somedude81 Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 I'm currently in my last real semester of college. Due to procrastination and screwed up planning, I'm currently taking, calculus, finance and statistics. I need to pass all my classes or I don't graduate. I also completely suck at math and it's very difficult to understand the concepts. I actually have my first cal test in a little bit and I'm probably going to fail. How does this relate to dating? Absolutely sucking at my classes is destroying my confidence. I'm almost always in a poor mood and under a lot of stress. I know the obvious answer is to forget about women and focus on school. If I could turn oof my sex drive and desire for companionship I would. But its not possible. So here I am depressed and angry about my classes and depressed and angry about being single. It wouldn't be a stretch to say that my classes are making it harder to attract girls, and that doing poorly with girls is making me do poorly in my classes because I can't focus. I am trying to succeed at both. I currently have a tutor for math and I'm an optional supplementary instruction class for the math, but it's just not enough. I probably have a learning disability associated with math but it's far too late to do anything about. With girls, I'm trying to be more sociable in some classes. I also found the first girl I want to ask out this semester. I'm planning on making some move on Tuesday. Lucky me that she's in my math class So by this time next week, I'd have failed my first test and gotten my first rejection for the year. What a great way to start the semester. And I'm now off to class. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 I would say focusing on school is more important. I remember nothing I learned, so I feel your pain on that front. School is more important because you are solely in control. If you work at it, you can/will succeed. With women, you only control 50% of it. You can be at the top of your game and she can still have a boyfriend, which voids any game you may have. That's not me trying to discourage you, by all means, approach as many women in school as you want, but don't emotionally invest in it. Just take it for what it is. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 You're right, I would suggest that you forget about girls right now. This will be important - your ability to focus, you're ability to exercise self-discipline when needed. If I were you, I would make that a strong priority, as much as that may pain you to read. I have some stuff to send you, but I'm not at home at the moment. I will PM them to you. They are to do with both maths and girls - to help you . But still, I would focus on the school stuff for now. PM me when you need, I'll give you some personal help if you need. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 From the sounds of it, dating and a relationship should be the last things on your mind. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate 2.0 Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 College > Women. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 You are putting all of your time and energy in just to pass Calc and Statistics? If that's really the case, then forget women for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 You'll have even less game if you don't graduate from college. So yeah, head down, focus on school. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 I'm currently in my last real semester of college. Due to procrastination and screwed up planning, I'm currently taking, calculus, finance and statistics. I need to pass all my classes or I don't graduate. I also completely suck at math and it's very difficult to understand the concepts. I actually have my first cal test in a little bit and I'm probably going to fail. How does this relate to dating? Absolutely sucking at my classes is destroying my confidence. I'm almost always in a poor mood and under a lot of stress. I know the obvious answer is to forget about women and focus on school. If I could turn oof my sex drive and desire for companionship I would. But its not possible. So here I am depressed and angry about my classes and depressed and angry about being single. It wouldn't be a stretch to say that my classes are making it harder to attract girls, and that doing poorly with girls is making me do poorly in my classes because I can't focus. I am trying to succeed at both. I currently have a tutor for math and I'm an optional supplementary instruction class for the math, but it's just not enough. I probably have a learning disability associated with math but it's far too late to do anything about. With girls, I'm trying to be more sociable in some classes. I also found the first girl I want to ask out this semester. I'm planning on making some move on Tuesday. Lucky me that she's in my math class So by this time next week, I'd have failed my first test and gotten my first rejection for the year. What a great way to start the semester. And I'm now off to class. This is exactly what I went through my last two semesters of college. It didn't help that I was taking a slate of supposedly "easy" classes and thought I could wing it. I got depressed about being single and let it impact my focus and my GPA slipped. Not to a horrible level, but enough that I'd have a hard time getting into any local graduate schools. Good luck to you, try to block it out. I know how hard that is though... Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted February 13, 2013 Author Share Posted February 13, 2013 Right now I'm at a point where I need some joy in my life or I feel like I'm seriously going to crash. While I was in the SI class I almost felt like crying because everything is completely over my head and I know that I should understand the material. As for girls, I don't know how I can stop caring. I've said many times that getting a GF is the absolute most important thing to me. Being depressed because of my singleness is the main reason why it's taken me over 10 years to get my degree. What really pisses me of us that I would be done now if I didn't have to do any math classes. I'm an information systems major and all my major related classes are finished. Well it's test time. I Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 lol we're both in the same boat. I'm the same age as you and am in my last semester as well and have the success with women that you do! I cancelled my OLD account after the last girl. If I EVER do OLD again it'll be after the semester at the earliest but I probably won't do it again until I get a better job and am "independant". Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted February 13, 2013 Share Posted February 13, 2013 Right now I'm at a point where I need some joy in my life or I feel like I'm seriously going to crash. While I was in the SI class I almost felt like crying because everything is completely over my head and I know that I should understand the material. As for girls, I don't know how I can stop caring. I've said many times that getting a GF is the absolute most important thing to me. Being depressed because of my singleness is the main reason why it's taken me over 10 years to get my degree. What really pisses me of us that I would be done now if I didn't have to do any math classes. I'm an information systems major and all my major related classes are finished. Well it's test time. I I know it's going to fall on deaf ears but I have to point this out again for emphasis: You HAVE to find something else more important than getting a girlfriend. You have to. It doesn't mean it's never important to you, but you cannot allow your lack of one to destroy you internally. You need a goal, a passion, something else that can make you happy. Like for me, I have other things that make me happy sufficiently that I won't cry if I never got a GF or never got laid again. Those things hold a great importance to me in the grand scheme of things. For you, you need that. Something else in your life that gives you hope and passion. It's important. (P.S. PM me your birth details, I want to see something, it might help me). 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 Well that was quick. Completely above and beyond anything I knew. Didn't even bother turning in the test. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 How can college be messing up your game when you have no game? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Well that was quick. Completely above and beyond anything I knew. Didn't even bother turning in the test. Does your professor drop a test/replace the best test with the worst? If so you still have a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
man_in_the_box Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Ironic. When I got a girlfriend my study results crashed for a about a year and a half. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 How can college be messing up your game when you have no game? Unless I'm mixing you up with another posts are a lot different from what they used to be?? Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Just focus on school. Girls can come later. Man if only I had heeded this information back when I was starting college. I was attending long beach state, pulling straight As in my first semester and got asked to join the basketball team as a redshirt. But then my dad got relocated to Florida, and I was 18 and completely on my own and my girlfriend didn't care if I went to school or not as long as I spent more time with her. I chose her and I ended up failing all my classes (just stopped going) and of course basketball was out of the question. I'm 38 now and I'm JUST starting up college again after over 15 years (and I'm taking calculus as my only class). My biggest regret over the past two decades is I never got a degree and I never got to play college ball. I can still get a degree but I'll never get a second chance at playing for an NCAA division I college. I mean how awesome would that have been...I could have played on national TV. But now I just get to talk about what could have been instead. Man you do NOT want to live your life with regrets. Take the opportunities as they come...you don't always get a second chance at things. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Unless I'm mixing you up with another posts are a lot different from what they used to be?? Re-read that sentence and tell me that makes sense. What are you trying to say? Spit it out man! Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Re-read that sentence and tell me that makes sense. What are you trying to say? Spit it out man! I don't know it just seems like you're more of a dick lately (not this post) no offencse. Mabye it's because I haven't seen you post in a while? I remeber you gave me lots of good adivce back when. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Why don't you ask the girl in math class to be your study partner? Kill two birds with one stone. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I don't know it just seems like you're more of a dick lately (not this post) no offencse. Mabye it's because I haven't seen you post in a while? I remeber you gave me lots of good adivce back when. I've always been a dick. I'm just on my rag recently.... 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 (edited) Ironic. When I got a girlfriend my study results crashed for a about a year and a half. It didn't help my grades either. I suspect if SD started getting involved with a girl right now, especially if it was with a girl with any sort of drama it would not be good for his studies. If early on in the relationship the girl started to make issues over his lack of past relationships or limited social life it would throw him for a loop for sure and his studies would suffer for sure. Now if he had a fwb he could hang out with on a fri or sat night to relax that would be the ticket. If this course has been going 10 yrs, then he needs to hit the books seriously. Edited February 14, 2013 by ascendotum Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 I know it's going to fall on deaf ears but I have to point this out again for emphasis: You HAVE to find something else more important than getting a girlfriend. You have to. It doesn't mean it's never important to you, but you cannot allow your lack of one to destroy you internally. You need a goal, a passion, something else that can make you happy. Like for me, I have other things that make me happy sufficiently that I won't cry if I never got a GF or never got laid again. Those things hold a great importance to me in the grand scheme of things. For you, you need that. Something else in your life that gives you hope and passion. It's important. (P.S. PM me your birth details, I want to see something, it might help me). A goal? Graduating college and getting on with my life. But just like trying to get a GF, I feel that I'm fighting against fate. It's much harder than it should be. I'm too depressed to have any passions. I have things that I enjoy doing, and things that I do to pass the time. Most likely I haven't found anything that I'm passionate about yet. Why don't you ask the girl in math class to be your study partner? Kill two birds with one stone. That actually sounds like a decent idea. I'm just embarrassed that I'm so bad at math. How is me asking her for help supposed to attract her? It didn't help my grades either. I suspect if SD started getting involved with a girl right now, especially if it was with a girl with any sort of drama it would not be good for his studies. If early on in the relationship the girl started to make issues over his lack of past relationships or limited social life it would throw him for a loop for sure and his studies would suffer for sure. Now if he had a fwb he could hang out with on a fri or sat night to relax that would be the ticket. If this course has been going 10 yrs, then he needs to hit the books seriously. Or getting involved with a girl could be the best thing to ever happen for me. I certainly can't do any worse than I'm doing now. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I've always been a dick. I'm just on my rag recently.... Lol that's a strike on me then for barely noticing it now. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Lol that's a strike on me then for barely noticing it now. No worries... I'm still rooting for you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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