone, "Don't get me anything".

And we didn't.

 

First Christmas ever, in my whole life when I had absolutely nothing to open on the day, not even a card.

 

But I'm still breathing!!

[normal person]

If someone wants to wish me a happy birthday, I'll gladly say "thanks, I appreciate it."

 

On the other hand, I don't want anyone feeling obligated to get me a present if they don't have the money, or come to some party celebrating my birth if they don't have the time. I would never want anyone to have to indulge in a celebration that was all about "me me me." The kind of birthday parties I like are just nights out where you buy the person a drink if they want one and say some nice things. To me, anything more seems like overkill for someone over the age of 15.

[Got it]

I am not big on presents. I like gifts of experiences so I like to do stuff with the person.

 

But no normally if I tell someone not to get me something I mean it. I like to get wished a happy birthday but I don't go out of my way to remind people its my birthday. If they remember, great, if not, its okay.

[Els]

If someone says that, I'd just take them at their word. Not interested in second-guessing what they say. If they don't mean it, they sure as hell shouldn't say it.

 

Me, I'm not going to be saying anything like that in the foreseeable future. I love being spoiled on my birthday and spoiling loved ones on theirs.

[candie13]

I am not listening. What? No presents? Sure! No card? Sure!

 

you can bet your arse you're going to get the present and the card and the cake! That's that I'd do for my best friend, why wouldn't I do it for my bf? He can complain all he wants when he unwraps his present, blows in the candle and eats my home made cake.

 

It sucks to be in a relationship, I know!