charlathan Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Oh it's going to be so great to get this off my chest. Okay, so I've been dating this great nice and perfect guy for about 2 months and in the beginning it was going great. I really liked him and felt I could fall in love with him. Until a month after we started dating I ended up on the same after party as my boyfriend's best friend. Now, this guy is a bit crazy, reckless and parties a lot. Well for some reason this resonates with me and I feel really "free" in a way. Also I am crazy attracted to him. So I hooked up with him, which was fun, but at the time didn't mean anything. Felt a bit bad, but considered it to be only meaningless fun. After that I've spent a lot of time with this other guy. Had a lot of fun. I noticed we are very much alike and there's more to him than his reckless side. Well still, I thought it was only attraction and nothing more. That maybe if I just let go and hooked up/slept with him once and "get it out of my system" I could stop thinking about him and move on. So that then happened like a week ago, but instead of letting go I kind of realised that I am actually in love with him. And now a couple of days ago I slept with him again. And can't get enough. And it's killing me and I don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 wow... you are a prize to catch... you are not girlfriend material... if you don't change you will be used around till you don't know anymore what is your self worth... Improve yourself... and please, break up with your boyfriend... he doesn't need your drama! 8 Link to post Share on other sites
kdobbs Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Dump them both. Your 'boyfriend' is getting screwed over by his girl friend and best friend. Let him go now before any significant damage is done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 How would you feel if your boyfriend did this to you? Be honest with your boyfriend and allow him to find someone else who will truly love and respect him since clearly you do not. By the way, ending up with a bad boy truly shows how foolish and immature you really are. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 End it with your boyfriend and tell him the truth. That you've been screwing his best friend. No point in torturing him and leaving him to think about what HE did wrong in the relationship that made you dump him. Will he be mad? Absolutely! But, at least he'll be able to move on and not beg, plead and cry for another chance. Will he hate you? Probably for a while. One day he may be able to forgive you as a person, but as a girlfriend, well, you crossed a line. Now, he won't have a girlfriend or a best friend anymore. But, you'll be happy, right? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 2 months of dating... means nothing people... stop projecting marriage/long term relationship consequences onto this its normal and happens Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 So you and your BF are broken up now right? Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 2 months of dating... means nothing people... stop projecting marriage/long term relationship consequences onto this its normal and happens I don't know in which world you live but cheating should be never seen as normal... it happens ... yes... but is not good... She is interested in the other guy... nice, let her break with her bf first and then pursue a relationship with the other guy... what she has done is very low... and I would not want to date a girl like her... she is bad news.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 2 months of dating... means nothing people... stop projecting marriage/long term relationship consequences onto this its normal and happens And on top of that. She cheated on him with his BEST FRIEND! Means nothing? People are going to be hurt by her actions. That definitely means something. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 By the way guys this totally smells like a troll... the OP's name is chalathan which mean an a person practicing quackery or some similar confidence trick in order to obtain money, fame or other advantages via some form of pretense or deception... to funny! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I don't know in which world you live but cheating should be never seen as normal... it happens ... yes... but is not good... She is interested in the other guy... nice, let her break with her bf first and then pursue a relationship with the other guy... what she has done is very low... and I would not want to date a girl like her... she is bad news.. who are you to judge a person based on their actions or their feelings. she wasn't in love with her boyfriend, but you expect her to sit at his side and be his pet and to answer to him? its 2 months, its not even a relationship. she doesnt owe anyone an explanation. this is the dating forum. stop treating it like dating = relationships/marriage if you had any emotional sense... girls cheat because they want out of a relationship... its a subconscious thing... sometimes they aren't aware of why they do it Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 This woman is destroying a friendship for her own selfish desires. Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 If my best friend pulls a girl that i was dating in 2 months, he can have her... means she wanted him more then me... my feelings wouldnt be hurt. My self worth doesnt come from women that I date Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 If my best friend pulls a girl that i was dating in 2 months, he can have her... means she wanted him more then me... my feelings wouldnt be hurt. My self worth doesnt come from women that I date Please stop projecting your personal feelings to the thread... I don't really care how you would react if your best friend would bang the girl you are dating... In real life if a friend bangs his best friend date and hide it from him... lets asume they would not be exclusive... It is still very, very low! the minimum she could have done is to speak with the guy she was dating about her feelings and get him out of the game before she bangs his best friend (by the way... great friend!) She is totally bad news... and for your way of speaking you are not much better than her... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 If my best friend pulls a girl that i was dating in 2 months, he can have her... means she wanted him more then me... my feelings wouldnt be hurt. My self worth doesnt come from women that I date Sorry, not everyone is CptSaveAho...... Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 So that then happened like a week ago, but instead of letting go I kind of realised that I am actually in love with him. And now a couple of days ago I slept with him again. And can't get enough. And it's killing me and I don't know what to do. Easy. Break it off with the nice, sweet, good guy as he clearly doesn't deserve this. And hook up with the bad boy and take all that comes with that decision. The guy you are dating deserves to move on and find someone that won't screw him over for a good time party boy. Partiers should stay with partiers. Link to post Share on other sites
Sav Posted February 12, 2013 Share Posted February 12, 2013 who are you to judge a person based on their actions or their feelings. she wasn't in love with her boyfriend, but you expect her to sit at his side and be his pet and to answer to him? its 2 months, its not even a relationship. she doesnt owe anyone an explanation. this is the dating forum. stop treating it like dating = relationships/marriage if you had any emotional sense... girls cheat because they want out of a relationship... its a subconscious thing... sometimes they aren't aware of why they do it What do you mean its not even a relationship. 2 Months, 2 Days, 2 Weeks or 2 Decades. If you made a decision to call that person your bf then stay committed or else get out of that rut and THEN hook up with someone else. If she "wasnt in love" with her bf, then the most obvious decision is to break-up with him. If this was true, her cheating might be a form of getting out of the relationship, that I won't deny. But it doesn't mean that it wasn't wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 I don't know why people are still posting here. It's obvious that the OP isn't coming back, because she didn't hear what she wanted to hear. Link to post Share on other sites
Xinreeki Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 I agree, if you want out of a relationship break up first, then when you're single you're free to do whatever you want. Of course sleeping with your ex's best friend would still be frowned upon but it would be better than cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author charlathan Posted February 20, 2013 Author Share Posted February 20, 2013 Hi, sorry that I haven't written anything since my first post. I read your answers and thank you for writing them. Well, I have now decided to meet this person I've been cheating with, probably on the weekend, and tell him that we need to stop. I'm doing this because of many reasons... My boyfriend does not deserve this and while I'm not sure our relationship is going to work out I need to leave this other guy out of that decision and see where we end up. Also, I've started to care too much about the guy I was cheating with and this irregular hooking up thing is getting mentally really hard and I'm afraid that I'll start to care even more or even fall in love with him which, in the end, would just hurt me. We are very much alike and I see a lot of myself in him, we're kind of equally messed up, so it's easy to get caught up... So even though it's going to suck and it will be hard to let him go I'll try my best and sort my life out without him. Thanks people once again. (I hope I'll go through with this and not just fall into the same trap again once I see him.) Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Hi, sorry that I haven't written anything since my first post. I read your answers and thank you for writing them. Well, I have now decided to meet this person I've been cheating with, probably on the weekend, and tell him that we need to stop. I'm doing this because of many reasons... My boyfriend does not deserve this What your bf deserves is someone who won't even think about doing this to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RogerWallace111 Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Damn, OP, you a stupidass hoe Link to post Share on other sites
RogerWallace111 Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Hi, sorry that I haven't written anything since my first post. I read your answers and thank you for writing them. Well, I have now decided to meet this person I've been cheating with, probably on the weekend, and tell him that we need to stop. I'm doing this because of many reasons... My boyfriend does not deserve this and while I'm not sure our relationship is going to work out I need to leave this other guy out of that decision and see where we end up. Also, I've started to care too much about the guy I was cheating with and this irregular hooking up thing is getting mentally really hard and I'm afraid that I'll start to care even more or even fall in love with him which, in the end, would just hurt me. We are very much alike and I see a lot of myself in him, we're kind of equally messed up, so it's easy to get caught up... So even though it's going to suck and it will be hard to let him go I'll try my best and sort my life out without him. Thanks people once again. (I hope I'll go through with this and not just fall into the same trap again once I see him.) Turf-dirt tramp......... If youre for real, end your relationship with your "boyfriend". And just keepin ****in Mr Carefree. If you can't be exclusive a month in, you never will be. Find an open relationship, or start sellin that pussy so you're at least comin up a little bit Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Hi, sorry that I haven't written anything since my first post. I read your answers and thank you for writing them. Well, I have now decided to meet this person I've been cheating with, probably on the weekend, and tell him that we need to stop. I'm doing this because of many reasons... My boyfriend does not deserve this and while I'm not sure our relationship is going to work out I need to leave this other guy out of that decision and see where we end up. Also, I've started to care too much about the guy I was cheating with and this irregular hooking up thing is getting mentally really hard and I'm afraid that I'll start to care even more or even fall in love with him which, in the end, would just hurt me. We are very much alike and I see a lot of myself in him, we're kind of equally messed up, so it's easy to get caught up... So even though it's going to suck and it will be hard to let him go I'll try my best and sort my life out without him. Thanks people once again. (I hope I'll go through with this and not just fall into the same trap again once I see him.) You will keep the boyfriend you have cheated on with his best friend and don't tell him anything? Wow... you really have some spine! You are not prepared to be in a relationship...if you have some self respect... you will do the only decent thing you can do and is leaving your boyfriend... he has already a snake for friend... he doesn't need a drama queen for girlfriend... Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted February 21, 2013 Share Posted February 21, 2013 Hi, sorry that I haven't written anything since my first post. I read your answers and thank you for writing them. Well, I have now decided to meet this person I've been cheating with, probably on the weekend, and tell him that we need to stop. I'm doing this because of many reasons... My boyfriend does not deserve this and while I'm not sure our relationship is going to work out I need to leave this other guy out of that decision and see where we end up. Also, I've started to care too much about the guy I was cheating with and this irregular hooking up thing is getting mentally really hard and I'm afraid that I'll start to care even more or even fall in love with him which, in the end, would just hurt me. We are very much alike and I see a lot of myself in him, we're kind of equally messed up, so it's easy to get caught up... So even though it's going to suck and it will be hard to let him go I'll try my best and sort my life out without him. Thanks people once again. (I hope I'll go through with this and not just fall into the same trap again once I see him.) why do you have to meet him? You can use a phone, email, text. Very strange Link to post Share on other sites
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