If its meant to be they will come back to you.

[atlous]

Have a great time I know its hard when it all is so new but when you are not looking that is when love is going to bite you in the asss again! You sound fun smart and great looking you should have no problems with the men. Do not think of we will be fine I will hold down the fort LOL I am so KIDDING! message us when you get back and I am heading in to finals so have a drink for me girl!

[mj108]

atlous---we always seem to post at the same time. Guess our scorpios connection. lol

 

I know your guy treated you like crap just like mine did to me. Our heart is still with them eventhough they are pieces of s**t! We just have to heal....& overcome the pain that has happened to us. I don't know you, but from what you have been posting...this guy is a bast**d! ***** him..he ended up with a fat chick. I know you don't understand that. Heck, I don't, but you seem like you're a wonderful person & you don't need this bull crap! You need someone that will treat you with respect. Be strong.

[atlous]

I try ! What do you think of my post to mean? The guy I am seeing now as of tonight I guess just text him saying this " We all have a bet going on have you slept with the mom yet?" He put his name in there and everything! HOlY SHEET! HE is going to be pissed

[Nick14]

Atlous-just hang tough, thats all you can do. Its been a month and 3 weeks and about 10 days of NC for me. MJ is right with one thing, guess my ex never cared even though I did bug her and probably pushed her away but I only did that cause I cared about her. I am not looking for her to contact me at all, if she does, I'll be very surprised and look really surprised, but right now, I feel like my feelings for her are slowly fading away. I no longer feel like contacting her anymore, its worthless, kinda sad in way but its worthless now.

[mj108]

Also---backspn---I didn't get your PM. Just half of it. My PM are not working (just like atlous). I'll be back from vacation soon. Take care!

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

I am up again early in the morning, I guess its now a habit.....I saw the posts....

 

MJ108---thanks again...have a safe trip.....take your agressions out with the gun!! we will miss ya...

 

atlous---this guy is a piece of work, he does not deserve you...let him have his fat chick and let him have a ****y live that comes with it...you are a smart and intelligent women with more potential than this biatch with ever have...you become a nurse and you will find a nice to treat you right!!.....what part of Canada you are from? I am from Canada as well!!!

 

Guys Nick14 and backspn---just hang in there man...I dont know what will happen to us but something good has to come for us all very soon...

 

As for me, she has gone on her vaction (my ex), its been about since she left, I thought that she would have sent me just a little e-mail saying hey i am ok...but i guess shes busy with her family and her firends wedding plan....I dont know why i am upset a little about it we are now just firends and she does not owe me anything....I guess I miss the constant contact I had with her when we are together....I want to send an e-maill so bad to her...i dont know...but I think this week from her is my continuation of NC.....I dont know she will ever contact me again even when she gets back.....well it does not matter now, we are not togther...I loseing hope now that we will be toghter again....its up to her.....

as for me dating I dont feel ready still, there is a girl from a internet dating site that is e-mailling me...i e=mail her back and forth but i just dont have any interest...she is cute and nice, but I dont have it in me to date anyone, now...i guess i am just not ready or my heart is not ready for a reltionship........

 

well guys have a good day today

[WantanS4]

Hahaha..... All,

 

As you all have noticed, I have almost completely stopped posting/visiting LoveShack and I'm sure many of the friends I have made here have wondered why. Well, in simple words, I have healed! I'm over her, and although every now and then there are occasions where I reminisce about the past, I do not feel the urge nor the desire to put forth the effort required to make amends and reconcile our differences. I'm sure many of you are wondering "Why?" Well... it goes a little like this.........

 

My mother (who happened to love her like the daughter she never had), recieved a call from her yesterday (which she missed) and she left her a message: "Hi, it's me **********. I'm just returning your call and wondering how things are. If you'd like to call me back, you can. That's it, goodbye." Keep in mind, my mother hasn't called her/spoken to her in over 3 months!

 

Now... when I initially heard the message (obviously my mother let me listen to it), I thought "is this is a joke!?!". But then I thought, "she's obviously left a message for the wrong person. She probably meant to call her friend or some other guy" And then in the end, on the third listen I thought "What a *****ING B!TCH, she actually has it in her to act like a 14 year, call back with the 'calling back' excuse, and then say 'you can call me back if you want to'" My mother asked me what to do, if she should call her back, and said "No, don't even bother. It was nothing, she called the wrong person."

 

It seems that when I find my peace, she comes rolling back in by call it what you will, coincidence, chance, luck (bad probably). Whatever it was, I wonder. What do you guys think?

[Weird]

She probably did it on purpose.

[backspn]

MJ.....my MSN is [email protected]

[djones]

Wantans4,

 

I think so too....she did it on purpose so that you or your mom will contact her inorder to start the conversation connection again.....Its up to you if you call her....i thinkyou are right wait and see if she calls again, if she wants to be a adult then she should have the (balls) to do so, none of this *****ing high school ****.....but a side of me is saying how long do you hold out?.....ie week or month or whatever IF you wanted to talk to her?.....

 

p/s I am glad to hear you are healed,I think slowly we all will....I am getting there, i dont miss her as often which is nice....

[Weird]

I am tired of people acting like friggin 8 year olds. Why cant grown human beings act like they are grown up and just be direct instead of the mickey mouse BS games that they do? If you want to talk to someone then talk to them. If you want to be with someone then be with someone or at least tell them this. If you want someone to leave you the ***** alone then tell them to leave you the ***** alone. Honesty and being direct is such an easy and time saving thing yet soooooooooo many people don't do it. Boggles my mind.

 

Then again, maybe I should not have any hope for this as I just need look at the current U.S. presidential race and see that even those 2 clowns act like children. Sad...

[djones]

Weird,

 

I totaly agree with you I hate *****ing games, thats prob why I dotn know how to play this dating game with the chase and NC ect....***** if i saw I like you I like you....I am real straight forward...I hate bull s*** and playing with peoples emotions...I have better things to do with my life than to do that....and it hurts....

[crazydawg]

crazydawg---Thanks so much for you input. We all deserve happiness. We all do here & we will find someone...even if it's not our ex. You say you left a sweet girl for a good-looking one? Well, I tell you one thing...if you could see me & the person my ex is with right now..you would laugh. I mean, this girl is not a great looking person. I'm not either but I know I look a hell a lot better than her. But she has something that I don't have....his kids. But you are right..he will regret it...because he had a fine a*s lookin 33 yr. old that looked 24....that loves him unconditionally....loves him for who he is. His ex is so cracked out! I mean, his friends are asking him "wtf are you doing?" She's so mean to him, but that's what he wanted. I have accepted it now.

 

Yeah MJ sometimes people make really stupid mistakes. Choosing the wrong people for them. Like i said its a challenege, Do you want someone that you have to chase or someone thats all over you and u know you can have. Its sad but thats the way society works, I been true to myself. I say and do what i think. Even if its the wrong thing. I've respected this girl the most out of everyguy but somehow she's attracted to jerks ie crackheads. What can we do. I know someone out there feels the same way and thats the person for us. I'm tired of being so nice to women, Always caring and putting them first. Anythhing to learn here would be to put yourself first. You are more important than anyone else. I seriously never can fully trust anyone. Even in the bible it states not to even trust your companion. I guess me and you MJ got stabbed in the front where it hurts more. Anyway enough ranting. Your ex knows where to find you. So does mine. Lets pretend they dont exsist because they don't exsist in our lives anymore. Cry all you need to just let it go. Its gotten easier. I almost broke to the point of contact. Why waist my time, seriously. Do you really want a guy whose doing someone else and not even care that you meant so much to him. Nah i can't deal with that. I hope you see how selfish people can be

[Nick14]

Yep, I agree crazy. I don't even feel like putting any effort into calling my ex first anymore, its really worthless. I mean why should I? I am the one making contact first, I am the one tryin to make a effot, but what does she do? She doesn't respond, call back, reply or even try to make a stab at trying to get ahold of me. So, basically, its worthless and i am done with her. She knows where to fine me, I am not that hard to find in this town. To, think she has some of my stuff too (TV,Sunglasses, some games and other things) and if she really wanted to be done with me, she would of just dropped them off at my door when I am not home. So, i am done chasing and its going to help my NC more now since, I don't feel the need to pick up that phone, text and or email her. Also, with her best friend leaving me that nasty comment on my page last week, that just fueled the fire even more with how worthless things are. I am not crawling back, she can start being the chaser!

[kodiak]

Hey Everybody-

 

 

Whats going on? Im back from my fishing/hunting trip. It was fun to get away and take my mind of things for awhile. I was with my uncles so there was alot of ribbing me about my ex and that kinda hurt. I guess im doing better. Its been a month since she last called me and I have a feeling that it was the last. I cant call her because I know that I wont heal. With the holidays coming up its been kinda hard. Last year we were so excited about being togther for xmas and stuff. Im going on 4 months and I still miss her so much. I can honestly say that my love for her is still so very strong. I wonder why? Anyways I hope everybody is doing well. I tried reading all the post, but there are so many. So if anybody can brefly keep get me up to date on whats going on with everybody i will appreciate greatly. When im gone for a couple days I get out of the loop, kinda feel left out,lol...So let me know whats going on, Thanks....................Kodiak

[head/heels]

Nick and drjones--- do not contact her!!! NO NO NO....it will only put you back at day 1 and she will still know that you are not moving on and are still weak...the last thing we want is that .... Nick no more website!!! Nothing at all.... she will be checking it and it will be a way for her to get her fix...just stop doing it and she will be left wondering "has he finally moved on without me??" and it might at least let her know that she thought about you and the website more than she cared to admit....so just quit it and she will have to lie in the bed she made for herself!

 

crazydawg---you are right and i think that our exs all will see what they had, but it will be too late for them! We will be giving our love to someone who gives it right back without hesitation! i think that we worship these girls and thus we put them #1 in our lives before anything else... right? Well a friend of mine, who was my youth minister, [even though i wasnt really religious until recently (this hard time pulled me closer to God) sadly it often takes tough times to bring you back to him] said that our God is a jealous and vengent God and he did not like that she was #1 and thus we are at where we are now.....not set in stone as the reason but if you are a believer that would explain some of it maybe...

 

Kodiak...I am not sure of you story, did she leave you for another, or did she need space... how long and how did she end it....what were her reasons and are you still in contact???thanks

 

Atlous- thank your lucky stars he is gone! he did you a favor! a huge one!

 

Finally i know this song has been mentioned but here are the lyrics:

 

My Happy Ending"

So much for my happy ending

Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh...

 

Let's talk this over

It's not like we're dead

Was it something I did?

Was it something You said?

Don't leave me hanging

In a city so dead

Held up up so high

On such a breakable thread

 

You were all the things I thought I knew

And I thought we could be

 

[Chorus:]

You were everything, everything that I wanted

We were meant to be, supposed to be, but we lost it

And all the memories, so close to me, just fade away

All this time you were pretending

So much for my happy ending

Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh...

 

 

 

 

You've got your dumb friends

I know what they say

They tell you I'm difficult

But so are they

But they don't know me

Do they even know you?

All the things you hide from me

All the sh^t that you do

 

You were all the things I thought I knew

And I thought we could be

 

[Chorus]

 

It's nice to know you were there

Thanks for acting like you cared

And making me feel like I was the only one

It's nice to know we had it all

Thanks for watching as I fall

And letting me know we were done

 

 

that about says it huh?

[Nick14]

Head/Heels-i stopped talking about her on my site and just talked about racing and what i am doing in life now, hell I was at the AVP Tourney and met a chick and we just hung out at my pad and watched a movie(yes I did post that on my site). If you still think, I should not post about what I am doing then so be it. But I stopped talking about her and its more about me.

[head/heels]

when did you start this site about yourself....? while you were with her (or before even)? or has it been since you two broke up.....?

[Nick14]

Well to be honest, i started this up in August. Her Best Friend(well now my ex-friend), she started and then got her into it(she doesn't even use it) and then i got into it and thought it would be fun. I pretty much appreiciated my ex on that site and stuff, oh well now its just me,myself and I, so whatever. If she see it, so be it if not, I don't care really. Its like a weekly thing, where I would just put down my thoughts and things i did the past week and also put up some racing results, I just like writing. But if you go to my site head/heels, you can tell since last week, there has been nothing about her whatsoever, just me and only me and what i done and people I meet and stuff.

[kodiak]

Head/Heals-

 

I will try to keep in short and provide you with the details of my relationship. First of the odds were stacked against us because it was a Long Distance relationship. We met over a year ago. She pursued the whole relationship from the get go. It was great. We saw alot of each other being that it was a LDR. Things got very seerious pretty fast. She took me back east with her to meet all her family, i mean all of them. We went on many trips together and were both so very much inlove with each other. My friends and family all thought that she was the one, so did I. At times she got scared because like she used to tell me she never felt so close to anyone before. About two weeks before she broke up with me I went to visit her. It was one of the best trips ever with her. She told me how happy she was that i was with her and that she found me. It was great. So know I will tell you why it went bad. You see I was with a girl that cheated on me before I met her. This girl was my first real girlfriend, the first of everything. So with that came alot of insecurities. Throughout my relationship with my most recent ex I started doubted myself. I felt that i would loose her to someone else or that she would cheat on me. She never ever made me feel like that would happened, but my past just kept creeping up on me. This at times cause a few fights but nothing bad. However I started to suffocate her. I would call for no reason just to see what she was doing. She was a very independent girl and I started to get very needy. I started to depend on her for my happiness. This is what caused our breakup. I loved her with all my heart and although she told me over and over that she loved me too it was not enough for me. I guess thats the crappy part of a LDR. Anyways finally i said a stupid remark because i was being insecure and she corked on me. That was it. She had enough. The day she broke up with me what she said I will never forget. She said" Nomatter how much I loved you and wanted to be with you, it was nver enough for you" It killed me. I hate myself everyday for ruining such a good thing. she was the one, I knew it. I screwed up!!!!!! She just had enough. she didnt want to be in a relationship anymore. I asked her if shje was still inloev with me and she said yes, however she just could not be in a relationship that wasnt working. She didnt meet anyone else unless she lied to me and did, I will never know. She is young still and so am I. However I have my liofe set for me. I have a job that will last my whole life. I make great money, live on my own,etc.... She is the opposite right now. i thnk that had alot to do with it. we have been apart for 4 months. she still calls about every month and we talk for a hour or so each time. It is great, except we dont say I love you. It is soi hard to still hear her voice on teh phone. Its been four months and it still feels like yesterday that things ended. I cant forgive myslef for screwing things up with her and i wish I could tell her how sorry I am. i dont know what the future holds but the fact is that right now I cant be with her. anyways and advice you can give me it will help, thanks..............Kodiak

[djones]

Hey Kodiak,

 

Good to hear from you buddy, I am glad you had a good time on your trip....I guess you read up some of the posts, I dotn know if you saw mine, my ex is on her vaction now and she is visting her family and her firend is getting married, she has not contacted me, and I have not, I guess she is real busy or she is not going to talk to me....I will see if she contacts me after she gets back I am not going to contact her...she is with someone and yes I still miss her, but there is nothing I can do...I do keep looking in my mailbox to see if she does e-mail me, but I begining not to care anymore....I have accepted that...my life is getting a little better with my business so we will see......I am not up to dating someone yet, a girl on a internet dating site is e-mailing me, she is nice, but I dont see any spark and I am not ready....I dont care about seeing some one right now.

 

MJ is on her vaction now....she is doing ok....

Wantans4---said he is healed and he does not miss his ex that much anymore....

 

 

I think if you read the last couple of posts you will get caught up....most of the action just happend reciently

 

well drop aline again...take care and I will talk to you soon

[head/heels]

let me think about this one over night and ill try to come up with something..... I guess i need to know how much you suffocated her with it being long distance and how bad did the insecuritys get ...i.e. how much did she get to see of your insecurities and have you apologized and said you realize why she left you? How far are you and how is her mood about life w/o you?

any other info would help too... just on stuff that relates to her and you in the last 2 months and the last 4 months on the phone would help...I guess i am wondering what she was going thru with your insecurites...did she try to help you with them...ease your mind by telling you there is nothing to worry about or did she just immediately get mad or quiet?

i ll see what my mind comes up with and give any advice that i can.....sounds tough with it ending with her knowing she still loves you!

[crazydawg]

Update 2 weeks no contact. I get an IM saying Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy,

me = No response. F it. Tired of chasing a dogs tail

[Nick14]

lol damn, I wish I could get a IM at least, hell that won't happen, she already took me off her AIM list 3 weeks ago.

[backspn]

Well alot has changed for me in the last 3 days. My ex called on Friday and I basically told her that I cannot be put on the back burner anylonger. My ex, who calls me regularly, is seeing a new guy. I told her that if she wants to see this new guy then go right ahead but I wont be here for her to tell me about everything they do. I wont be pillow talk anymore. Only they know what they do on their dates.....and I dont want to know. She started telling me of her love life so I told her that a friends sister had asked me out and I said yes. I know some of you dont like the fact that I told her this....but if she can tell me this then I can tell her too. I hate playing games too but sometimes they are inevitable, especially if you want her back. Anyways....she got real quite that night and told me she had to go and hasnt called me since. Im not going to answer when she does and all I know is that I started NC on Saturday and its been 3 days. She hasnt called and Im taking it day by day, but Im sure she will call and I cannot answer til a month from now. It has become my goal. Im sure I will get the inevitable text messages telling me all kinds of stuff about how mean I am.....but hey....she hasnt exactly been the best to me lately. I mean come on.....she is seeing a new guy with her free time she supposedly didnt have to see me. It will be hard but I have to try one last effort before I move on for good.....or else I will regret it forever. Hopefully this will bring us closer together....if not......the time away will help me. I will surely miss her voice at night!!!!! Peace.