Emb123 Posted February 10, 2013 Share Posted February 10, 2013 Ok, let me just say I'm not one of those people that is obsessed with taking pictures of every waking moment of their life. I do however like to take pictures sometimes, especially if I'm at a special event or my boyfriend and I are out on a date. But it seems like he never wants to take pictures with me, I'm always having to bring it up "hey we should take a picture together" and he just never seems in to it and NEVER is the one to initiate it. Now normally I would just brush it off because I know some people just hate having their picture taken but when we first got together he still was tagged in pictures on facebook with his ex from a while ago and they had tons! And ones where he was holding out his arm to take them. So why is it that he doesn't seem to want to take any with me? It's not like he doesn't want to be seen with me or something, he is tagged in pictures with me on facebook. I just don't get it. Any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
BehindBlueEyes Posted February 10, 2013 Share Posted February 10, 2013 Has he expressed any concerns about how he looks or hating how he looks? It's possible he doesn't want to see himself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted February 10, 2013 Share Posted February 10, 2013 Have you brought up the fact that he's in a lot of pics with his ex? I'm just wondering, because if you have already mentioned that or complained about it - then every time you say 'hey, lets take a pic' - he might be thinking 'oyi....she's just going it because i did it with the ex' and it might seem fake to him. If that were true - I'd definitely think that it's not fair at all because he would be just denying you that because it is all in his head and it's not anything you did. I'm just wondering if he thinks you taking the pics is some kind of weird competition to you.... I hope not. But on the other hand, maybe he just doesn't like being in pics and the ex was the one who took the initiative like you are.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emb123 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Share Posted February 10, 2013 Has he expressed any concerns about how he looks or hating how he looks? It's possible he doesn't want to see himself. He has always been a very confident guy and I have never heard him say anything negative about himself. Of course I'm human so it has me thinking that he loved his ex more than me or cared more or something. But I don't think that could possibly be it though, because he has expressed that he cares more about me and is more in love with me than he has ever been with anyone else and has mentioned marriage many times. I ran in to this same problem with my ex too. I almost wonder if it is insecurity. I have modeled for many years so being photographed is my profession, could he feel intimidated or something? I am also taller than him if that makes a difference. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted February 10, 2013 Share Posted February 10, 2013 I dunno I have my own experiences with this. IME the guys who didn't want to take pictures with me were the ones who weren't that into me. Hope it's different for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emb123 Posted February 10, 2013 Author Share Posted February 10, 2013 I dunno I have my own experiences with this. IME the guys who didn't want to take pictures with me were the ones who weren't that into me. Hope it's different for you. I don't think he is not that in to me. There's no possible way, just by his actions alone. He does a lot for me and like I said he has expressed how much he loves me and has brought up marriage which is not something guys do unless they really mean it. I'm also wondering if maybe his ex kind of messed him up. She, from what he has told me was a very deceitful person who played games with him. I wonder if he doesn't like doing certain things (like taking pictures) because he did stuff like that with his ex and she screwed him over. I know I have avoided/don't like doing certain things because it reminds me of my ex. Link to post Share on other sites
BehindBlueEyes Posted February 10, 2013 Share Posted February 10, 2013 I do not want to sound condescending, but I would just try and ask him why he is having a hard time taking pics with you. Bring it up nicely and gradually. It could be because of being shorter...maybe it makes him feel insecure when he sees himself with you(being taller than him) or could be what Kiwi said, but I am no pro at this... I'd just ask him and have be honest about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 This is really weird. I would understand if he was just really camera-shy in general, but he doesn't seem to be. Why not ask him why he was okay taking pics with others but not you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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