GirlFriend Ploblems

[Max123uk]

hey everyone, where do you start. me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 years now and the last two weeks shes become distant kisses, hugs become less, we use to see each other alot but she said she wants to see each other every other day, so she can see her friends more often, go out etc. which is ok. ive comfronted her and she says shes doesnt know what she wants anymore/doesnt know if she loves me. after asking further into it she said one of her friends fancys her and she told me that she likes him but she doesnt know if she likes him more than a friend. she now sees me one day and him the next day when at the begining she said she wanted to see her mates but she only sees him. he keeps buying things for her. he askes her to go places but she dont invite me. she keeps texting on her phone spending at least £30 a week but i only received a couple of texts. the latest is hes asked her to go camping just them too and shes said ok. i trust her but am i blinded by the amount i love her. what do i do, say.

[GirlDown]

i think it sounds like your "girlfriend" is having her cake and eating it too. and taking you for a total ride.

 

sometimes you meet someone new, but you want to stay with the person you are currently with at the same time because it's familiar. and in this case, you say you've been together 3 years--i would say that's grounds for familiarity.

 

she's hesitant to let you go, but is checking to see what else is out there. and she's doing it because you are letting her.

 

she actually said she doesn't know what she wants/doesn't know if she loves you-- give her the boot and tell her to call you when she makes up her mind. a girl like this doesn't deserve to get everything she wants at everyone else's expense.

[Bryanp]

Hello Max,

 

I am afraid that you are in total denial. You have been with this girl for 3 years and now she is seeing you and another man on alternate days? You have go to be kidding me. She says O.K. to go camping with just him overnight? She spends most of the money on text messages to him? She says she like you both? When I read a letter like this it really saddens me. She is totally disrespecting and humiliating you. She is what they call a cake eater. She is having her cake and eating it too. How great she can have two guy to be with while her affection for you diminishes. How do you think she would be acting if the roles were reversed and you every other night were going out with another woman you like. In addition, you are taking this other woman overnight for a camping trip. How do you think she would be acting?

 

The bottom line is she acting single and making a total fool of you. You judge a person by their actions and not by their words. The sad part is that you seem so accepting of this. Either she is your girlfriend or not. A girlfriend does not see other men on alternate days. Open your eyes and move on. I wish you luck.