na49 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I'm definitely too much of a "nice guy". I apologize for things that I don't have to apologize for. I feel weird when someone else does something nice for me and always feel like I owe them. I love helping others, but I feel like I don't show "alpha" qualities. I'm also dangerously shy and have trouble introducing myself to people but once I get past the introducing myself to them phase, I'm usually fine. I think this makes me pretty boring because I just can't be that wild and crazy jerk that doesn't care and everyone loves. How do I fix this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted February 15, 2013 Author Share Posted February 15, 2013 anyone have any ideas? I also get really discouraged at times when I'm at school and everyone is talking about the different drugs they're on or that they do with their friends and I sit there with nothing to add. I've never been into that stuff, not against it. If my friends were doing it, I would join in because I have a good head on my shoulders and can do it in moderation. but I just never got into it so I feel boring. I just started college btw. Link to post Share on other sites
Kaza Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Hmm, why does it need to be fixed? I like nice people! I think its important to accept who you are, and there's really no need to be who you're not so that more people like you. Unless you want more hypocritical friends. And then maybe at the end of the day you're really tired pretending to be who you're not. Personally, I wouldn't hang out with people who I can't talk to often, once in a while is ok. Hang out with people who think you're interesting. I was pretty shy at school too, but that's ok, I never knew which drug was which, I never went to crazy parties, I hung out with the top students and talked about physics, and I still have friends I keep in touch with from that time. If you don't think you're an interesting person as a whole, then maybe try out some new hobbies and join some clubs at college. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 It won't change until you honestly, truly stop caring so much about what other people think. Unfortunately, this usually comes with age. Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Share Posted February 17, 2013 At times I don't care what other people think. I feel great about myself. I just get so discouraged when everyone is on drugs doing crazy things and I'm... not. I want to accept who I am and just be me and as easy as it is for me to say "I'll be me and who cares if others don't like me?" I want people to like me. I don't like being the quiet kid who no one talks to. Times like these make me miss my ex even more. She didn't drink or smoke so we had sober fun together all the time. Now she's gone, been gone for 4 months and I'm miserable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted February 17, 2013 Author Share Posted February 17, 2013 Can someone explain to me how I can be social and make friends in college when I don't drink/do drugs or go to crazy parties? Like I said, I'm not against any of that stuff. My friends just don't do it or if they do they never invite me to come with them. Link to post Share on other sites
RiceaRoni Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 first of all you dont need to drink or do drugs just to fit in or make friends lol thats ludacris.. I have a good amount of friends that I can have tons of fun with and we don't do any of that (well we drink occasionally, but not excessively).. Always have confidence within yourself and you will attract the right people...the right people that are meant for you. (unless you really do wanna do drugs and drink) It's just in my opinion you really don't need any of those things to fit in or to be noticed. I find excessive drinking and use of drugs to be weak minded or people who can't control their urges (unless you use drugs for medical purposes) to be weak minded in a way...I mean there are far better and far more fun things to do and look forward to in life lol anyways sorry about the rant..the point is, just be yourself..you will attract the right people, and if you wanna make friends. just say hi to people whenever you can, and if you see them a lot or have time to..stop and chat with them, just simple conversations..and then you can go from there Or if your school does field trips, or clubs, or events that's another great way to meet people and hang out and stuff haha..I hope I've helped Link to post Share on other sites
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