RedRobin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 (edited) Once again, you are blaming the men for YOUR lies, YOUR dishonesty, and YOUR deceit. We don't care about the number itself, we care about your willingness to share with us. If you can't trust us enough to tell us BASIC ice breaking information such as "whats your name, how old are you, and what do you do" Then how are we supposed to trust you with our hearts exactly? And I see my sarcasm in my last post completely blew over your heads, showing just how hypocritical your defenses sound. See how your implying its okay for a woman to lie, but not a man? You still have not explained that one yet. blah blah blah... ... bring the paystub and the credit report to the date... now that's sharing!! wha?! Is that too scary? We all know many men don't share jack sh*t when it comes to their hearts... and no amount of 'sharing' on her part makes any diddly dink difference whatsoever... and I totally call BS on guys not caring about the number... hell, the first thing his friends ask him when he meets someone new is "how old is she?"... and the circle-jerking c*ck fights begin... ... now you are just insulting my intelligence... Edited February 20, 2013 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 blah blah blah... ... bring the paystub and the credit report to the date... now that's sharing!! wha?! Is that too scary? We all know many men don't share jack sh*t when it comes to their hearts... and no amount of 'sharing' on her part makes any diddly dink difference whatsoever... and I totally call BS on guys not caring about the number... hell, the first thing his friends ask him when he meets someone new is "how old is she?"... and the circle-jerking c*ck fights begin... ... now you are just insulting my intelligence... Who cares about his friends? Irrelevant to the topic at hand. Thank you for showing me this double standard women have. Ill be sure to throw it in my red flag checklist. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 .. I meant... it doesn't require you offer your age. Get him to state his age preferences (if he has them) and dating habits. If he won't, then don't date him. So.............................. my brain is exploding. Ask a woman her age = she refuses to tell you = thats perfectly ok. Ask a man his age preferences = he wont tell you = leave him. the very definition of hypocrite. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Besides, If a man tells you he wants marriage and kids, and then he ends up not having them WITH YOU, you will call him a liar. Even though he didn't actually lie to you, he just didn't pick you. That doesn't make him a liar. Maybe some women would, but I wouldn't. I would end the relationship as soon as it became obvious to me that we weren't headed on that path. I'd expect him to do the same thing, not string me along until he could monkey-branch. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 So.............................. my brain is exploding. Ask a woman her age = she refuses to tell you = thats perfectly ok. Ask a man his age preferences = he wont tell you = leave him. the very definition of hypocrite. No, you don't have to stick around if you don't want to. Never said that. Just suggesting there are other ways to see if you are compatible... and reminding the ladies that there are other ways for them too ... just another thing the ladies can add to their dating repertoire, should they be so inclined... Ok... Class over... gotta run!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Yes, the things that many men care about are insignificant when it comes to the things make relationships last. Absolutely. Deal with it. ... and since most men aren't in it for the long haul with any woman, I see no point of barfing up my life to every dude who comes along for the sake of his curiosity. Well at least you didn't say men or all me, that's something i guess......... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Well at least you didn't say men or all me, that's something i guess......... Apparently our opinions are insignificant. Nothing says I love you like invalidated feelings lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HKcolon Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 My first question on this site was asking whether I should pretend I'm older than my actual age. I like older men, but don't want to attract a pervert who only likes young girls. Also, I like being told I look 'young for my age' He! Women who pretend to be younger than their age or won't share in my experience do so because they feel they haven't achieved something by a certain 'expected' age (ie. marriage, kids) so feel ashamed. Some people can be really cruel. They don't want people to think it is because there is something wrong with them. I used to live in Japan and a lot of women over 30 feel old if they aren't married yet. One of my friends is 25 and thinks she is too old to not be married yet. Actually, sometimes I also feel depressed knowing I will probably be unmarried by 25 too~ A lot of men probably say they 'don't know' their own penis size or lie about their salary/height, or take photos in front of fancy cars (not theirs). Society advertises 'fantasy standards', so maybe that is why sites like Facebook thrive more than email in many ways. Men can pretend they have 12 inch penises and 7 figure salaries with DD girlfriends and that their dog (and actual girlfriend) doesn't actually prefer their brother. Women can pretend they have are really thin with camera angles, and large chested with fancy bras. They have 1000 FB friends (popular), and only 'like' Chanel. I think if she doesn't tell you her name once you become closer, maybe she is too immature though. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 My first question on this site was asking whether I should pretend I'm older than my actual age. I like older men, but don't want to attract a pervert who only likes young girls. Also, I like being told I look 'young for my age' He! If you do, then let us know how it goes... I've never seen a guy get pissed if he found out a woman he was attracted to was younger than he thought (as long as she is older than 18). I've thought about telling guys I'm older than I am just to see their reaction. Especially the ones I think are close to my own age. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Wouldn't you want to know? I'd be more likely to ask "does this dress make me look cheap?"....and I'd want to know the truth! I never ask those sorts of questions. I have very good taste! Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Fine. but when guys ask to see my passport to prove it, and then their jaws hit the floor, I guess that's just me being delusional then. I really give a damn, it makes no difference to me one way or the other. I'm married so I give a phukk. Besides, no matter what i look like, mentally I still feel about 25, if I have to put an age on it. I've met some 30 year-olds with 70-year-old attitudes. I don't think it's "outside" that matters, in most cases..... IMHO, you do look late 30's in that photo! Bravo! Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 I have always approached dating related questions with the "if you are going to ask, you better be prepared to answer yourself" mindset. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 I've never seen a guy get pissed if he found out a woman he was attracted to was younger than he thought (as long as she is older than 18). That is a very good point. A lie is a lie is a lie, according to them. We see how flexible people can be about the truth if it suits them. How many of these outraged moralists have told men to lie to women about their lack of sexual experience? I think the younger people here are the most upset about the age thing because they don't have to lie about their age (yet) so don't understand it. They're the same ones who say "I'll never get botox!" Just give it time... I'm beginning to think I really should date younger men as long as they are employed, instead of older ones. I believe the majority of men who have lost their jobs are over 50. Age discrimination in the work place is a very good reason to lie. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 I think the younger people here are the most upset about the age thing because they don't have to lie about their age (yet) so don't understand it. They're the same ones who say "I'll never get botox!" Just give it time... So what you're saying is you're more likely to lie to get what you want as you get older? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 If I'm 40 now, about how many years until I become a liar? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 If I'm 40 now, about how many years until I become a liar? I should have mentioned that people in relationships and who are married can't understand why anyone would lie about their age to someone of the opposite sex. They don't have to date any more. Smug. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 I should have mentioned that people in relationships and who are married can't understand why anyone would lie about their age to someone of the opposite sex. They don't have to date any more. Smug. Nice dance moves you got there........ Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Is anyone surrprised that the older women advocating lying right at the beginning of a relationship, are the same women who are still single and not helping themselves find someone to settle down with? Id rather no guy out there end up with a woman who believes in double standards when it comes to dishonesty. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Besides, If a man tells you he wants marriage and kids, and then he ends up not having them WITH YOU, you will call him a liar. Even though he didn't actually lie to you, he just didn't pick you. That doesn't make him a liar. I agree with you on that one...that is why when women on this site post "my boyfriend of 4, 5 or 6 years who has a good job wont propose" I tell them to move on... Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Why would anybody want a man who would dismiss them over age anyway? Be truthful and screen the ageists from the get go. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Why would anybody want a man who would dismiss them over age anyway? Be truthful and screen the ageists from the get go. Exactly! Why in the world would you want to be with someone you have to LIE to to get him interested? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 I think women are sensitive about age in general. When I was in elementary school I asked the lady watching us at recess how old she was and she said "old enough to be you mother". I don't see what the big deal is about age, besides most people look their age or older so most aren't going to be able to get away with lying. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 A lie is a lie and I have the right to know someone I'm dating is within my age preference! I don't really have an age preference right now as I don't have enough r exp to know if/when I really want to settle down. When I was 29 I went on a date with a 42 year old. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Why would anybody want a man who would dismiss them over age anyway? Be truthful and screen the ageists from the get go. What's wrong with dismissing someone over their age? I'm 31 and if I was ready to settle down and have kids my max would probably be 33, MABYE 34. I'm not rushing into marriage. I'll date at least 2 years before proposing, be engaged for a year and would like to be married for about a year before trying for a kid. So if it went down that way by the time she had a kid she'd be almost 38, almost 39 if my max was 34. I'd like to have kids (2 at the most) by no later than 40. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 20, 2013 Share Posted February 20, 2013 Is anyone surrprised that the older women advocating lying right at the beginning of a relationship, are the same women who are still single and not helping themselves find someone to settle down with? Id rather no guy out there end up with a woman who believes in double standards when it comes to dishonesty. Is anyone surprised that alot of guys here absolutely HATE the idea that there are other ways to filter them out? I'd rather no woman lets herself get binned by idiots who think they are entitled to pick and choose like some ranch hand at a cattle show... Link to post Share on other sites
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