PyroBunny Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Hi All, I would like to just get some input from outsiders on my little 'issue'. Ofcourse the trusted girlfriends were consulted but they can't really give me an unbiased answer. Here is my dilemma: I've been dating my bf for over a year now, things are great with normal couple issues thrown inbetween. About a week ago I go onto my facebook and see that he has gone and liked a page called 'Ultimate Boobs'. I click on the link and see the page is open so you can look at all the pictures without even 'liking' that page. Now, as we all know how facebook works, as soon as he liked that page, me and all his friends and family could see it in our news feed. The pictures on that page are of women with HUGE boobs and here I am with my normal B-cups. Naturally I felt a bit insulted and hurt that he has gone and openly liked big boobs and I don't have any. So I wanted to confront him about it, or atleast find out why he would do that so openly? (I have no problem with him watching porn etc, so why couldn't he check out the boobs in a more private manner???). So as a joke I sent him a picture of a really fugly chick with big boobs and made the caption - 'Here are some ultimate boobs to brighten your day'. He replied saying 'Nooooooo, not those!!'. I went on to ask if he likes big boobs and he said 'Yes but nice ones'. I then stated 'Oh, so are you even happy with my small boobs then?', he replies 'Yes ofcourse!'. But I still feel kinda hurt and the fact that its open on facebook makes it worse because now everyone can see it. If he wanted to check out the boobs he could have just gone through the page without liking it.... So, on one side I feel like I'm making a mountain out of a mole's heap, and on the other side I feel that he is being inconsiderate of my feelings. Am I being unreasonable??
Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Hey there:) I have DDs and I am not a big girl either.. Do you know what? A LOT of men PREFER perky B cups:) If I could magically change my breats and body, I would make myself more petite, with a C or B cup.... Personally, although I am not into women, I think smaller B cups are more of a turn on than larger breasts. About your boyfriend - my boyfriend loves thin, tanned chicks, with beautiful faces. Do you know what? That is not what I look like. Yet he loves me for all I am, even though he sees girls around that are hotter than me. Looks are superficial, and so long as he is attracted to you, that is all that matters:) It is not a beauty contest! It is a loving relationship! 1
pbjbear Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 If hes a good boyfriend overall not an issue. If he is doing this along with other insensitive rude tactless behavior I would be more worried. I have a certain body part I like on men that I look up sometimes...I wouldnt like it on Facebook though because I want everyone who looks at my Facebook to think Im a perfectly employable puritan woman 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 This thread made me :lmao: Sorry OP 2
Archgirl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I dunno, I think he kinda broke the unspoken rules of coupledom- you know where you both publically pretend that the other is the only guy/girl in the world you find attractive. I would t have a problem with him looking at boobs, I'd have a problem with the very public disrespect. It's a bit humiliating. 2
ptp Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 But I still feel kinda hurt and the fact that its open on facebook makes it worse because now everyone can see it. If he wanted to check out the boobs he could have just gone through the page without liking it.... So, on one side I feel like I'm making a mountain out of a mole's heap, and on the other side I feel that he is being inconsiderate of my feelings. Am I being unreasonable?? I can't speak for all guys or your BF only myself, but I have been a similar position. I also like "big boobs" and was in a long term relationship with a girl who had B cups. To be honest I couldn't be happier with her B cups.
Andy_K Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 This is why it's easier just to date a bisexual girl, then you can be all "Hey, those boobs look amazing" and she'll be like "wow, yeah they do!". All he's done here is like a facebook page. He's not rubbing anything in your face, criticising you, or making a big deal out of it. This is your insecurity getting to you here. Don't go looking for trouble/drama and just accept that he likes you, or he wouldn't be with you. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Chances are, nobody apart from you gave it a second thought. I would send him a picture of biiiig, nasty, droopy ones 1
Archgirl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Or actually, don't mention it again - start liking a bunch of naked muscle-y guy pages, like a new one everyday until he brings it up - hilarious! 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I think that's pretty tasteless myself...especially in a relationship. Unless you have a mutual understanding with your partner that those kind of things are small and meaningless and you both don't become offended/insecure over it. Different strokes for different folks when it comes to that. This is why communication is so important, it gets things settled or worked out before there is a misunderstanding and your ability to resolve issues in your relationship IMO will be a determining factor how long that relationship will last. Primarily however...this has more to do with your insecurity in your own body than it does with him liking some random boobies he's seen on the internet. You feel insecure over him liking something you do not have. (let's not mention it was just bad taste...on FB for all the family to see, I think it was a bad move..and I do agree he should conduct that in private if that's what makes you feel better or ok with it, and that you need to communicate) For him it's just a sexy picture of a girl that he gets to drool over...before you cry, hear me out. It's not the same as the way he feels about you, because he has...feelings...for you. Women often think that they are somehow competing with some online image, for men it's like looking at cars or whatever they are into...men just like to look, just to look...it doesn't override what they have in their lives or make them kick their Toyota outside just because their car doesn't fly down the street like some piece of junk from a fast and furious movie. All you need to do is tell him how you feel about the situation and explain to him what you'd like him to do instead or discuss a compromise if it's really that much of an issue....maybe you'll be more accepting of it when you find out he's just doing it for kicks with his friends on FB, or that it has nothing to do with you. However you're probably going to cry about it and it'll make you insecure, but I'm willing to gamble that you've had issues before you met this guy, I've never seen a girl just suddenly become insecure about these things once in a relationship...IME the women who feel insecure about their bodies will always find reasons or ways to exacerbate the insecurity, regardless of what you say or do. So keep in mind, this on the surface just looks like a simple thing and could possibly be resolved, but if you're someone who struggles a lot with self-worth and needs a lot of external validation to feel good, desired and wanted because you don't feel loved or desirable without a guy telling you that you're the greatest thing ever everyday or you start to freak out, then that's a whole other ball game. Some of these things may or may not pertain to you...just covering the bases, but you've ultimately have to discuss with him and come to compromise with what you're ok with and what you are not...the first few years of a relationship are really just a test run before the real compatibility issues start to arise. You have to be able to get on the same page and communicate about the big and little things, and preferably just let the little things go sometimes. Remember, tell him how you feel about it...don't attack or criticize or put him a corner for his behavior and demand that he stop, that's a good way to get in an argument if you aren't willing to listen or understand his side of the situation. If you trust him, then you have to be willing to hear what he has to say and not just take things so personally and emotionally.
clia Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I can't believe how up in arms people get over innocent crap on Facebook. This isn't about you! Why are you taking it so personally? Are you truly shocked that a man might "like" big boobs? Tease him and rip on him and forget about it. Honestly, can't you find anything better to get mad at him about?
Els Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I don't think this is a big issue at all, or that it means he isn't attracted to you. That being said, doesn't anyone else think it's a little corny and immature to be liking BigBoobs (of all things!) on FB while you have a gf? I mean, people can see what you 'like', you know! Wouldn't it be kinda weird for a girl to 'like' 8" dongs on FB (no, I don't know if there is such a page, don't care to know ) if she's in a R? 1
crude Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Be flattered. He's willing to forgo watermelons for flapjacks because of his love for you. 1
Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 yeah, it is just socially acceptable for men to "like" pages about "boobs" and "sexy ladies" It is only an issue if he regularly makes you feel un loved and under appreciated!
MidwestUSA Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Facebook claims another victim. This. Simply this. Your man likes boobs, get over it. When I'm out with mine, I might say "Honey, look at that pair!". In turn, he will point out nice asses on men to me. It works.
mesmerized Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Go and like a big dick page, problem solved. Guys are way more insecure about their dicks than we are about our boobs. 7
sweetjasmine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 That being said, doesn't anyone else think it's a little corny and immature to be liking BigBoobs (of all things!) on FB while you have a gf? I mean, people can see what you 'like', you know! Wouldn't it be kinda weird for a girl to 'like' 8" dongs on FB (no, I don't know if there is such a page, don't care to know ) if she's in a R? Exactly. It's the sharing the stupid thing on FB that makes what he did tacky and disrespectful. 4
sabre80 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I think what he did was tacky. But you might be over-reacting a bit as far as the insecurity goes. When asked if I like big boobs or small boobs or medium boobs I always reply with a "Yes" 1
veggirl Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 uhh that is a mega tooly thing to do. how old is your boyfriend? no one outside of their teens should be "liking" things like that on facebook, how douchey.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 uhh that is a mega tooly thing to do. how old is your boyfriend? no one outside of their teens should be "liking" things like that on facebook, how douchey. Agreed. His friends, family, people from work, and everybody can now see that he liked a porn-y FB page. Gross. Your boobs are fine. I have big ones and sometimes wish I had smaller ones. They get a lot of attention, but some guys are gross about it and act like they see nothing beyond my breasts. I'd be offended by him not having any class. 4
SmileFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 This is why it's easier just to date a bisexual girl, then you can be all "Hey, those boobs look amazing" and she'll be like "wow, yeah they do!". All he's done here is like a facebook page. He's not rubbing anything in your face, criticising you, or making a big deal out of it. This is your insecurity getting to you here. Don't go looking for trouble/drama and just accept that he likes you, or he wouldn't be with you. You have obviously never dated a bisexual girl.
pteromom Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So, on one side I feel like I'm making a mountain out of a mole's heap, and on the other side I feel that he is being inconsiderate of my feelings. Am I being unreasonable?? You need to have a talk with him. "I understand you like big boobs. But when you like a page on Facebook, and all our friends and family see it, knowing I have small boobs, it makes me feel badly. Is there any way you can unlike that page and like big boobs in a more private way?" If he is a reasonable person, he'll just unlike the page. If he fights you on it, it could be a red flag for a bigger issue.
Andy_K Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 You have obviously never dated a bisexual girl. You couldn't be more wrong
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