College is messing up my game

[Krieger]

Hey,I am even thinking about hanging out at college library to hit on chicks.

 

You got a goldmine and you are not realizing it.

 

You don't just study home? If you do, go to library and coffee shops.

You basically have multiple chances of hitting on girls everyday.

Sit next to cute chicks and talk about tests, professor, majors and even macbooks she is using!

'hey how do you like your macbook?'

'hm....you must be a hipster lol'

 

Will they treat your innocent comment like a guy spitting pickup lines at a bar? NO

 

x2

 

Why not finish college before you go out looking for dates? I would much rather finish college then try to find a GF.

 

I know I do not have the energy to date working 40 hours a week and taking 3 class and lack of sleep make me look like I just been up for days doing drugs.

 

anyway get college done yet don't stop beliving oh sorry go talk on some girls .

[Archgirl]

Don't have a lot of time but I will say one thing.

 

A while ago I was diagnosed with dysthymia. I wouldn't doubt for a second that it affects how well I do with school and women.

 

You know this f*** with your cognitive processes right? Like literally changes the way your brain processes info, particularly problem solving and that it's worse under stress...I think you should listen to KFJoe, try some professional help and medication, what have you got to lose?

Edited February 17, 2013 by Archgirl

[Eclypse]

On topic, university is hard. If it wasn't it wouldn't hold the prestige it does. I can't think of many people who breezed through their degrees, particularly those involved with maths and science. Yes those 3 are hard subjects but you have to take life as it comes at you. I had some very difficult subjects in third year, and I had to do 4 per semester. Let's not even start with the honours year, when I had to write a thesis. It meant buckling down and doing work, even though girls and video games sounded like so much more fun

 

I think you should give dating a rest until you finish this year. Maintaining a relationship while studying isn't and shouldn't be hard but if you prioritise finding a girlfriend in the manic way you do, that will only lead to ruin in my opinion. Pulling yourself out of this one won't be easy. A 0 on a midsemester test doesn't look good, but it can be done if you do study hard now and do better on the exam. How much of your final grade was this test worth? I think you should call your tutor and organise extra classes.

 

From what you said before, you need to pass this semester or you'll be kicked out because you can't defer any more? If that is the case then I implore you to please work your butt off. It really really will not look attractive if you tell a girl you spent 5 years at college and ended up dropping out...

 

Also try to get your GPA up as much as you can to make it easier to find jobs when you graduate.

Edited February 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[somedude81]

Thank you so much Eternal Sunshine. I'm going to work through the problem after I have breakfast.

 

I was mathed out last night. Today I can get back into it.

[somedude81]

You know this f*** with your cognitive processes right? Like literally changes the way your brain processes info, particularly problem solving and that it's worse under stress...I think you should listen to KFJoe, try some professional help and medication, what have you got to lose?

Oh definitely. I know it plays havoc with my mind. It also destroys my motivation and severely limits my ability to focus and stay dedicated.

 

Everybody calling me lazy needs to do some research.

[somedude81]

One last thing.

 

How am I supposed to give up dating?

 

Is there any possible way to turn off my sex drive and desire for companionship? I'm 31 years old for Christ's sake! Every one of my cousins 24 and older is married, except for my 28 year old brother who is as screwed up as I am.

 

I'm tired of always being alone. I won't be done with school until July. I just can't see myself being content by myself until then. There are so many things I missing that I have wanted for almost 20 years now.

[sweetjasmine]

Well, that's what focusing on a task is all about. Ignoring distractions and prioritizing properly. It's an important life skill.

 

But, okay, fine, SD. What exactly do you want and how are you going to get it? What's your plan? What are the obstacles in your way and how are you going to get around them?

 

None of this "it's impossible" horsesh-t. What are you going to do?

[somedude81]

Well, that's what focusing on a task is all about. Ignoring distractions and prioritizing properly. It's an important life skill.

Not going to argue with you there. I've always had an issue with those things. They are something I'm trying to work on

 

But, okay, fine, SD. What exactly do you want and how are you going to get it? What's your plan? What are the obstacles in your way and how are you going to get around them?

 

None of this "it's impossible" horsesh-t. What are you going to do?

Are you talking about school, relationships or both?

[sweetjasmine]

Not going to argue with you there. I've always had an issue with those things. They are something I'm trying to work on

 

It's harder for some than it is for others, but now's as good a time as any to learn how to do it.

 

Are you talking about school, relationships or both?

 

Both. Anything you're looking to achieve.

[SmileFace]

I am sorry but if your aren't working right now you have more than enough time to study and date.

[somedude81]

It's harder for some than it is for others, but now's as good a time as any to learn how to do it.

 

 

 

Both. Anything you're looking to achieve.

For dating. I need to be more sociable and just take more risks with women. There are currently two girls I'm almost interested in and I'm planning on taking some action this week.

 

For school, I need to put in the time when I'm not in class to learn the material. I really need to limit how much time I spend on distractions at home. Video games and general computer use are huge time wasters.

I am sorry but if your aren't working right now you have more than enough time to study and date.

That's exactly how I see it.

 

There is no reason why I won't be able to do both.

[SmileFace]

When I posted initially I assumed you were working.

 

Do your self a favor.

 

Get out of the house.

Do not study at home.

 

Wake up in the morning and get dressed ... go to classes, then go to a book store, Starbucks or Panera.

 

Do not and I repeat attempt to study at home. It doesn't work.

 

When I had big exams - I will spend hours among hours in Barnes and Noble and you can meet great people this way. However being out the house meant I had less distractions.

 

Stop making excuses, we all do but it isn't the time for it. Distraction are not going to get you a degree and won't get you laid.

 

I wish I had the ability to go to school and not have to work less than 40 hrs a week.

[blindotter]

In gestalt psychology there is a saying I really like, especially with regard to dysthymia - "the only way out is through." Medication will only help to a certain degree, and of course as with most types of depression medication in conjunction with therapeutic intervention is much more likely to be effective. The urge to get a girlfriend to such a compulsive degree likely stems from the same impulse that causes people with dysthymia to self medicate with alcohol or pot...there is an assumption that it will make you feel better, but it would only be a superficial, cosmetic solution to a deeper problem and it is highly likely it would just add more complications to an already difficult period in your life. Try to get through this, first, and understand that the desire for a partner at this point is more like a cognitive distortion of the desire to escape where you are right now with a quick fix.

[Teknoe]

When I posted initially I assumed you were working.

 

Do your self a favor.

 

Get out of the house.

Do not study at home.

 

Wake up in the morning and get dressed ... go to classes, then go to a book store, Starbucks or Panera.

 

Do not and I repeat attempt to study at home. It doesn't work.

 

When I had big exams - I will spend hours among hours in Barnes and Noble and you can meet great people this way. However being out the house meant I had less distractions.

 

Stop making excuses, we all do but it isn't the time for it. Distraction are not going to get you a degree and won't get you laid.

 

I wish I had the ability to go to school and not have to work less than 40 hrs a week.

 

 

+1. Studying at home never ever works. I always end up playing games, watching a movie or just "chilling." I know that it is the same for many other people.

 

But when I head out, I *DO* study. Less distractions, I've wasted gas for it, and I'm in my "outside clothes," meaning I can't just plop in bed and be a bum all day long.

 

SD, you say I need to do this or I gotta do that. But it seems like you rarely ever follow through. It's time to put your plans into place. Even if you come up short, it's better than standing still

[somedude81]

When I posted initially I assumed you were working.

 

Do your self a favor.

 

Get out of the house.

Do not study at home.

 

Wake up in the morning and get dressed ... go to classes, then go to a book store, Starbucks or Panera.

 

Do not and I repeat attempt to study at home. It doesn't work.

 

When I had big exams - I will spend hours among hours in Barnes and Noble and you can meet great people this way. However being out the house meant I had less distractions.

 

Stop making excuses, we all do but it isn't the time for it. Distraction are not going to get you a degree and won't get you laid.

 

I wish I had the ability to go to school and not have to work less than 40 hrs a week.

Those are some good suggestions. The distractions are not going to help me.

 

In gestalt psychology there is a saying I really like, especially with regard to dysthymia - "the only way out is through." Medication will only help to a certain degree, and of course as with most types of depression medication in conjunction with therapeutic intervention is much more likely to be effective. The urge to get a girlfriend to such a compulsive degree likely stems from the same impulse that causes people with dysthymia to self medicate with alcohol or pot...there is an assumption that it will make you feel better, but it would only be a superficial, cosmetic solution to a deeper problem and it is highly likely it would just add more complications to an already difficult period in your life. Try to get through this, first, and understand that the desire for a partner at this point is more like a cognitive distortion of the desire to escape where you are right now with a quick fix.

Tell me this.

 

Am I the only person who ever lived that wanted to be in a relationship? That wanting to have a partner is an abnormal desire.

[Teknoe]

Tell me this.

 

Am I the only person who ever lived that wanted to be in a relationship? That wanting to have a partner is an abnormal desire.

 

You know the answer to that.

 

It's normal to want a relationship.

 

However, there's want, really want, and THEN crippling overly obsessive need, to the point where it drags your whole life down. You, sir, are sadly in that 3rd and last category. Most people are in categories 1 or 2. You've let this obsession of getting a GF get the worse of you. You are allowing it to happen, and that's why you feel so miserable about life.

[Lonely Ronin]

Am I the only person who ever lived that wanted to be in a relationship? That wanting to have a partner is an abnormal desire.

 

No,

 

But you have to figure out if you want to be in a relationship, because you want to be in one with the other person, or because you want to be in a relationship because of what it stands for.

 

IRL everyone I know that's normal and struggling, is in the later category.

[sweetjasmine]

For dating. I need to be more sociable and just take more risks with women. There are currently two girls I'm almost interested in and I'm planning on taking some action this week.

 

For school, I need to put in the time when I'm not in class to learn the material. I really need to limit how much time I spend on distractions at home. Video games and general computer use are huge time wasters.

 

That's a good start. And it should help if you break those things down into even smaller steps until you get to things you feel you can really do. It's easy to say "I need to study hard and stop wasting time" but difficult to actually get there, even if you're not depressed. So what can you do to get yourself to a point where you can accomplish that?

 

Studying outside of home is a great idea. A change of scenery can really do wonders.

 

That's exactly how I see it.

 

There is no reason why I won't be able to do both.

 

Okay, SD, but the problem is that you're currently not able to do both, or either, to the extent you want/need to, and there are reasons why (self-sabotage, lack of motivation, etc.). You need to figure out those reasons and how to fix them if you want to get anywhere.

[somedude81]

Step1 (expand expressions in the first bracket):

[-(400x^2 + 800xh + 400h^2) +6800x + 6800h-12000] - (-400x^2+6800x-12000)

Step 2 (get rid of the "-" in front of a bracket)

 

[-400x^2 - 800xh - 400h^2 + 6800x + 6800h-12000] - (-400x^2+6800x-12000)

Step 3 (remove the second brackets, watch the "-" again)

 

[-400x^2 - 800xh - 400h^2 + 6800x + 6800h-12000] +400x^2 -6800x+12000

 

Step 4 (add terms together, make sure you add "like for like") so:

 

-400x^2+400X^2 = 0

 

-800xh (no other term with "xh" so just leave it)

 

-400h^2 (no other term with "h^2" so leave it)

 

+6800x-6800x = 0

 

+6800h (no other term with "h" so leave it)

 

-1200+1200 = 0

 

Step 5 (add the results of step 4 together)

 

0 - 800xh - 400h^2 + 0 + 6800h + 0 = -800xh -400h^2 + 6800h

 

 

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Note: I assumed that you made a typo in "4000x^2" and really meant "400x^2"

OK, I've spent way too much time on this problem and it's still not making any sense.

 

I know that -400(x+h)^2 uses the (x+h)^2 = (x2 + 2hx + h^2) formula.

 

So it expands to -400x^2 + 800hx + 400h^2

 

In the next step it's -400x^2 - 800hx - 400^2

 

Why did the signs change?

[Casablanca]

OK, I've spent way too much time on this problem and it's still not making any sense.

 

I know that -400(x+h)^2 uses the (x+h)^2 = (x2 + 2hx + h^2) formula.

 

So it expands to -400x^2 + 800hx + 400h^2

 

In the next step it's -400x^2 - 800hx - 400^2

 

Why did the signs change?

The negative 400, the negative is distributed to every term within the parenthesis and thus changes all the signs

[somedude81]

I've heard that before, something about distributing the negative.

 

Oh, then it was wrong writing it as -400x^2 + 800hx + 400h^2

 

It should have been -400x^2 - 800hx - 400h^2 from the start right?

 

I think I need to find a cute girl who's really patient that can help me with this math stuff when I get stuck on the little things.

[SmileFace]

I've heard that before, something about distributing the negative.

 

Oh, then it was wrong writing it as -400x^2 + 800hx + 400h^2

 

It should have been -400x^2 - 800hx - 400h^2 from the start right?

 

I think I need to find a cute girl who's really patient that can help me with this math stuff when I get stuck on the little things.

No you need to find a person in general who can help you - you don't need an additional distraction.

[somedude81]

No you need to find a person in general who can help you - you don't need an additional distraction.

I'm trying to keep this thread related to dating so it doesn't get moved to the math section

 

Buy yay, thanks for the help guys. I was able to solve and understand the complete problem.

[sid3]

Are you serious....There's men in their thirties that still play video games? I'd rather watch a woman try on clothes. Preferably skimpy ones, but still.

[somedude81]

Are you serious....There's men in their thirties that still play video games? I'd rather watch a woman try on clothes. Preferably skimpy ones, but still.

And I watch anime too

 

I might as well cut my penis off.