AZNNTYCE Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 ok heres the proplem.... me and my ex, ex gf broke up about 1 year now, and now and then i still think about her. ive been seeing other girls during this time, and it doesnt compare to who my ex, ex was. i know i still love her, and im not sure if she feels the same way. i know she's been seeing someone else, and i dont want to intervien. but i think i should tell her i still care...? i cant be friends with her and act like were friends if i still like her and i was thinking about tellin her just that. i dont know if she feels the same, but i know ill sleep better if i tell her. can i have your opions plz... thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 First of all I want to tell you that I know you are suffering with a broken heart and a long line of questions that you have about the "what if's......" and that really sucks! What would you lose by calling her? When was the last time you spoke to her? As long as you don't act like an idiot on the phone with her, she probably won't mind you calling unless.........you were a complete JERK towards her while in the relationship and she ended it with you because of your negative actions towards her - I wouldn't bother calling her under those circumstances. Be honest with yourself. Will there be anything to "gain" by calling her? How much do you have to "lose" by calling her? Answer yourself carefully. My motto: If you are ready to pose the question.....then that means that you are ready for the answer ;whether it's what you want to hear or not! Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
Author AZNNTYCE Posted August 31, 2004 Author Share Posted August 31, 2004 i just spoke to her on the phone, but she sounded soo happy to hear from me and i didnt want to ruin the moment. she said she had a dream bout me the previous night. and also talked bout the tv show that was on and how it brang back memories of us. as much as i wanted to tell her i couldnt ruin the moment... wat should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author AZNNTYCE Posted August 31, 2004 Author Share Posted August 31, 2004 she just called me up and we spoke for a few hours. we talked about old times, and brang up things like, sex, our relationship and the problems we had when we were going out. she once said to me, there will always be a place for me in her heart even if we were apart. and i had to ask her if that was true and she said yes. she has a bf that she slowly brang into the picture, which stopped me from telling her alot of deep things i had in mind. she brang up that it would of been 2 years to this day that we met, which i found really wierd and conincidental at the time. what should i do? should i tell her i still love her or just forget it? im not looking to get her back, thats not what i have in mind. just that i know ill sleep better at night withher knowing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 You know what? Maybe you should try writing down your feelings? and mail the letter to her. Then she will know how you feel and what you anticipate happening upon reading the letter. If you expect nothing from her then state that clearly but if your true wish is to re-establish a relationship with her then tell her that too. Sometimes a letter explains a lot more than we do with our spoken words. Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
Author AZNNTYCE Posted August 31, 2004 Author Share Posted August 31, 2004 i was thinking about that. but at the moment, she has a bf.... thats my only big problem... didnt realise it til now. Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 But......she was happy to hear from you. This whole thing is to get you feeling better. So you could say what is on your mind and in your heart. I can respect the fact that YOU respect the fact that she has a b/f ( pardon the redundency there ) but a letter is a great release of our emotions and it also can help YOU resolve your feelings by writing them down. I started a letter to my ex once and discovered that I did not want to send it to him.......I kept it for myself as a self-therapy thing. Weather or not you ask her to come back to you is completely up to you. Be honest and cautious. I doubt very seriously that she will even mention the letter to her now b/f as long as you make sure not to be rude or call her any names - don't give her a reason to be angry. Write the letter in the hopes of helping YOU heal as well as give her some closure or possibly exposure to the relationship as it is now. I really hope this helps. You are in a really bad state my friend, I understand.....we all understand Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
Author AZNNTYCE Posted August 31, 2004 Author Share Posted August 31, 2004 hey thanks Bubbles and everyone else. i just read your post and made me understand alot of things. she has a few things that i let her borrow recently and she told me to come and pick it up on thursday. i might give it to her then if i finish it, but it seems like i have alot to write so i prob wont give it to her til a week or so. thanks heaps henri~ Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Anytime! Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
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