Imported Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 You still don't get, I don't think you ever will. Telling a truth about your age to person you are dating has absolutely nothing to do with telling your age to a stranger. No, you still don't get it. Here you say No regrets. I don't like liers . But apparently it is OK to be a liar when it is in your favor, for your comfort and rationalized out to be a failing in the other person for even asking. I get it, you don't like "liers", but you got no problems being a liar when it suits you. I don't think you will ever understand your failings here. Rationalize it all you want, you lie when it suits you. If age really doesn't matter than say your age to them. If the question is unprofessional and of no concern to them, than tell them it is unprofessional and of no concern to them to know. But apparently age does matter enough that you are willing to lie about it. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 ... there are people who have a tenuous relationship with respect and consideration, and need to dig into other people's lives for their own interests and no one else. Just because someone has poor communication skills doesn't oblige me to entertain them by answering their questions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 I'm just happy to still be here, ancient broad that I am. It sure beats the alternative! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 If the question is unprofessional and of no concern to them, than tell them it is unprofessional and of no concern to them to know. There are lots of ways to show someone their questions are not welcome without offending someone. I'm betting the poster in question knows for sure the person doesn't believe for a second she is really 25. That is just one way to say "STFU" in a polite way.... especially if she does it with a smile and changes the subject. Even if I felt their questions were unprofessional, I wouldn't handle it that way. I'd smile, and change the subject, or say some ridiculous age that they know isn't true. Same thing I do if/when a guy I'm dating asks how many men I've slept with. I tell them with a wink that I'm a virgin... if that isn't sufficient to end the discussion, then we will have a more indepth discussion focused on their concerns. I may or may not decide to tell them based on what they tell me. Again, Southern roots showing... Link to post Share on other sites
RedHead33 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Thank you RedRobin. You know how to read between lines. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Im so glad I havent met insecure women like this yet. Then again, Im only 26. All I know is that any gal who lies to me or acts all weird about this age thing automatically gets removed from the "potential gf" list. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Im so glad I havent met insecure women like this yet. Then again, Im only 26. All I know is that any gal who lies to me or acts all weird about this age thing automatically gets removed from the "potential gf" list. That's fine... odds are pretty good you were eliminated as a potential BF the minute you asked... So no biggie... Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 That's fine... odds are pretty good you were eliminated as a potential BF the minute you asked... So no biggie... Not really. Because women have asked me, and I have asked them, and then we still go on dates and do our thing. Im not insecure about my age, and neither are the women Ive dated so far. And I dont date liars or women with someone to hide...so do I care if some insecure fraud eliminates me? Lmao, I think not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Not really. Because women have asked me, and I have asked them, and then we still go on dates and do our thing. Im not insecure about my age, and neither are the women Ive dated so far. And I dont date liars or women with someone to hide...so do I care if some insecure fraud eliminates me? Lmao, I think not. okay... as long as we're tossing names around... just know that some people (men or women) might have every reason to think that you are an uncultured doofus for asking... and are not insecure or dishonest in the slightest. Either way, your communication styles don't jive... Simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 You just gota get the last word in don't you Red........................ Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 You just gota get the last word in don't you Red........................ She keeps insisting we are the ones who are wrong about wanting to know about a potential partner. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 okay... as long as we're tossing names around... just know that some people (men or women) might have every reason to think that you are an uncultured doofus for asking... and are not insecure or dishonest in the slightest. Either way, your communication styles don't jive... Simple as that. Yeah...uncultured for being curious about general info that shapes who a person is, and what compatibilities they might have with me. Get over yourself. Again, women have asked me my age, and I have asked them the same, and its never been an issue. Its no different from asking someone where they are from or what they do for a living. This all allows you to figure out how someone fits you and helps form an idea of who they are. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Yeah...uncultured for being curious about general info that shapes who a person is, and what compatibilities they might have with me. Get over yourself. I'm sure Kaylan and I think its pretty uncultured to dance around questions made as an attempt to get to know some one better. I would feel like games were being played and I wouldn't want any part of it. If you are not comfortable with your age, neither am I. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Again, women have asked me my age, and I have asked them the same, and its never been an issue. Discussing age has never been an issue for me, in any context. I'm getting the impression that it may become more of an issue for some people as they grow older (men and women both). I've also concluded that I should maybe start to be offended when people stop asking my age....because at that point they assume I am too old to ask Link to post Share on other sites
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