thr1986 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Are relationships even realistic? I am just convinced that the human nature is to cheat when the opportunity arises and it sees possible that you will not get caught. I am 26 and every girl I have ever dated has cheated on me. I'm dating someone now that I Really love and she tells me that she loves me and acts like she loves me but I swear I just think she has cheated, mostly with someone from work. She is very weird about her phone, she wont get up and go to the bathroom or leave the phone without her phone, like she thinks I will look at it or someone will text her. I know this sounds stupid but I just cant help but think the worst. I just can't take the feeling of humiliation again. I have genuinely never cheated. I get set on someone and thats who I think about all the time. I just feel like I am disconnected from the general population or something. ALLL i want is just someone who wants to be in a monogamous relationship. I feel like giving up, honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I'm starting to wonder myself. I'm thinking about trying something new in my next relationship. I think I might cheat on the next lucky girl just to ser what all the fuss is about. I also plan to flirt with other females. It might feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
LeliiMarie612 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Don't give up. I understand where your coming from with this, since you've been cheated on so many times you've developed trust issues. And you may just be overanalyzing, which is a part of your trust issues. And you need to let it go. An essential part of relationships is trust, and realizing that not everyone will cheat on you and in order to maintain a healthy relationship, you need to let jealousy and worry go. You can't let the past get to you, or affect your current relationship. And don't give up. Being cheated on is painful, but when you find the right person they won't ever imagine leaving you for anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Listen, first of all there are good people out there who will not cheat. Let your experiences be your strength and not your weakness. You know what its like to be cheated on so you know what to look for. You also have an advantage of understanding the feeling in your gut that something is off. As far as your GF's phone issue? Well... that would concern me too. I would ask her about it and go from there. See how your gut feels when you speak with her. Link to post Share on other sites
sunbeach200 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 You have just been unlucky with the girls you have met. Some girls do believe in love and commitment to another person. So dont give up.There are others out there with morals and integrity and would never cheat because they dont see the point in the cheap thrill. Link to post Share on other sites
MrBossMan Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Improve your selection process. Look for signs of honesty and faithfulness. Looks will eventually fade. Link to post Share on other sites
In Like Flynn Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Have you asked her why she takes her phone with her?? If not tell her because of your past it is a massive trigger!!! Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Improve your selection process. Look for signs of honesty and faithfulness. Looks will eventually fade. <<<This>>>> I have had 5 LTR's and I am at the beginning of the number 6 and I have never cheated and I have never been cheated on... I guess you chose the wrong girls man... Link to post Share on other sites
animalover Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Who the HELL takes their stupid cell phone into the bathroom with them? What is wrong with her? When my boyfriend comes over, he throws his phone on the coffee table and it's still sitting there in the morning when I get up and he's still sleeping. People who have nothing to hide, hide NOTHING. She's hiding something. And this is totally true too... if you don't have anything to hide... you don't hide anything... It is clear she has something she doesn't want you to find about... Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 Who the HELL takes their stupid cell phone into the bathroom with them? What is wrong with her? When my boyfriend comes over, he throws his phone on the coffee table and it's still sitting there in the morning when I get up and he's still sleeping. People who have nothing to hide, hide NOTHING. She's hiding something. Amen, and yet some people here will be quick to tell you that you have no business looking at your SO's phone and that if you even consider it the relationship is already over. My guess is that these same people take their phones into the bathroom with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Esoteric Elf Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 ALLL i want is just someone who wants to be in a monogamous relationship. Depending on what you define as a monogamous relationship, that is going to be damn difficult to find, an artifact of the past. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted February 19, 2013 Share Posted February 19, 2013 I know far more men than women that cheat personally in my own experience. Men tend to take whatever they can get and seem less loyal where I live Stats from scientific studies show its the same amount for both sexes so I wouldnt play the blame game There are alot of girls who feel the same way as you do about men Link to post Share on other sites
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