If its meant to be they will come back to you.

[backspn]

Who knows what women want....I have been trying to figure this out for 6 months now. My ex called me 2 times yesterday and 3 times today...I didnt answer her at all. I felt REALLY bad not to but I know that if she really wants to talk to me she will call again and again. She will call you Dugs....you meant alot to her...you're not just some ordinary joe off the street, she'll call you. Just hang on for a lil while longer. Im actually trying to go 2 weeks without taking her calls....just to see if she will keep trying. If she does then I know she misses me or at least talking to me. Stay strong Dugs....I'll try with you....its hard isnt it? Do you think that if you stay friends with your ex that you could have another chance with her one day or will she only see you as a friend forever?

[dugs]

And that my friend is the great question that you and I ask ourselves everyday!!! It's a double edged sword...if I will forever remain in the friend status then I would rather just not have anything to do with her...but on the other hand the reason that I remain friends is that I have hope that we will get back together...but I would rather not be friends with her if she just wants to be friends...but some day she might change her mind so I have to be friends...ARRHG!!! Why can I have a crystal ball to see into the future!!!

[backspn]

Yup....that would be nice. I dont want to put all this effort and time into this if we're just gonna be friends. Maybe we can be friends later...but not for a while. So I do the very limited contact right now and hope that she starts to call me more and miss me. If this doesnt work then I will do full NC for a few months to help her realize what she has in me and that she could lose me. Who knows though what will happen. I can only think of what should happen in a perfect world.....but we know obviously this isnt perfect....otherwise she'd be sitting with me right now.

[Splatty]

backspn, dugs

 

Here is what I am doing about the being friends issue.... I do kind of have special curcumstances though.

 

My exgf wanted to date other people, never really got a good answer why but I think I have some ideas.... doesn't really matter.

 

She wants to be friends.... like I want to be friends when I still care for her so much, but we really were great friends too. Anyway she wants space and I am leaving the country for 7 months in a few months. So I politely told her not to contact me and that I will contact when I get back.... if I am ment to be with her then I will still have feelings for her or feelings will be renewed. If there is nothing then I will be in a position to be a friend. I think if you try to be friends with expectations you only hurt yourself and in most cases the friendship dies.

 

Correct me if I am wrong: If we are really ment to be friends then in a year we will want to hang out and talk. Like love you really can't kill or put too much space between friendship if it is true. I might be in a different situation, I am leaving so a relationship would only make things harder and she was the only person I have ever had who I would call my best friend.

 

____________

Good luck on figuring out girls! Most of them don't even know what they want. If you do guess right I think they change their minds just so your wrong.... Joking.

[mj108]

Dugs---Like I said---I think you should call her. If you want something with her still...you need to call her. She called you Sunday & you haven't returned her call? I'm the most stubborn, hard-headed, prideful woman----and you say she is stubborn? She's not going to call...take it from me. She's waiting for you to respond. YES---it's been 4 days & I think you need to call her.

 

Backspun---She called you 2 times yesterday & 3 times today? I think a lot of us here would kiss the ground right now if our exes did that. She's into you!!!!!! I'm serious! What are you waiting for? You say you're setting a limit of 2 weeks with NC? You need to call her. Apparently she does miss you...because she called you 2 times yesterday & 3 times today. You say if she wants to talk to you...she'll call again? Well, she's calling & if you don't respond she's going to quit because she's going to think that you've gave up & don't want to talk to her. Just make ONE call...one call only. See how it goes & if you get her voice mail..just leave one message. But you not responding to 5 calls in 2 day...my advice...call her.

 

Let me tell you about women & calling. We will call you but we will give up...at some point (especially stubborn women like me ). If you don't call us back in a couple days we will think you're not interested in us. I know it's crazy---all these games we all play...especially the phone game...but Backspun---Dugs---you need to call unless you don't want anything to do with them anymore. And I'm not saying call constantly....just one phone call & then the ball is in their court. Damn...women are gonna hate me for helping ya'll. lol I'm just trying to help---my advice I need to take sometimes.

 

Kodiak---I'm so glad you are right now...on that fishing trip. Catch some fish! I hope you have a good time!

 

Drjones---What are we going to do? We're going to be lost without Kodiak. ha lol Anyway, just wanted to update ya--- I met a guy lastnight & thought about my ex 24/7. Why is that? Frustrates me! Why can't I give this guy a chance? I mean, I think I need to heal my heart before I can move on, you know? I can't move on. It takes time I suppose. I could be out right now...with friends, family...but I choose to stay at home. My choice.

 

I ask God all the time...'Why can't I get this person out of my mind & heart?' I still haven't got an answer & it's frustrating! All we can do is stay strong & not give up....you know? I'm really having a bad night cause the guy I went out with lastnight---I know I could had something with but I didn't want it because I thought of the ex while having dinner with this guy. I'm thinking...what is wrong with me? And I'm thinking of an ex that really I shouldn't even waste my breathe on. He hurt me & why am I thinking about the A@@hole, drjones? Sorry...having a bad night. It's friday & I should be shaking my booty somewhere & dancing the night away! But here I am...rambling on.

[backspn]

I did call her yesterday but she didnt call me back. I didnt leave a message on her VM but I did call her. She has called me 3 times today but all in a row within 5 minutes...does that matter? I could see if it was spread out but it was all one after the other. Should I still call her...?

 

Mj....you're just not ready for a date right now.....go out with friends and spend some good times with family. In time you will want to date again....dont rush it.

 

Splatty....you are correct...in 7 months you guys will still be friends....its alot different than love. Love doesnt wait around for ever....friendship does.

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

MJ---I know exactly what you mean, I have no interest in meetting someone, it hurts and I just stay at home I just dont feel like seeing anyone,all I can think of is her and it consumes me....I too ask God what do I do?....so far I get return to sender...yeah I should be out with friends, but I just dont even feel like being out anywhere you know what I mean...I woke up this morning 4 am and the frist thing came to mind was her...One thing I just dont understand and I dont know how to play is this "chaseing game" ie phone calls, not letting her know you like her but give her a little nibble...Honestly I am just tell you straight up how I feel...I told her that I still miss her and care for her, so she knows that, but it has not gotten me anywhere with her...I just tired of playing games, I guess I dont know how to play them...if someone could tell me so things about the dating/relationship thing I would like to know....oh what does it mean when one says "i am seeing someone"...my ex told me this...and I told her so you have a BF now...she replied "I am seeing someone"...what the hell is the diference...I am confused on this whole concept ,,,either you are or you not with someone....Fu@k do I know.....I am little angry this morning....whats nice (this is depression) is that it is overcast outside with dark clouds...and I am happy about that!!! crazy

[backspn]

I dont know your full story DrJones....but if you are still talking to her while she is seeing someone else then this is not good. I would tell her that if she wants to talk to you then to give you a call when she is single. What is the point of staying friends with her if you dont want her back? You do want her back and the last thing I would want to know is if she is seeing someone new and who he is and what they do. Out of sight out of mind. I am talking to my girl right now and since she broke up with her last BF about 5 months ago(she started dating him about a month after we broke up and their relationship ended when he broke her heart). But if she started dating another guy again then we would talk maybe once a month until she is no longer with him anymore. See what I mean....it is way too hard for you. I know you're a strong person but you arent that strong...trust me....I thought I would be too. If all you want is a plutonic relationship with her then thats fine but be honest with yourself.

 

Mj....like I said b4....dont rush into dating other guys. Its not fair to you and certainly not fair to them. It wont help you get over him....only time and separation will do that. Hang out with friends and start some new hobbies. You are on this so called ship right now and its out at sea.....you cant jump off to reach land or else you'll drown. You just have to stay on board and wait it out. You'll be a stronger person for it and you're next BF will have the best from you....cause of this journey.

 

Peace.

[djones]

Hey backspn,

 

Thanks, I am doing the NC thing right now, you are right I need to distance myself....Its hard but I am doing it....

[dugs]

Well mj108 and guys, I finally broke down and called her back. I just got off the phone like five minutes ago. We had a short conversation because she was on her way to work, I sensed a little hostility on her part when she answered the phone, I think that she might have been irritated because the fact that I ignored her all week, although she didn't say anything about it. She ended the conversation by telling me to call her tonight when I got off of work if I wanted to hang out. She is house sitting her parents house and might have some of our mutual friends over. I don't know...maybe I messed up by waiting so long to call her back...I sensed a cold overtone to the whole conversation...maybe I'm just thinking too much about it. She would'nt have told me too call her tonight to hang out if she wasn't still into it..right?

 

backspn, someday man we will figure this sh*t out. Hopefully sooner than later because I will lose my mind if this goes on much longer.

 

mj108, I too know how you feel. I have had girls hit on me since the breakup and its like I just don't care really to even have a conversation with them. It kinda sucks cause I know that it would be nice to find the right person to fall in love with again, but I don't want to let my guard down right now.

 

drjones, hang in there bud, the NC thing does work but it takes time and is very hard to do...I mean look at me.

 

last night was bad for me cause I dreamed about her for the first time in a while. I've noticed that the pain and sadness is way more intense right after you have had a dream about her. I woke up feeling really down today and I'm not feeling any better. Wow, I havn't felt like this in like a month. hopefuly I will see her tonight...but I refuse to get my hopes up.

 

Have a good night everyone.

[head/heels]

hey all! i have read all the posts and I am in similar situation----

 

4 years long- her freshman-senior year of college....she told me over the phone that she needed her space and wasnt in love with me anymore....I treated her like a princess for all four years and pampered her and she never once showed any unhappiness with me...

 

 

it has been 7 weeks now and (oh by the way, she let me go the day before i left for Medical School 2 hrs away...) we are not talking.... i went crazy for 2 weeks i'd say by calling her every 2-3 days and asking her questions...then i went 2 weeks NC and called her and she called me right when she got off work and poured out to me how bad she was doing since she broke up with me..She is very needy and couldnt stand for me to be away from her .... that is why it hit me so hard...

 

I was set to propose to her on sept 30 (our anniversary). She knows this now... i saved up for the whole year i was in b/w undergrad and med school... I worshipped her...

 

her Self esteem is low and i knew it was since the beginning because her HS boyfriend before me cheated on her and called her names... She is gorgeous and was her HS prom queen! But she sees herself as ugly and fat....(she is neither, but she said (after breakup) she never believed me when i told her how incredible beautiful and hot she is) HOW SAD IS THAT???

 

she broke up with me saying that she had thses feelings for awile and that she noticed when she went to her parents the week before she enjoyed being flirted with for the first time....it upset her and she knew she had to tell me it was over...she said permanent for now but not sure about the future...she flirted with one guy in particular and 2 days after breakup she said she was talking to him (not relattionship though)

 

Well, turns out she lied to me about the guy she flirted with being nothing but dating, but i found out (sadly, though going through her voice mail -it was the first time i swear...i feel bad but i left a really mean message and wanted to go back and erase it...so i did using her password, and then it asked if i wanted to listen to the new messages....i did and it hurt (this is at 5 weeks after breakup) ...the guy said "hey baby, cant wait to talk to you and i miss u)....ouch!

 

So then i started wondering what the F....did she cheat on me during that trip??? So i asked and she said no and i didnt have to worry abotu getting anything tested....(BTW, we were intimate the day before she left for her trip home and she oddly remarked "that is the way it is supposed to be"!.... i did not think anything of it at the time, so i asked her after the breakup why she said that and she said because it was true....

 

So, i last time i called was 2 weeks or so ago and he answered and said she was sleeping...He is from her hometown and she i away at college and commutes home on the weekends.. This was a Friday night and her and her guy and her friends were going to a college footbal game the next day so it isnt like she spends everynight with him and before me she only had 1 lover....the guy who killed her SConfidence...anyhow

 

I dropped off everything she had ever given me or i had of her (a 50 gallon tupperware full of stuff: PS2, clothes, cards, cologne, stuffed animals, letters, saved wine bottles marking special occasions, watch, all of it) and have not spoke to her since...

 

I am doing better b/c the first 2 weeks she blamed it on me (she didnt tell me about the other guy being so important to her) and i was so sad i thought it was all me....She never said anything durign the last months that anyone would pick up on...even my friends and family didnt notice...nor her family either....She is ,i think running back to a bad relationship b/c that is what she is used to...she feels bad and that is how she wants to be treated...she wont get help from professionals either so i dont know...She told me she is spiralling downward and that she has been upset with her self image our whole relationship....I helped her out of her rough time for the first year in a half and she was happy....but when i came back she wasnt strong enough to admit it to me and kept it inside...(that is her manner with all things) ....She cant dissapooint anyone and she cant stand up for herself let alone our relationship.....

 

Now i am just in limbo kinda hoping to not speak to her again, bc she ruined 4 years without even trying to save it or telling me there was a problem...plus i took a one year leave from MSchool because you have to study with 100% efficiency and for hours at a time and all i could do was think of ways to get her back and i also cried alot (even at school) SHe was my first everytghing and i still cant get over her and what we had...

 

She told me that I spoiled her rotten and that i was great to her, but i guess she wasnt mature enough to tell me her feelings before they steamrolled her...she said she never wanted to believe she was falling out of love with the man of her dreams... so she fought it ....alone....... and lossed.....i hate to lose! i feel like my teamate didnt come prepared to play and i ended up with the L because she played so poorly....

 

enough on this....i see now that she is not someone who i would select out of if i had been given a list of her problems and personality,,... so maybe she isnt the one for me....I looked past her flaws and if they caused a problem I SPOKE UP...

 

She told her mom that she probably would never find another man who would love her as deeply as i did. I told her she is so needy and has low self esteem that she is jumping from man to man to try to make herself happy and she said "i probably am"/... I then told her she is never going to be happyin life if she doesnt realize she is jumping from man to man to make up for the unhappiness with herself, she replied "i am sure i wont (meaning be happy in life).

 

All in all, I am trying to pick up the pieces and continue on...

 

thanks all for being here for me ..

[head/heels]

p.s.

 

i am 24 she is 23

 

my first serious relationship

 

her second- 1st guy was mentally, verbally, and 1 time physically abusive...She kept running back to him even after he cheated time and time again

 

I still love her with all my heart

 

 

oh and i have on 2 separtate occasoions called her trashy, (2 weeks after)

 

and a whore (5 weeks after finding out that she left me for another guy, just like her ex did her 4 years b4)

 

DOES THIS BURN THE BRIDGE?

 

after the trashy comment , we later talked and she said it hurt her bad, but she still called and told me how sad she was -cant sleep , cant eat, and isnt doing great in her school, and she is smoking (uggh!) again...she quit during the 1st week of us meeting b/c i told her i couldnt go out with her b/c that is a major pet peeve (parents smoked so i really hated it) SO she is really upset with her self and said she is obsessed with the scale, her pant sizes and anything to do with #'s and her weight in general (calories, fat, protien,. )etc

 

oh, well i am not her keeper...thanks for listening

[mj108]

Well--drjones & backspun & dugs...here I am trying to drown out the tears. Too many beers, I suppose. I place my ass on my couch & watched movies tonight...the first movie said his name 5 times. Wow! WHY? I Didn't know this movie was going to say his name. I know that him & I are soulmates...but some soulmates don't end up together...I've faced that.

 

How do I describe? He's my breathe of fresh air...he's my morning sun. He's my dream come true. I look at the stars & moon & I Know that he's looking up at the same ones thinking of me. Maybe, I'm just too much of a romantic. But I will say this...out of all the years...I never have felt this way.

 

The way I see us..we are soulmates..like the waves of the ocean..like the bird with it's song...like the colors of the rainbow...we belong...we're meant to be...& so here I am..drowning in my tears.....

 

Sorry I'm freaking on ya'll right now...but us good women go through it too. ...I know the pain...the hurt...the tears. Having a bad night.

[djones]

MJ108,

 

Go ahead an Freak away, Fu@k its 1:30 am now I woke up having a dream about her, I was thinking about the whole soulmate thing...I have this gut feeling that Ihave not had before for another woman and I cant explain it, is she my soul mate?...if this feeling is what it is then yes...I dont fu@king know...all I know is I miss her, and I hate the fact she is seeing someone right now and I am not.....I too know about hearing or seeing signs of things that remind me of her...her name, what car she drives, its like it is everywhere, but I dont think we are the ones that need the reminder of howmuch we care for them...God should direct that to them!!!...I dont know why I still pine for her, does it make them want us more? well all I see is that it wakes me up at night and think about her everyday....will our "soulmate" show up for all of us I dont know....I told my mom maybe my standards are too high...she told me that could be married already to someone of lesser say looks and intelligence that I am looking for, she said though would I be happy?...no I guess not....but It just seems like I am not finding this person, maybe I am tring too hard to find someone that does not exist or does not want me...I dont know if this is making sence, my mind is foggy right now....

[backspn]

Ah...sorry to hear it Mj. You're not going thru it alone. I know its hard cause I am going through it right now but you have to go out and have fun....get your mind off him. I'm not the type to tell you that no one is worth it because I feel that if you love someone that they ARE worth it because it makes you happy. Isnt it all about YOUR happiness? Check your PM.

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

I hope you all well this morning....Hey MJ108 how are you doing this morning?....I feel real wierd this morning I feel like I have given up and have just an empty feeling, it hard to explain...I dont know its like I dont care what happens to me either way....I am moving forward still with getting my life in order...I think just have given up on finding love or just to be with someone, I just feel like I am going to be alone and I am comfortable with it now....I guess I am feeling like I was before I had someone....I dont know if thats a good thing or not, but I figure we are born alone in this world, you die alone, why during your time on earth that you have to be with someone?....just a rambling thought I have....you know meet people just b/c they are there does that mean you have to be with someone? I dont know guys I think I am going crazy now ......take care

[head/heels]

After a coupla ok days where i did not sit and obsess about her and what she is doing with her new beau, i had a dream about her last night and it was great...she came back and we kissed and hugged and cried...it was beautifull.. then i woke up....then it was sad, very sad...God hears our prayers...keep praying- i never really knew him until now (how sad. i feel i dont deserve his love) But i do get it anyway...he loves us even more than we love our ex s .....just need to keep on looking to heal and move on as it says on here alot: it is when you are over him/her when they come back (if they do)!

keep your chins up all

[crazydawg]

guys, This is so sad and i truley feel for everyone. Its Very true they they try and contact you when they believe that your moving on. My ex imed me we talked and she said she felt like i moved on. This is after i confessed to her that i loved her and i wanted to speak to her. She told me she'd call me the next day she never did. Then thats when she emailed me about 4 weeks later. Hey new guy i heard from someone else hurt her. She even came to say that she drove by my house. To make a long story short i kinda forced her to meet me. She said she did but i felt it wasn't too important to her. When we did i acted like a fag. I hugged her and tried kissing her and she pulled away from kissing me. I felt the love but i didn't feel the love she once had for me. My situation is different because her friend hates me and talks about me saying not to get back with me because i'm jealous and needy. I was but not the extent her friend makes it. She just has it out for me trust me... Anyway i'm so confused right now. I feel like i'm not a loser if i never give up. But i feel like i'm never going to win. I wrote her an email saying to her if she has a min to speak. She said what did i meant by that. I still haven't responded. I'm stuck with the rest of you guys i feel like my head knows whats right todo here but i feel that i still have a chance.

All my friends tell me to forget her and tell her to goto hell. Easier said than done right...

 

I guess i'm gonna leard the hard way guys... I'ma go through all the tests of love. Through all this pain. You know what though. I'm gonna come out the better person in the end. I'm going to feel like the person who never lets himself be defeated. I'm going to take everything thrown at me. Love, Hate, Despise. I'm ready to accept what god has for me. I won't play the NC game i wont play any game. I'm going to be true to myself, and do what i feel is needed to be done.

 

We WILL all get through this. I know because my ex gf did when i dumped her for this gurl, who dumped me for her ex. She forgave me and i truly see the person she is because she never gave up. I was to blinded, and to proud to contact her again. She was being needy and that pushed me away.. But in the end guess whose happy now. SHE IS, because she let go of all of her pride... for me.. I told her i truly respect her, and she told me she loves me, i feel the same way. We are now friends.. What comes around goes around. I lost the person who truly loved me. Only now i realize it. She's gone now. I'm still in love with this girl who dumped me. But you know what if my ex got thought it so can i. So can ALL OF YOU. I pray for all of you guys tonight.

[dugs]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!! What happened last night????????

 

Guys, something amazing happened to me last night, I think that I am still in shock...let me tell you about it

 

I hung out with the ex last night at her parents house while she was house sitting. A bunch of our mutual friends came over and we hung out all night. Well at the end of the night my ex insisted that I stay the night being that I was too drunk to drive home....so one thing led to another and we ended up in bed together. Never in a million years would I think that I would ever be having sex with her ever again. Just a couple of months ago I thought that she was gone forever. I remember thinking to myself "is this really happening?"

 

We woke up in the morning and layed in bed till one in the afternoon just talking and laughing and goofing off. It was just like old times when we first met. It's like in one night EVERYTHING has changed. I don't know....but I have a feeling that everything is finally going to be all right now. I know that she didn't just use me for sex because she has had plenty of times to hop in the sack with me in the past month but didn't. Also she is not the type of person to do something like that. Last night was different for some reason, we were getting along better than ever before and it just felt right to go to bed with each other.

 

We both have pretty busy schedules during the week but we made plans to definantly hang out this weekend and I'm sure, no positive, that we will call each other during the week. I think the games are finally over. I'm gonna try my best and keep the ball rollin this time and not fall back into old habits that drove her away from me in the first place.

 

I know that we are not officially back together yet, but I think that we are pretty close.

 

See mj108, dr jones, backspn, kodiak and anyone else who reads this, there is hope out there so don't give it up yet.

 

backspn, I think that you should call your ex for sure. Especially if she is calling you so much...dude she wants you back. Then maybe you will be the one posting something similar to this post. I hope that some day everyone here can post something similar to this.

 

Take care guys, I think that my times at the old shack may be coming to an end soon, but for now I will just have to wait and see what happens.

[backspn]

Actually Dugs......hehe....She called me last night and we talked for almost an hour. We were laughing o hard and teasing each other....just like old times and tonight we talked for an hour and a half....pretty much the same way as last night. She even talked about hanging out together and coming over. I know its a long way from being together but I am taking it slow and being the guy she fell in love with in the first place.....self confident, not taking any crap, sweet and playful. Oh, and btw....I havent mentioned getting back together at all. She even started talking about the good times we used to have....thats a really good sign. Things are going along fine...not great...but alot better than the last 4 months. If anyone wants to know what Ive been doing? Ive been doing my own thing....taking her calls when she does call and acting indifferent....basically being myself without being needy. I dont know where it will all go and I sure do miss the way she smells but I sure would take a night like you had Dugs!!! Good for you!!!

 

p.s.....Even if I wanted to ask her to try again......I wouldnt know how to ask without the fear of being rejected.

[djones]

Guys,

 

Dugs, thats great news keep working it, it brings a smile on my face that one of us is in this group is getting something good happen to them.....backspin, take it slow and see where it goes.....As for me I would like to report good news, but I dont have any, I am up again 3:30 am..oh well at least I can practice my typing in the dark.....I am still doing the NC, but I dont have the urge like I did to contact her, but in my heart I still want to know what she is doing....I have come to the point where I just give up on trying to get her back and leave it into gods hands, I feel powerless, and I guess that is something I have to do....when I keep tring hard to get something/one it usualy falls flat on my face so...i guess I should change my way...i dont know if she will contact me this week...but I will see....takecare guys...and thanks Dugs, for giveing us a little hope...keep us posted

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

Hows everybody doing today? Hey Kodiak how was your trip...did you catch any fish? Well as for me nothing new to report....well take care guys

[Papillon]

Second longest thread, EVER!

 

 

(Don't mind me, I'm just trying to get the entire what's new page to list my name as last poster, bwahaha)

[WantanS4]

AH CRAP!!!

 

That means dugs wins out the bet.

 

 

As for me... guys... fellas..... I think it is trully over between me and her. She hasn't called... i will not call because of the last phone conversation we had. I missed her this weekend... i miss her everyday. I'm doing 02398923847 times better then 4 weeks ago.... and in someway I feel like I'm 70% over her. Sad.... it's soo sad.... we had soo much love for each other.. and now it's almost all gone. Why does life toopsie-turvy like that?

 

DUGS..... HIGH-FIVE. DON"T ***** UP AGAIN!!!!! take care of her... and watch yourself... think everything over twice... three times... and four times.

 

 

As for the rest of you losers (i'm kidding...)..... time holds more for us. I realized a few more mistakes I made this weekend... so in a way I learned a lot this weekend. I'm kinda glad... because I know that the next person that come along will get a 'more better' me.

 

Look at the positive side of things.... be optomistic...... and hope for the best.

 

There's only one things bugging me now........... in the four months I've been single...... NOT ONE DATE... NOT A SINGLE ONE.......... there's something screwy about this...........

[djones]

Hey WantanS4,

 

Congrads again Dugs I agree with WantanS4 dont F@#k it up.....As for me still the NC thing she has not callled either, I dont know if she will just like in WantanS4 case....I know she is going on vaction in 2 weeks so I dont know if she will contact me before then...but I its not my place to call her let her contact me if she wants too....I am in this mood with no feeling just acceptance of what has happened I did all that I could...I still miss her everyday but...It not so much consuming now....I going to take WanttanS4 advice stay positive (with is very new to me!) and hope for the best....nothing else I can do about it, the good thing for me on the weekend is that I realized that there is nothing I can about it any more...she has moved on, if she wanted me she knows where to find me, I dont have to let her know I am still around...

 

I have one question for you all it goes with WantanS4 idea of staying positive...I have had a lot of bad things happen to me in life in just every aspect, have a very strong drive, every time I get kicked in the nuts I get up and try again...i have done this in everysituation in my life for school or women etc....I just dont know if there is a point when you should stop???? like say with my ex I tried the contact thing, the pleading etc in and now that I am doing nothing I feel like its not enough...does that makes sence to you all?....I feel that when I want something badly ie (get into a residency spot or a job) and I try and try and I dont get it...is that a sign that its not for me or i have to try it again...then how much more do I have to endure to get it......I am just wondering....I have one firend he tired to get into law school took the test twice and did not get in...for me for example I would have taken the test 5 times....its just my nature....I guess I am tring to figure out when to let go..or is it just a test by "god" to see I am worthy and so far I am not worthy (no pun intended).....