What to expect when I finally see him?

[KoKo0]

I have been away from my significant other for 4 months now, I wouldn't call it a permanent LDR but a temporary one as I will be going back home in exactly a month. I spent every day/night with him since I met him, we connect so well like no one I've ever met before, I feel as he is my soul mate, that I've known him from before.

 

Before I left overseas he told me he never wanted to lose me, and basically that he would wait for me to come back. This was the first time he has expressed how he felt, and I guess he didn't want me leaving without me knowing how he felt about me. We barely communicated as I was away, for other reasons (I will not go into that). Out of these 4 months, we have spoken over the phone maybe 5 times, with an occasional message here and there. I am always thinking about him, and every time we have talked he has mentioned he was waiting for me to come home, and asking when I will be coming.

 

But as we haven't talked alot while I'm away I keep thinking about the worst things, maybe he has found someone, maybe he has forgotten about me? All these questions pop up and then I am becoming very anxious and nervous as I will be seeing him in 3 weeks, and I have forgotten his smell and everything, I feel as if everything will be unfamiliar or strange. I don't know what to expect. Is he going to hug me or high five me, I just don't know.

 

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did it work out for you?

[LittleTiger]

If it was me, I would ask him how you stand before you see him. Then you'll know whether to expect a hug or a high five.

 

What I don't quite understand is why you didn't have more contact whilst apart, if the plan was to wait for one another. Modern methods of communication, such as Skype, make it so easy to stay in touch these days.

 

Four months is a very short LDR, especially if you are committed to being together, but this doesn't sound like an LDR if you've only spoken five times since you've been apart. Were you dating other people, even just casually? Was he?

 

It's definitely something that needs talking about in advance of your reunion, otherwise one, or both, of you could find it rather awkward.

[KoKo0]

If it was me, I would ask him how you stand before you see him. Then you'll know whether to expect a hug or a high five.

 

What I don't quite understand is why you didn't have more contact whilst apart, if the plan was to wait for one another. Modern methods of communication, such as Skype, make it so easy to stay in touch these days.

 

Four months is a very short LDR, especially if you are committed to being together, but this doesn't sound like an LDR if you've only spoken five times since you've been apart. Were you dating other people, even just casually? Was he?

 

It's definitely something that needs talking about in advance of your reunion, otherwise one, or both, of you could find it rather awkward.

 

We haven't talked much because he barely ever gets on due to his lifestyle and I know his lifestyle very well. The other thing is neither of us like to talk about things until we see each other face to face, most our messaging is "I miss you" and " can't wait till I see you" along the lines of that. I don't know, I guess we are both secretive, but I do trust him.

 

I was not dating anyone, he has asked me this and I also asked him the same, he told me he wasn't and basically that he was waiting for me.

 

I think it is best to speak with him a few days before I go back home to actually see where we stand, and the reunion won't be awkward.

 

Thank you