Should I text her Happy Valentines Day?

[316]

Me and this girl have a very casual relationship with mild flirting and I doubt it would go anywhere serious anytime soon (she lives in another state). We enjoy texting each other every now and then.

 

My question is would it seem weird to text her Happy Valentines or would she possibly see it as sweet? I'd be ecstatic if it made her smile.

 

Any advice ladies? How would you feel about getting a Valentine's Day text from a guy you casually flirt with?

[316]

I would really appreciate some opinions on this... >.<

[Fondue]

I wouldn't.

 

But that's me. I'm not exactly known for having a compassionate side.

 

I think of Valentines day as a very, very femanine holiday. Like, it just hurts me in the balls just thinking what some men do on the 14th. It is disgusting.

 

Besides, she is a woman. Think of how many other men she will have her text the same exact friggin' thing. You'll be one of the chumps among many.

[316]

I wouldn't.

 

But that's me. I'm not exactly known for having a compassionate side.

 

I think of Valentines day as a very, very femanine holiday. Like, it just hurts me in the balls just thinking what some men do on the 14th. It is disgusting.

 

Besides, she is a woman. Think of how many other men she will have her text the same exact friggin' thing. You'll be one of the chumps among many.

 

This comes off as very pessimistic.

[mammasita]

I think it would be cute. I wouldn't read into it if a man sent me a text like that.

[soccerrprp]

No harm here. Do it.

[Fondue]

This comes off as very pessimistic.

If she's at least somewhat attractive, she will have a buttload of men wanting to "impress" her on that day and "hope" to win her over.

 

Imagine a game show where they pick a member from the audience to participate. All those crazy people jumping up and down like idiots, itching to get picked? Yah, that's what I imagine a bunch of lonely men texting an attractive woman on V-Day to be like.

[sillyanswer]

I would really appreciate some opinions on this... >.<

 

Does this mean you're opening it up to guys, too?

 

Ok, I say "do it". I mean, what do you have to lose other than the cost of a text message and about 30 seconds of your life? And what could you gain? Seems worth a try.

[316]

If she's at least somewhat attractive, she will have a buttload of men wanting to "impress" her on that day and "hope" to win her over.

 

Imagine a game show where they pick a member from the audience to participate. All those crazy people jumping up and down like idiots, itching to get picked? Yah, that's what I imagine a bunch of lonely men texting an attractive woman on V-Day to be like.

 

I still don't understand why you'd feel this way. Its not like I'm doing something overly dramatic to plead for her attention or something. Its just a simple text message.

 

My ex and I recently broke up so the thought of being able to make another girl smile (even at something as insignificant as a text) makes me happy.

[sid3]

If she's at least somewhat attractive, she will have a buttload of men wanting to "impress" her on that day and "hope" to win her over.

 

Imagine a game show where they pick a member from the audience to participate. All those crazy people jumping up and down like idiots, itching to get picked? Yah, that's what I imagine a bunch of lonely men texting an attractive woman on V-Day to be like.

 

What? Wait.... didn't you recently have a thread describing your paying attention to a kid playing a video game instead of chatting with an attractive girl. If thats the case, please sit this one out.

 

Op, send her a Happy Valentime text if you want to. There's no guarantee she has dozens of guys doing the same. As witnessed, there's more guys out there that are completely clueless, and even more that are racked by fear.

[Mrlonelyone]

Texting her cost you what $.025. If she doesn't like it your out a quarter. If she likes it your closer to a GF.

[Fondue]

I still don't understand why you'd feel this way. Its not like I'm doing something overly dramatic to plead for her attention or something. Its just a simple text message.

 

My ex and I recently broke up so the thought of being able to make another girl smile (even at something as insignificant as a text) makes me happy.

It looks like your mind is already set on texting her, what's the point of this thread?

 

I'm only stating my opinion on the matter, which is think of your pride/dignity. Do you just want to be another pawn? Besides, imagine the following:

 

You text her, "Hey! Hope you have a good Valentines day!" Or whatever it is you decide to do. You're one of 15 other dudes. She'll either ignore it, or simply reply, "Thanks!"

 

That's it. Do you feel happy receiving that reply, or are you like, "well that was not as exciting as I thought go."

 

If you want to make an impression and let her know you're thinking of her on V-day, I would suggest you call her instead. Call her at lunch time, or something. I wouldn't just send a text. That seems juvenile.

[316]

It looks like your mind is already set on texting her, what's the point of this thread?

 

I'm only stating my opinion on the matter, which is think of your pride/dignity. Do you just want to be another pawn? Besides, imagine the following:

 

You text her, "Hey! Hope you have a good Valentines day!" Or whatever it is you decide to do. You're one of 15 other dudes. She'll either ignore it, or simply reply, "Thanks!"

 

That's it. Do you feel happy receiving that reply, or are you like, "well that was not as exciting as I thought go."

 

If you want to make an impression and let her know you're thinking of her on V-day, I would suggest you call her instead. Call her at lunch time, or something. I wouldn't just send a text. That seems juvenile.

 

I was just curious that's all.

 

And like others have said if it cheers her up awesome if it doesn't oh well. Calling would be a bit too personal at this stage.

[Sweeetie]

I say go for it. Being a girl myself, I can say that girls love stuff like that. Especially if the girl flirts with you, because it shows that she has some attraction towards you too. Other dudes might flirt with her but she might not flirt with them back, therefore she might appreciate your Valentine's message more than theirs. Plus every single girl feels lonely on Valentine's Day, make this one sweet for her.

[ltjg45]

Really, if you have her number, I rather call her.

 

I'm sure that will separate you from the rest of the bunch, esp. if you can make a decent conversation out of it.

[316]

I say go for it. Being a girl myself, I can say that girls love stuff like that. Especially if the girl flirts with you, because it shows that she has some attraction towards you too. Other dudes might flirt with her but she might not flirt with them back, therefore she might appreciate your Valentine's message more than theirs. Plus every single girl feels lonely on Valentine's Day, make this one sweet for her.

 

Will do!

 

You guys are right I have very little to lose and quite a bit to gain. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take right? I'd rather get a bland response than not text her at all and wonder "what if?"

[Terminal-Ice]

Fondue, sorry to break it to you, but women don't think like men. You're off base. It's not a game. It's not about who scores the most points. If it were, no one would ever ask, "Why is she with HIM?!"

 

316, do it. As a woman, I would get a warm fuzzy from anyone who texted me a Happy V-Day message. It signifies that you're thinking of her and wishing her well. It's that simple. Women love that stuff. No, it's not going to "make it or break it," but it is certainly one of those little things that help form the foundation for a possible relationship. Little things do matter.

[Fondue]

I say go for it. Being a girl myself, I can say that girls love stuff like that. Especially if the girl flirts with you, because it shows that she has some attraction towards you too. Other dudes might flirt with her but she might not flirt with them back, therefore she might appreciate your Valentine's message more than theirs. Plus every single girl feels lonely on Valentine's Day, make this one sweet for her.

I can't imagine attractive women feeling lonely on V-Day. That seems backwards. SHe probably had to fight off a bunch of date requests.

 

As a woman, I would get a warm fuzzy from anyone who texted me a Happy V-Day message. It signifies that you're thinking of her and wishing her well. It's that simple. Women love that stuff. No, it's not going to "make it or break it," but it is certainly one of those little things that help form the foundation for a possible relationship. Little things do matter.

So if I just sent a generic text to all my female contacts in my phone with "happy v-day!"

 

They would feel special? I find that hard to believe.

 

If you're going t do anything, I'd say call. Texts are so empty.

[candie13]

I say text her, it'll make her smile.

[316]

I can't imagine attractive women feeling lonely on V-Day. That seems backwards. SHe probably had to fight off a bunch of date requests.

 

 

So if I just sent a generic text to all my female contacts in my phone with "happy v-day!"

 

They would feel special? I find that hard to believe.

 

If you're going t do anything, I'd say call. Texts are so empty.

 

I'm still fresh out of a BU so I feel like a call would be too personal at this stage.

 

Its just meant to be a nice gesture that's all.

[Terminal-Ice]

Fondue, given that the OP gave us a background, the text in questions seems absolutely appropriate. This isn't rocket science.

 

You also seem to think that relationships have everything to do with looks. They don't. That might be how it is for you, but most of us would rather be alone than with a boring, pessimistic idiot who looks like Brad Pitt, for example. Looks only get you so far.

[Fondue]

Fondue, given that the OP gave us a background, the text in questions seems absolutely appropriate. This isn't rocket science.

 

You also seem to think that relationships have everything to do with looks. They don't. That might be how it is for you, but most of us would rather be alone than with a boring, pessimistic idiot who looks like Brad Pitt, for example. Looks only get you so far.

You're insinuating that I am boring and pessimistic, or that I look like Brad Pitt?

 

I'm not sure whether I should be insulted or complimented.

[ASG]

I can't imagine attractive women feeling lonely on V-Day. That seems backwards. SHe probably had to fight off a bunch of date requests.

 

 

If you're going t do anything, I'd say call. Texts are so empty.

 

WHAT?! Do you know *ANY* women? I don't know a single woman who gets asked out on Valentines Day who is not already in a relationship. Maybe we move in very different cultures, but where I'm from, V Day is not a 1st date day. Women go out with established partners or recurring dates.

 

Or, if you're single, you either go out with your other single friends or stay home and avoid the whole thing.

 

It's also not my experience, or that of my friends, to get loads of VDay texts/calls/cards. But maybe that is really a culture thing.

 

OP do it. A text in this instance is better than a call. In a "thinking of you today" kinda way It will most likely make her smile.

Edited February 12, 2013 by ASG

[todreaminblue]

Me and this girl have a very casual relationship with mild flirting and I doubt it would go anywhere serious anytime soon (she lives in another state). We enjoy texting each other every now and then.

 

My question is would it seem weird to text her Happy Valentines or would she possibly see it as sweet? I'd be ecstatic if it made her smile.

 

Any advice ladies? How would you feel about getting a Valentine's Day text from a guy you casually flirt with?

 

 

I think its sweet,in my opinion it would make a girl smile....best wishes....deb

[Fondue]

WHAT?! Do you know *ANY* women? I don't know a single woman who gets asked out on Valentines Day who is not already in a relationship. Maybe we move in very different cultures, but where I'm from, V Day is not a 1st date day. Women go out with established partners or recurring dates.

 

Or, if you're single, you either go out with your other single friends or stay home and avoid the whole thing.

 

It's also not my experience, or that of my friends, to get loads of VDay texts/calls/cards. But maybe that is really a culture thing.

 

OP do it. A text in this instance is better than a call. In a "thinking of you today" kinda way It will most likely make her smile.

Yes! I know plenty of women, thanks!

 

On V-day, plenty of girls get invitations for outings! It's a matter of them accepting it .

 

I'm sure if you pick up the phone of any attractive girl this week, you'll have texts from guys asking her what her plans are for Thursday. It is up to HER if she wants to spend it alone or with someone.

 

I will give you the fact that it may not be someone that is particularly wants to be WITH, but that's not the point.

 

I don't think it is a holiday for people only in relationships at all.