ajs68 Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 I have been married for several years now and I love my wife beyond words. We have a good sexual relation ship, and I try to make her feel like she is the only one in the world when it comes to making love to her. But a couple of years ago I noticed things in bed were not too good, so I tried several different things to make it more exciting ( dildos , vibrator, gels, so on). Now I am not small nor am I big, I never had any complaints about sex with me from former lovers etc. I also had one girl say I was the biggest she ever had. I don't think I'm big. Then I noticed that my wife liked it when she had more than normal in her, then it was me and a dildo in her, so on. So I asked her about previous men she had been with and she said there were a couple that were larger than normal, and the last guy she was with for 3 years was very large. Now that made me feel insignificant to say the least. She said she is not unhappy with me and that I do everything to make her happy, and that I make her cum every time. But I know that she has to have her clit rubbed or hit by me for her to cum. I also notice that when she has a large dildo in her she is in another world compared to when I'm in her. So I try to please her but i feel very small now, and I have been on a quest to get a bigger dick. I have tried pumps, and a thing that streches it, but all that stuff just doesn't quite do what I want to get to. I told her I was going to throw out the pump and did she want me to keep it (it does swell it for a little bit) and she said she likes it sometimes that way. So I keep it. I want to know if there is a surgical answer to this, I have searched on line but found nothing yet. Plus I want to get over this feeling of inadequacy. I feel a larger penis will solve a lot and she agrees. She is not being cruel, she is saying the truth. She is happy, but could be more happy, I know this my self from the way she is with larger things in her. I want to be her every thing, and feel like nothing most of the time. Is there any serious way to enlarge my penis, surgical or other? And if not how the hell can I get over this ****ty feeling! Thank you for your responce. Link to post Share on other sites
StillChillinCookie Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 http://www.castlerealm.com She obviously likes pain, check it out. I must warn you, you HAVE to be open minded for anything, is you have any questions, you can send me a private msg for my Email and I'll answer any questions you might have. Link to post Share on other sites
StillChillinCookie Posted August 30, 2004 Share Posted August 30, 2004 By the way, I'm the same with my fiance. I guess it's just normal for some people. Don't take any offence to it. It just tickles our fancy and floats our boat! Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Cookie, what does D/S have to do with his situation? Those two are totally different. ajs, first mistake you made was to ask about her previous lovers. My wife doesn't mind me telling details about my past, but I would never ask her about hers. All I know is how many there were. I would never ask about their size, because you run the risk of what has happened to you. The only way to make it bigger, is to have fat surgurically removed from your ass and implanted into your penis. Though most doctors might not do it, but I heard it being done. I'm sure you've been with other women that have been 'tighter' than her, but that doesn't stop you from enjoying it, does it? Or you been with someone w/ a bigger chest. I don't understand why she needs to have something 'bigger' inside her. Unless she has lost feeling. I do believe they make sensitizing creme for women. I know they make desensitizing creme for men who climax too fast. This sounds more like a psychological issue with you since you feel 'inadequate'. You did not feel this way before asking her those questions. She could have also been more sensitive towards this subject as well. Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Look my friend, It is absolutely imperative that you understand something. I don't mean saying, "okay, okay, I get" But REALLY dig into this and truly understand the implications it has for you. YOU are the man in her life. there have been others, but YOU are the one she chose. Every time I think about that one concept I feel extremely Significant. Who gives a rats hairy nutsack if she was with someone physically larger than you? What's important is that you are the largest person in her heart. That counts incredibly more than a penis. Sex is intimate between you, it's emotional, She's present, and what counts most, is she is with YOU! Take some of the attention off of yourself. Enjoy your mate, she's probably damn sexy to you. worrying about your size only makes matter worse for the both of you. I have to say , you seem to be an attentive and caring lover that you're concerned with her pleasure. Kudos! So many guys just throw it in and throw away everything else. I have to differ with jm. The stretching excersizes, however slowly, DO work. I know. And surgery is NOT the way to go! For Peter's sake, stay away from the knife! Some of the herbals will help make tissues more expandable but they won't do it alone. It just takes time, effort, and discipline. BUT There's something to be said for having a 10" long x 7" around scepter at the ready for your mate. That is "OW!" Me, I have to be careful not to hurt my sweetie. She's such a little thing. It takes some of the "reckless abandon" out of it. The first time we were "close" she said she was kinda afraid of me. That wasn't an ego boost at all. From what I hear, women LIVE in fear of male strangers, and to have this said to me by a woman I am in love with made me want to "abbreviate" Mr happy. But I chickened out. Take it from me, size CAN be important, especially if you're too damn big, if you're normal, like most of us in the bell curve, you can get the ol' boy into places bigger dudes can only hope a porn star would allow. YES those girls ARE pretending to like it. You are powerfully significant. Link to post Share on other sites
StillChillinCookie Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 D/s has absolutely nothing to do with it. However, there are some interisting links from that page, that answer some of the questions he's asking. Pain, she just might like pain, it might not be because of his size, she just might want more pain. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted September 1, 2004 Share Posted September 1, 2004 There is SO much more to D/S than pain. Me and my wife have been into this D/S before. I don't believe that's what she needs. Link to post Share on other sites
StillChillinCookie Posted September 2, 2004 Share Posted September 2, 2004 I am invloved in it. I know what it's about, however, there are sites that link off of that page into other sites that do have to do with pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajs68 Posted September 3, 2004 Author Share Posted September 3, 2004 Thank you all for your comments, I appreciate them. AJS Link to post Share on other sites
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