jraymond65 Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 My story is this: About 4yrs ago I was a married man to my wife of 18yrs w/3 children. I had become so stressed with my job, my young children, bills, & lack of effection from my wife that I decided to take our camper for the weekend and get away to clear my head. During this time I was also speaking with a female friend of mine who was going thru the same emotions as I was. Upon arriving at the campground, within a day this friend found out I was there, and decided to leave her husband, knocking on my door. I knew I should have turned her away, but my lack of effection from my wife didnt allow me to make the correct decision at that moment. Yes, we talked about our problems, one thing led to another and it became an affair that I to this day regret. I was honest with my wife about this affair, and wanted to return home to my family, but told myself if she loves me she will come there and ask me to come home. She never did, and it ended up in divorce. It took me two years to get over what I had done, and then decided I had no choice but to move on with my life and I remarried. Well, I am now in another divorce due to my unhappiness of still being in love with my ex-wife and the mother of my children. Well, when my ex wife got news of this, she was the first (and last person I expected) person to come to my emotional aid. This caused my feelings of love for her to grow even more now than ever before, and I have dropped hints at her about still loving her. She too has told me that she has forgiven me for what happened 4yrs ago, and still has love for me in some ways. She has never dated, or been involved with another man since our divorce, and has become very independent over the years. I find myself missing her more than ever, and I'm not even hurting from my current divorce preceedings. Can this woman, the mother of my children who I hurt so badly, open her heart to me again, and love me more than ever before? Am I giving myself false hope to once again be with the mother of my children? Please, any advice or comments would be greatly apprieciated on this. I need and love this woman more than ever before in my lifetime, and have gained the respect of the type of person she really is. And I want her back as my wife as soon as my current divorce is final. I know I have to take it slow and let things run their course. But, can a woman regain trust, and her love after an affair that happened years ago? Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 I think that you should try and see what happens. You have nothing to lose... Link to post Share on other sites
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