Mango88 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I am seeing someone who i have literally only known for a couple of weeks.We met through internet dating,exchanged messages over about a week then met for the first time a week ago.We got on really well and have been speaking and meeting up alot since. He has been suggesting about me meeting his son (who is 6) and i am in two minds what to think about this.We are pretty much behaving like we are in a relationship already (things have progressed fast) although we have not actually confirmed this verbally. One reason why the meeting is on the cards so soon is because it is a distance relationship.We have both had time off work lately which has been convenient but in general the only time i will really be able to see him is friday nights/weekends (when his little boy is there) From my point of view it would be good to meet his child sooner rather than later as i do not have my own children yet and have not been in a relationship with someone who does before, so not sure how it will go and what to expect. However i care a lot about the welfare of the little boy....i work with children and know how important consistency and security is for them.Although his dad says he likes meeting new people (he is obviously used to this as both his parents have had several long term relationships since they split when he was a baby) i do not know if i should be staying at his house at weekends when me and his dad have only just started seeing each other.I have also heard he has been having behavioural problems at school and am just concerned that something like me 'butting in' on his time with his dad might not help things there. Opinions please?? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 IMO, I do think a couple weeks is too soon. I suggest having a serious talk about your relationship (I.e. intentions, long term....etc) before meeting his son. That should give you a better idea about where you stand and if this is routine practice for him to introduce his "new friends" to his son. I have a son and wouldn't consider introducing him to a new guy for a couple months.....at least. I've made the mistake of rushing this in the past, so I speak from experience and lessons learned. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 WAY too soon. Would you be spending the night over these weekends when the boy is there?! I dated a guy with a kid once (briefly) and he introduced me to her sooo early on and invited me to sleep over when he had her, I was so turned off. I think it's one thing if you like join them for a public outing as "dad's friend" but to invite you into the home as a romantic partner being introduced to his kid...it's too soon. I mean realistically the kid is gonna meet lots of people his dad knows, friends and coworkers etc, but the vibe of a "girlfriend" is different and kids are perceptive. It's weird to subject your kid to you and a revolving door of girlfriends. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I'm no pro but if I were I'd say not until you have gone through four seasons with each other because that's a good determination of the health of your relationship. So a year. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I am seeing someone who i have literally only known for a couple of weeks.We met through internet dating,exchanged messages over about a week then met for the first time a week ago.We got on really well and have been speaking and meeting up alot since. He has been suggesting about me meeting his son (who is 6) That is the sign of a mentally unbalanced man. DO NOT DO IT! In an ADULT, HEALTHY man, there is NO REASON for you to meet his kid before youve been dating at least 6 months. Anything before that means that YOU are a FIX to his mental problems. Link to post Share on other sites
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