Troublesome Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 He is my first love. I've dated quite a few guys, but this is the first time I have ever been in love. He loves me. He expresses deep affection all the time. When I am with him, everything is wonderful. Any moment I am not with him causes suspicion and feelings of mistrust. Lately I have been thinking a lot about his ex girlfriend. Knowing that he has been with other woman sickens me. I have been with other men,so I know my feelings are unfair. When he takes long to respond to my message I get mad. I sometimes even end up mistreating him. And I am afraid I will end up pushing him away. I love him so much. We've been together for about a year now, In a few months we'll be moving in together. I am not dillusioned by thinking once we live together my insecurities will disappear. I mean, I don't have a solid reason for feeling insecure or being jealous. He is so good to me. How do I deal with these feelings? I know communication is good. But I have brought up my feelings and he has reassured me. How many times can I bring up the same thing. I wonder if he has ever cheated on one of is ex's. is it out of line to ask him? He hates it when I do things that make it seem like I think out relationship is doomed. Like asking him when we are fighting 'do you think we will continue to be together'. He is a great man. I just don't know how to help myself. How is it that he never seems insecure? Does he, but just hides it? Help!! Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Just keep reminding yourself that he has done NOTHING to cause you to worry. Sounds like you have a good dude, keep that in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Have you been cheated on or treated poorly in the past?? That could explain some of your insecurities. Maybe you're really scared to feel the way you do, and you're actually "sabotaging" the relationship? Whatever the case may be, you have to learn to cope with your feelings and keep them in check. Trust is more than you needing to trust him, its also him needing to feel trusted by you. He is fine because he trusts you. So far your stinky thoughts are getting the best of you, work on reeling them in. Link to post Share on other sites
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