xxoo Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Some friends of mine...off the boards are telling me to just 'chill out' and go with the flow with her. I think both. She's not completely honest, age is an insecurity of hers, AND you should chill out and go with the flow. If things get serious, insist on knowing who was president when she was born. Until then, eh, who cares. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 And nothing diminishes a woman's beauty more inevitably than age. No matter how totally hot and sexy you are as an 18 year old, and no matter how careful you are taking care of your body over the years, by the time you're 70 very few people are going to think of you as "sexy." Question-- If you meet a woman who looks great at 50, are men projecting out how much longer she'll look good? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Some friends of mine...off the boards are telling me to just 'chill out' and go with the flow with her. You have some friends..... off the board....? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 if you keep pushing she will walk. if you like the way she looks and you get along with her then let her tel you when she feels like it.not sure how old you are but if youre ok with her being early 40's by the way she looks , so whats the problem? age is a number.so she might be another 5 years more than that. so what. leave it be. she will tell you when the time comes. she doesnt feel comfortable about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bodhesatva Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Question-- If you meet a woman who looks great at 50, are men projecting out how much longer she'll look good? I don't, at least. I should say I'm not typical in this regard so I may not speak for all men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RebelWithoutACause Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 There is a huge stigma attached to a woman's age. If a woman is older than, say, 35, society treats her like she might as well curl up in a corner and die. And women allow this to happen. In my opinion, women need to own up to their age and be proud of it. Whether they are 30, 60 or 100. If more women did that we'd be a lot better off. The woman in the OP's post sounds vain and insecure. Not attractive qualities. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Can you really blame her? Women are being told by society from an early age that you lose value as a female the older you grow. My grandma, aunts/uncles, and mom have repeatedly told me so not to reveal my true age and that I should start doing so once I hit my early 20s in order not to have problems with men later in my 30s, 40s etc. Apparently it's a "big shame for a woman to grow older" or "Men don't like that" so I'd "better start early to be safe". They still tell me the same. LOL And I'm only 30 something. I try to refuse but I can't help the hugely unfair brain-washing double standard inflicted on me that women (but not men) are worthless as they age. Women still have a long way to go to escape this... Id rather have an aged woman than a liar. If she will lie about something as stupid as the number of years she has lived what else is she going lie about. I'm not buying your justification to lie right off the bat Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I don't, at least. I should say I'm not typical in this regard so I may not speak for all men. Good to know! I'm 40ish, and my H and one of his friends were talking about age (theirs, their wives'....just one of those "man, we're getting old!" conversations). I feigned worry about my age, and his friend said something like, "Don't worry, you've got another 10 good years" I know he was teasing, but it kind of hit a nerve Link to post Share on other sites
silvermercy Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 OMG! I think people are seriously over-reacting here and going over the top, they could make you lose a possible great match if you take their advice! She obviously has grown up with the mantra "a woman never tells her real age and whoever asks is rude". I have, too! That's still an extremely common occurrence in many parts of the world! I know because I still live with it and it seems I'm much younger than her! So for her, the feeling must be even more intense. Seriously, OP, don't listen to all the nay-sayers who have already branded her as a filthy untrustworthy demented liar. What do they know? How about you give her a chance at least? Then you'll be able to have a more balanced opinion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
crude Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Age correlates strongly to sexiness, and sexiness relates strongly to a woman's options in life. I'm not saying this is fair; it isn't, at all. I'm just explaining what's going on under the surface whether it's fair or not. Women have exactly the same options as men. They can get educated, find a career, and make some money to live on. Instead, they choose a shortcut. I look good, I'll mooch off an idiot who marries me, and get a Triple Rose Hydrating Seaweed Body Treatment at the spa while he works to pay for everything. When you're selling yourself for $$$, then looks become a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) On your next date, insist on showing each other your ID's... Also make sure you bring a recent pay stub as proof of income and a tape measure (to measure your height) and volunteer to show it to her before you ask for her ID... While you are at it... bring a credit report and copies of recent STD tests. Anyway, she isn't lying. She told you she is older than what she posted on her profile. Sounds like you are the one who is bent out of shape about it... or like one of the other posters here... need to 'bin' her into the FWB or f*ck-buddy category based on what age she tells you. ... she is wise to gauge your reaction to this and how hard you press. If you come across as a guy who is obsessed with age or a 'binner', then she'd be correct in avoiding you. It would be hilarious if she was lying about lying about her age and wanted to see how anxious you got about not knowing... Great A-hole test if you ask me. You'll be lucky if you get another date with her. Edited February 16, 2013 by RedRobin 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NYC-BigKat Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Can you really blame her? Women are being told by society from an early age that you lose value as a female the older you grow. My grandma, aunts/uncles, and mom have repeatedly told me so not to reveal my true age and that I should start doing so once I hit my early 20s in order not to have problems with men later in my 30s, 40s etc. Apparently it's a "big shame for a woman to grow older" or "Men don't like that" so I'd "better start early to be safe". They still tell me the same. LOL And I'm only 30 something. I try to refuse but I can't help the hugely unfair brain-washing double standard inflicted on me that women (but not men) are worthless as they age. Women still have a long way to go to escape this... Um...dont know if this is true 'cause I do see young guys with older girls & stuff & my uncle is 40+ & dates both young, same age, & older & my friend is the same & is dating a girl 4 years older than him but he's only 25 so its not a big deal. I think its a big deal when the woman loses her looks then guys start to lose attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 They all think they look younger than they are. "I'm late 30's, but look mid 20's. All the under 30 guys and even early 20s, sometimes even 18 year old guys keep hitting on me......tee-hee". Its because they want to stick their cocks in one or more of your holes and they heard old women are easy for sex. They told you you look young and they thought you were @ their age? LOL OK, maybe a little tiny bit of truth. You probably do "look good for your age".......your age....they can guess it more accurately than they pretend. No one is really fooled. But the play will be on that, because you want to believe it so it will be easy to affirm it for you. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) I think it would be a great experiment to have women start lying about being older... not a bunch older... maybe 5+ years... then see how the guys manage. The ones who don't want kids, that is. If the guys think you are 'hot' but try to treat you like FWB material because of your (faux older) age, then you've successfully outed the little dork. If he treats you respectfully, then after some time you can tell him your real age... much like people who are wealthy conceal their true wealth from those they don't know well. If he treats you like cr*p and a consolation prize because of the age he thinks you are, then its not like he's insulted you. You are just getting some insight into his character and seeing how he treats women he thinks are older than him... which would be a really good test to see how he'd treat you once you really DO get older... Edited February 16, 2013 by RedRobin 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I think it would be a great experiment to have women start lying about being older... not a bunch older... maybe 5+ years... then see how the guys manage. The ones who don't want kids, that is. If the guys think you are 'hot' but try to treat you like FWB material because of your (faux older) age, then you've successfully outed the little dork. If he treats you respectfully, then after some time you can tell him your real age... much like people who are wealthy conceal their true wealth from those they don't know well. If he treats you like cr*p and a consolation prize because of the age he thinks you are, then its not like he's insulted you. You are just getting some insight into his character and seeing how he treats women he thinks are older than him... which would be a really good test to see how he'd treat you once you really DO get older... Being a liar to gain insight into someone else's character. Women logic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I know a lot of women are touchy about their age, especially if they are over 30 and single. My older sister has been 29 for over 10 years now. Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I think it would be a great experiment to have women start lying about being older... not a bunch older... maybe 5+ years... then see how the guys manage. The ones who don't want kids, that is. If the guys think you are 'hot' but try to treat you like FWB material because of your (faux older) age, then you've successfully outed the little dork. If he treats you respectfully, then after some time you can tell him your real age... much like people who are wealthy conceal their true wealth from those they don't know well. If he treats you like cr*p and a consolation prize because of the age he thinks you are, then its not like he's insulted you. You are just getting some insight into his character and seeing how he treats women he thinks are older than him... which would be a really good test to see how he'd treat you once you really DO get older... Here's a novel idea. Just tell the freakin truth. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
e40 Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 She obviously has grown up with the mantra "a woman never tells her real age and whoever asks is rude". I have, too! When does they lying end? Should I lie about my income or where I live? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I can't imagine lying about my age to anyone. Why? If you don't like it, that's your problem. I don't care too much about age, but I'd be concerned if a guy lied to me about his. I'm 36, and if anyone doesn't want to be with me because of my age, I'm not offended. Why in the world would I pretend to be something other than what I am? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 (edited) Here's a novel idea. Just tell the freakin truth. Here's a novel idea. Stop suggesting that men treat women as disposable or good for 'one thing' because she might be a few years older than him. I think it's brilliant. Great way to fish out the losers.... you just don't like it because it might actually WORK. Edited February 16, 2013 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Being a liar to gain insight into someone else's character. Women logic. Being a liar to get laid.... Man logic... Pushing for information in order to 'bin' women... more man logic. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 When does they lying end? Should I lie about my income or where I live? Only to assess their character. After you determine its OK to tell the truth, then and only then do you actually start telling the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Being a liar to get laid.... Man logic... Pushing for information in order to 'bin' women... more man logic. I don't lie. I don't tell people on these forums to lie. You did that. Not me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I don't lie. I don't tell people on these forums to lie. You did that. Not me. A woman lying and saying she is older than she is (as long as she is older than 18, that is) hurts noone... just as a man (or woman) lying about being poor hurts noone. Each is protecting their real assets from conniving SOB's... The OP is not 'owed' an answer about her real age. Just like she would not necessarily be 'owed' an answer about his income. She said she was older than her profile... and sounds like she did so before going on a date. She hasn't lied. If that's not sufficient, then he is welcome to walk. Yes, it was me who suggested that women lie about being older to fish out the 'binners'. Just like a rich man would be wise to conceal his wealth to fish out the gold diggers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 Here's a novel idea. Stop suggesting that men treat women as disposable or good for 'one thing' because she might be a few years older than him. I think it's brilliant. Great way to fish out the losers.... you just don't like it because it might actually WORK. Here's a novel idea. Just tell the freakin truth. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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